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Do or Don’t: Two Duvets on One Bed

Two duvets on one bed, Scandinavian style

After seven years of marriage, Alex and I still fight over the covers. So, my eyes popped last night when…

…while reading blogs on my sofa, I stumbled upon a post about how some Swiss couples prefer two small duvets on one bed. Have you ever heard of that? Have you tried it?

Apparently, two duvets make sleeping really comfortable. You don’t have to play tug-of-war with the covers; you can roll around; you can stick a foot out each side, if you’d like!

After going down a rabbit hole online, I saw that people in many countries — including Germany, Austria, Sweden, Denmark, Switzerland, Iceland, Norway and Finland — like having two duvets on one bed. And they say that if you try it, you’ll never go back. “We slept like babies,” says Kate. “I got the most sound sleep,” says Amanda. “It has made my life better,” says Rebecca.

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Thoughts? Would you try it?

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(Photos from Homedit, HomeInspiration and Coco Lapine Design, via Kate.)

  1. We have a king size duvet for our queen size bed and it definitely solves the same problems—especially because our dog likes to sleep in the middle of the bed and that causes the sides to pop up on a smaller duvet. We move around the country and are very minimal with our things, so I don’t think we’d consider having two, but the larger duvet definitely has granted many more sound sleeping nights than a smaller one did.

    I remember growing up my parents slept under a blanket with a duvet on top. The duvet was only on my mom’s side, so she could stay extra warm, my dad wouldn’t get too hot and they wouldn’t fight over the covers.

  2. Jill says...

    Just got back from travelling in Germany and it definitely was two-duvets to a bed more than not! Though we’ve learned to sleep peacefully with just one, the 2 duvets is so good (plus, 2-duveting it will always remind us of our travels ;).

  3. Haley says...

    We never sleep with the same blanket unless we’re visiting somewhere with just one! I get a queen size & he gets a twin (I lucked out! ha!) so i can make the bed without it looking too awkward (queen normal, twin across the end). I am debating getting 2 twins though, just for simplicity. I do not like sharing.

  4. Anne E says...

    We have done this since we first started dating! It has saved us MANY mornings of arguing over who stole the covers from whom!

  5. Jenna says...

    YES YES YES. My boyfriend and I do it a bit differently: we make the bed with his queen-sized duvet and then fold my queen-sized duvet at the foot of the bed as a throw. When we go to sleep, we shift his over and I pull mine up. Aesthetically this looks a bit better than two side-by-side, and we also have different preferences on duvet (mine is jersey and his is linen). I’ve never been able to sleep well when sharing a blanket.

  6. Sophie says...

    From a Germans perspective, it’s kind of amusing to read about the “two duvets thing” … because it’s the most common thing on earth here :)
    No one even thinks about one or two, it’s always two.

    • lol and meanwhile, for me in the States, I’m having a major aha! moment. Never heard of it or would have thought of it! cool differences :)

  7. Julie says...

    I can’t believe I never thought of this! My love is always hot, I’m always cold. We live in Quebec and he likes a warm duvet in the winter but a very light quilt in the summer, and I miss my warm duvet all summer long, because I would snugg under warm covers even on hot summer nights.

    So thanks for this. We just need to go shopping now!

  8. AT says...

    We use a kingsize duvet on our queen size bed, and that has solved our fighting for the blanket problems.

    • That’s what we do too.

    • Robin says...

      Same! I love it.

  9. Rachael says...

    my husband and I started using separate bedding when we began cosleeping with our infant. 4 years later I will never go back.

  10. My husband is Swiss (I’m Canadian) and we live in the USA. He insisted we use 2 duvets after we got married. It was kind of nice in some ways, but I hated making the bed – it just never looked right to me! Now we have 1 oversized duvet (its an extra large queen for a regular queen bed) and that seems to be working great. I love that I can just throw it over the entire bed and it is ‘made’. One thing we have adopted is not using any top sheets! Its actually really comfy and cozy and super easy to make the bed in the morning!!!

  11. Oh my god, YES! What a brilliant idea! Fighting for a corner of the duvet every night drives me a little bit insane :)

  12. Hanna says...

    In Poland, where I come from, it’s quite popular too. And for me there is no other way. If I am in a place where I have to sleep under one duvet with my husband I never sleep well enough.

  13. Nina says...

    Yes, I always do this when in bed with someone. Two covers or two sheets…for years. When my son sleeps in my bed, he likes to wiggle under MY cover and throw his leg over me…and then ball my cover down below his body in the most annoying, I can’t even get a tiny corner of it now so a second something is necessary! always. funny this is a surprise to people.

  14. Carly says...

    My husband is German and luckily we both agree that the whole two duvet thing (many couples even have two separate mattresses pushed together!) is not for us. There’s something about fighting over the covers that I find romantic, even if that’s not always the case, but to each their own!

  15. Julie says...

    My husband and I have been doing this since the week we got married, three years ago! I sleep with a duvet of my own (well, me and the dog share it), and he sleeps with a light sheet on the other side of the bed. Not only is it much more comfortable not to have to share—he sleeps very hot, even in the dead of winter, and I’m always freezing. It’s really been the perfect solution. Although I’ll say, anyone in my family or his who finds out about this think it’s TERRIBLY unromantic!

  16. Oh yeah!!! We are now married and have been together over six years, and, about two months into the relationship, me stealing the covers in the middle of the night stopped being cute and endearing.

    We have used completely separate covers ever since. (And we’re in the U.S.) We ask for extra blankets in hotels. Would never go back to sharing :)

  17. Camilla says...

    It is hilarious to read all the comments and realize the big gap between Northern Europe and the US in this small but important issue. In Sweden the standard is to have two duvets and, as someone from Norway also commented, it is also common to have thicker duvets during cold winters and a lighter duvet during summer period. This way the “I’m hot/I’m cold” problem is easily eliminated. I love travel to the US but hate that I always need to share a too small duvet at a hotel.

  18. It’s the only way we’ve stayed together. I simply do not share blankets with anyone.

    Even my toddler.

    I am unable to, or so my partner says.

  19. Alice Quin says...

    Do! I have never tried this but I love the concept of this! Anything that makes sleep easier right? Sometimes I think it’s crazy that people even share beds!

  20. Joy says...

    My husband and I have had separate duvets for almost 20 years. He couldn’t take how hot I ran at night, and how I always ended up stealing the duet by accident. Now when we go away on vacation and there’s only one duvet on the bed, I think it’s strange.

  21. Lisa says...

    My husband and I figured this out only a few months into our marriage! He gets too hot, I’m always cold so I have a twin duvet on my side and he just uses the blanket. Problem solved!

  22. Sonja says...

    Just got back from a trip to Norway and we were surprised when every bed we came across (Airbnb/hotel) was made with 2 duvets. It DID make for a sound night’s sleep, but it also looked real awkward when the bed was made.

  23. Korin B. says...

    Yes and yes. I’ve been sleeping with my own covers since we first moved in together. We are both burrito sleepers. We totally snuggle when we want to but for sleeping two covers is the best.

  24. karina says...

    I grew up in Germany and yes, everyone uses two duvets on a double bed. I now live in England and I quite like just having one big duvet to share with my boyfriend. Maybe we are an exception?

    Re the question about the duvet bunching up in one corner. I found the best solution to this is to stitch in two ribbons at the corners on the inside of the duvet cover and when you put the duvet in, the ribbons are tied around the corners of the duvet. It’s perfect!

    • Lillian says...

      I am going to do this, it’s something that currently drives me crazy – thank you so much!

  25. We noticed this when we moved to Denmark a few months ago! Simon and I now each have separate duvets and I no longer wake to his complaining about my stealing the covers! Go figure! xx from Copenhagen

  26. Paula says...

    I am Brazilian living in Finland and I love the two duvets thing! It makes life so much easier, I actually don’t understand how Brazilians haven’t thought about that yet. I recommend :)

  27. BDubs says...

    YES! Best advice we got before getting married was two twin top sheets and two twin quilts so nobody gets shorted.

  28. Molly says...

    This is such a great post! My partner of 8 years and I have this “fight” on a weekly basis. I like the sheets to be tucked in and my boyfriend cannot in anyway have any sheet tucked in. Soooooo it makes things difficult to say the least. One of us ends up being unhappy. This is the best solution.

  29. Meredith says...

    We’ve always had separate blankets, and it is AMAZING! So much better sleep than sharing, but you get the closeness of sharing a bed together.

  30. Megan says...

    A major, major DO. Changed me and my husband’s whole sleep dynamic for the better, hands down.

  31. My husband finds the duvet too hot, so after much searching and testing, he purchased a Martha Stewart twin size flannel sheet and sleeps under that. I was quickly seduced by the light weight, the coziness, the utter sleep inducing qualities of this little sheet! Next chance I get, I’m going to purchase a second twin size flannel sheet so we can stop discussing who will get to sleep under “Flannigan”.

  32. Maia says...

    Absolutely loved this find when I took a trip to Germany with my ex and stayed at his mom’s house. Revolutionary.

  33. Kerry says...

    After a trip to Europe where we slept in beds with two duvets, we switched over this year at home. It’s great because my husband who always overheats got a lighter duvet and mine is a little heavier. Definitely helps us to get along overnight :)

  34. We do not use two duvets on our bed, but do have two duvet for our guest bed, which is a trick we stumbled upon while living in Switzerland. Now you have me wondering why we never transitioned to doing that on our own bed too. Probably laziness, and not wanting to spend money on two duvets. :)

  35. Katie says...

    I read about this concept several years ago. I got sick and tired of fighting over covers (and I’m the one who steals them!) that now we each have our own separate duvet. We love it.

  36. Amy says...

    YES! One of the keys to a happy marriage bed IMO. We’ve used two quilts now for almost ten years! My husband initially balked at the idea, but I sleep hot (so I use a linen quilt) and Husband sleeps cold (so he uses a heavier quilt) and we both sleep SO much better this way!

  37. Stephanie says...

    At our house we use two large duvets, one laid out regular and one folded neatly at the bottom. When I wake up cold with no covers I simply reach down pull the folded up one over me. No tug of war and no more waking up. Best of both worlds.

  38. Julia says...

    I’m a German living in Switzerland and yes: sleeping with my own duvet is what I’ve known since my childhood. And with my husband it wouldn’t be possible otherwise since I hate being too warm during the night while he prefers sweating under his duvet, so I’m using a far lighter one than him.

  39. Johanna says...

    Swedish. Yep. Way to go.

  40. sarah says...

    it’s very popular in European hotels!

  41. Gabriella says...

    Yes! Hate tussling over the duvet…

  42. Definitely keeping this in mind for the future. Right now our bedroom is HOT all the time so we both end up out of the covers or just under the sheet more often than not, but we did have some tugging wars back when we had a house with a cooler bedroom.

    I like the idea of getting the duvet one size bigger than the bed – seems to be the best of both worlds!

  43. We have lived in Switzerland for nine years now and I will attest, two duvets is quite normal here. What an excellent idea! Give it a whirl, though I have to be honest, we still sleep with one.

  44. My husband overheats at night while I’m always cold so I use our big comforter while he sleeps with his own small blanket he keeps on the side of the bed.

    • France says...

      Same here in Belgium ;-)

  45. Lindsey says...

    Our pre-marital counselor actually recommended this haha! I approach most things in life with balance, and this was no different. We cuddle for a bit before falling asleep and then it’s no trouble rolling over to our own sides and comforters when ready. Let’s be honest – your feet can still find your honey’s whether it’s fighting one tangled comforter or two. I’m PRO! :)

  46. Hmm, my immediate answer would be no, and I don’t wish to but as I think a little more about the covers thief with whom I live…..

    I’d do a think blanket or coverlet over the top to keep it looking neater.

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  47. Nathalie says...

    When I first moved to Germany I found two duvets “unromantic” but relented a few years later because it really is so much more comfortable. When I sleep somewhere with a top sheet it drives me crazy and I have to kick it out to free my feet. However I don’t like two mattresses in one bed frame – I much prefer one large mattress.

  48. My best friend did this with her ex-boyfriend because she liked to cocoon herself :)

  49. LG says...

    My husband and I never use the same blanket! It started less over a battle for the covers and more because we like very different sleeping temperatures – he’s always too hot, I’m always too cold. I had never thought about making the bed up quite like that, though. It’s actually an adorable look with the 2 fluffy comforters.

  50. Emma says...

    OMG I didn’t know this was even a thing. My Husband and I have been doing it for a decade and the only way we can sleep together.

  51. M says...

    Noooo! I have tried this on holiday several times in Germany and South Tyrol (Italy). Fine for sleeping. Terrible for cuddling the next morning (or sex). Or is it just me who would struggle to juggle TWO duvets (and the gap in the middle) while in the throws of passion, in the depths of winter in a draughty Victorian flat…no fun!

  52. Absolutely, it’s great to have ones own blanket! Here in Germany it’s very common, more than sharing one duvet. My husband prefers a warmer blanket than I and I think you are completely right about the feet-sticking-out advantage!

  53. When my now husband and I first moved in together while dating I thought he was crazy for suggesting we use two separate comforters. After discussing it more and having my husband point out that two blankets does not mean we love each other less, if anything it means we love each other more to want a good night sleep for the other person and after a trial week, I knew it was the right choice for us. We not only got more sleep because we did not have to battle for precious blanket coverage or wake up each time one of us got out of bed but we woke up in noticeably better moods. We no longer made snarky remarks at breakfast calling each other out for hogging the blanket.

    It may seem weird, even my sister-in-law balks at the thought of two blankets to this day, the decision has been a great one for us. I highly suggest anyone try it out for at least a week. There is something so pleasing to be able to cocoon yourself whenever you want!

  54. M says...

    I am from Germany and every time I visit the US with my husband I have the hardest time falling asleep cause I am not used to having only one huge duvet. I love that we both have our own at home although my husband disagrees – he wants to have one duvet but I am not convinced.

  55. eileen says...

    I’m so glad I’m not the only one. When I did this with my ex-husband 25 years ago, he was SO offended. I felt bad about wanting my own duvet our entire marriage. My last boyfriend was okay with it since he was always so hot and preferred a light sheet anyway. Partners DON’T have to share EVERYTHING.

  56. Amy says...

    My ex-boyfriend and I definitely slept with two blankets. Always. I think it has to do with couples’ sleeping patterns. Some folks sleep close together and some farther apart.

  57. Mac says...

    Currently dog sitting for a French couple with two duvets! I was puzzled until we slept the first night in the bed, then was like, ooooh. My husband likes it for all the reasons I dislike it–I like to cozy up to him at night, he doesn’t like the extra body heat. The two duvets make things feel very separate, that’s a good or bad thing depending on the person it seems!

  58. Nina says...

    In Sweden this is the standard. My husband and I are going the other way and has opted for one big duvet. We find it makes us sleep closer which is great for many reasons ;), not only the cold winter nights. Actually buying duvet covers for a large double duvet is harder then buying for small single ones.

  59. Tamsen says...

    We each have our own top sheet and blankets and it’s wonderful, especially since my husband likes his covers tucked in at the foot and I don’t.

  60. Erica says...

    Spending 3 years in Sweden finally converted me and it’s so much better. I’ve also gotten rid of the top sheet.

  61. Liz says...

    Hell yes. My husband and I have ALWAYS used two blankets. And there’s no fighting over whose is whose since I like a crisp, white, cotton duvet and he lives a sweaty, polyester, fuzzy blankets that he got in Mexico.

  62. Carrie says...

    My husband and I do awesome under one duvet, we sleep against each other so it just works really well!

  63. Kelley says...

    My husband and I started using two duvets this past year and it has been a total game changer, we love it!!

  64. Neda says...

    YES! I’m American, my husband is German and we’ve done this since we got married (11 years ago). It’s genius.

  65. Heidi says...

    Yup! My husband is a hot sleeper, and I’m a cold sleeper. He takes the top sheet and I take the comforter. When we make the bed, we just re-layer everything. Bliss!

  66. Ismah says...

    I’m German and I think it’s weird to only have one duvet…

  67. Mary says...

    I have always done this. I adopted this when I was single and would share my bed with different people. My boyfriend got used to it pretty quickly since I am the blanket thief.

  68. Samantha says...

    I’m just dying for a way to make one duvet cover stay in place and not get all bunched up and out of place inside the cover! I can’t imagine having to put two on every week! AH! But sleep-wise this sounds so nice!!

    • Heather says...

      Try a Real Simple “Clip N Zip” duvet cover. It zips on three sides and has clips to hold your duvet in place inside the cover. I got one for a steal from Bed Bath and Beyond. I actually haven’t used the clips yet because I removed them for the wash and was too lazy to tie them back in. (The corner ties are working fine for me.) But zipper goes around three side of the duvet, making is so easy to get the duvet back into the cover after washing.
      If I wasn’t so in love with my cloud like duvet, I’d consider switching to two smaller ones.

  69. calli says...

    my fiance and I do this, and it’s the best sleeping decision we’ve ever made! I’m (hilariously) unable to keep a consistent body temp and will throw off and pull on covers throughout the night. he prefers a lighter blanket to a duvet anyway.

    for those asking how we make the bed: his blanket goes on top and we just pull our separate directions at bedtime.

    • Kristin says...

      Gosh, I’m glad you find it hilarious that you can’t keep a consistent body temp. It drives me crazy! Maybe I need to change my attitude and look for the humor in it!

  70. Ingvild says...

    I’m norwegian and this is the way people do it. We also have different feather duvets for different seasons, right now a really light summer version. Don’t you have that? Then if one is warmer than the other, you have a different thickness. And how else do you co-sleep with a baby? If the baby is in the middle you would need two separate duvets, no?

  71. Barbara says...

    We do this since we got married 12 years ago. We not only use two duvets, but two big duvets (king size, like our bed). It’s excellent!

  72. Heather says...

    I really appreciate the feel of skin on skin during the night, even if it’s a bit too warm for me at times. I would sincerely miss the pretzel-esque entwined arms and legs!

  73. H says...

    Two duvets all the way baby! I like more weight to my blankets and my dear hubby sweats all night long. So two separate duvets works wonders!

  74. My husband and I inadvertently do this already. He’s always hot and I’m always cold, so we split up the covers every night. He takes the sheet and I take the duvet cover. :)

  75. I recently moved to Austria and my husband and I couldn’t believe we didn’t do this sooner, it’s fantastic! I used to always take all the blankets, it’s perfect now. I highly recommend.

  76. jill z says...

    When I moved in with my fiance a few months ago, the thing we were most worried about was sharing the queen size bed. He sleeps with the sheets over his head, and I move a lot in my sleep — meaning I would nearly decapitate him by pulling the sheets multiple times a night! Not an ideal situation. I suddenly had the idea to put two top sheets on the bed, one for each of us, and it has been no less than life altering. We’ll never go back!

  77. Ana says...

    Hi, I’m from Austria. When we got married, we had separate comforters and separate mattresses and I hated it. We like to have body contact and to cuddle even in the middle of the night, so I always ended up lying on the gap between the matresses and uncovered. So we bought a smaller bed with one mattress and one huge comforter and it’s great!

  78. Ellen says...

    Wait, you don’t use two duvets in the US? But why, why ever not?
    I love this blog. So many random pieces of information disclosing cultural differences. Too funny.

    “Nobody” uses a double duvet here in Norway. Only reason I can think of is if someone is at the very beginning of their relationship and mistakenly think sharing a duvet is romantic…

  79. Sarah M. says...

    My boyfriend’s parents are Swedish-American and Danish-American, and so they’ve always had two duvets. And when we stay in their vacation home… BEST SLEEP EVER. My boyfriend and I are both the “limbs outside the covers” type people, so two duvets= all limbs can breathe! Especially helpful since my boyfriend, like most men, is a veritable heater, and no one wants to be trapped under the same duvet with that on a summer night :)

  80. Natalie says...

    My husband and I started doing this this summer and it’s been so much better for us both, at least sleeping-wise. He likes to sleep with a pillow or blanket over his face (weirdo :)) and I tend to get too hot and sweaty, which is such a gross feeling when you wake up. Sleeping with two separate blankets has solved that problem, but it makes for a very messy-looking bed and we don’t cuddle as much :(.

  81. jeannie says...

    Yes! We do this and love it!

  82. Justine Clark says...

    I LOVE this idea. Lately I’ve been bringing an extra blanket to bed which helps me sleep; perhaps just need to go for two duvets! Also, we never use top sheets, just the duvet cover. I hate top sheets – can’t stand feeling like my feet are trapped.

  83. One of the best things about being married, sleeping with a man each night, was in winter, I could put my cold feet on him and we both huddled under the duvet.
    I am old fashioned, alone or with someone, I like one honkin big duvet on the bed.

    • Carrie says...

      I totally agree! I love bedtime snuggled under our big blanket!

  84. Kati says...

    I’m from Germany, so for me this is the normal set up. I love it, because I really like to snuggle myself up in my blanket, which would be difficult if my husband and I had to share a duvet. However, we always make “foot contact” before we fall asleep, which means that my husband sticks one of his legs under my cover to cuddle :)

  85. Erica H. says...

    Holy cow! Best. Idea. Ever.

  86. Holly says...

    Oh yes! We are notorious for sleeping on top of the covers. The bed is always made because my husband and I each have our own big blanket and we we don’t have to share. On really cold nights I’ll shove my feet under his blanket too. Totally works for us!

  87. Nikoletta says...

    Where I live (Hungary), it is the standard setup. :) Oddly, the first time I saw a double duvet was at Ikea about 20yrs ago. :)

  88. Alyce says...

    All of my couple friends who live in Europe do it. Theoretically, it would be perfect for me and my husband, because he runs cold at nights and likes to sleep warm, and I’m the polar opposite. But we tried multiple weights of down duvets and we consistently woke up hot sweaty messes. (Can someone explain why people love duvets?? Do they not have this problem??) Aside from that, the double duvets would have had to have solved all of our night time sleeping problems for us to keep them. We are compulsively neat, and double duvets just look messy, and it would have driven us crazy.

  89. Jen Hendrick says...

    Do! Do! Do! My husband and I discovered this practice when we were on vacation in Germany over 10 years ago and we love it. I really like the idea of using two queen duvets instead of two twins. It can be hard to make the bed so it looks nice using the two twins sometimes.

  90. Tiia says...

    I’m Finnish and while we have one big duvet, it’s very rare here. Most people have two duvets – either way, they are covered up with a bedspread during the day (“päiväpeitto” or “day blanket” in Finnish), so it does not look messy.

  91. Beth says...

    I am an American who lives in Germany with my German husband. We sleep with one comforter, not two. I’m always freezing when I don’t share a comforter. I think it’s so much cozier and more romantic to share. My husband agrees with me. The little twin sized comforters that are the German standard are never big enough. And the crack between the mattresses is disrupting to cuddling. We bought a larger mattress without the crack. We also have an agreement that he doesn’t complain about needing to untuck the top sheet and I don’t complain about needing to tuck it back in at the foot of the bed every day. We don’t steal the covers from each other either…

  92. About a month into our marriage, the husband and I decided that our shared blanket situation was not working out, so instead we got an additional blanket, and there’s been no more arguments about blanket hogging ever since!

  93. alanah says...

    My boyfriend and I have been using two separate blankets for most of our relationship! This is mostly because we’re very different temperatures. Sometimes we sneak under one another’s blankets but it’s nice to know you have your own if you need it.

  94. Melissa says...

    YES! My boyfriend and I did this because i’m always freeeezing when we sleep and he’s always hot. So for our King bed, we have one thin king duvet for him and one thicker one (layered over top when the bed is made) for me! It’s true, once you try it, you can’t ever go back :)

  95. I’ve done this a few times when staying at my in-laws’ house in France. It didn’t bother me, but I didn’t sleep any better either? Also it’s bad for those who like to start out sleeping cuddling (we do this, then usually roll over to separate sides of the bed to go to sleep) as you end up either crammed underneath one duvet or not under either! One thing I would recommend though is two single mattresses zipped together! My parents have these beds – I’m from the UK and I feel like most people here have smaller beds which I hate. Super-King all the way!

  96. Ck says...

    After living in Germany our eyes were opened. We totally have 2 separate duvets and it is wonderful.

  97. Barbara says...

    This would be a great idea, but luckily I found my perfect sleeping match! My husband cant sleep under a duvet because he gets warm, so he just likes the sheet. I cant sleep in sheets, so i sleep on top of the sheet, under the duvet. Its a win-win!

  98. Rita says...

    I have done both, as I have lived in countries with two duvets and in countries with one (including my country of origin) and dated guys from both duvet-cultures.
    I am sticking with one due to the extra intimacy bonus (it is just easier to reach out) and (this makes 90% of the real reason I stick with it) because a bed never ever looks good with two duvets unless they are both doubles and are both stretched out on the bed.
    But sometimes we do go get the second one from the couch.

  99. Katherine says...

    I started this in college when the guy I was dating HATED having covers on him. So, I bought a light duvet and a heavy one. Dumped the guy, but over a decade later, I still have keep the habit. Works really well for me and my husband.

  100. Love the idea, but just curious… how do you make the bed with two duvets without it look a little messy?

    • Crosby says...

      We have a king so we use two twin duvets, overlapped slightly in the middle. It looks cohesive, but not perfect. You have to embrace a little “lived in feel”, but I think all beds should look a little lived in, because they are!

    • Mette says...

      You just straighten them out neatly and put a lovely quilt or blanket on top to cover the bed. Easy peasy.. says the Dane, who hate that hotel beds always have only one duvet. ?

    • that was my immediate thought!

    • Twyla says...

      We have 2 queen sized duvets and I just put one on top of the other.

  101. Aimee says...

    Yup, this is common in Germany and Austria as well. I love it, because my husband and I sleep at two very different temperatures! In my experience in Germany though, the duvet is the only cover they have. It’s a fitted sheet then the duvet. I love how easy it is to make the bed and how every weekend the duvets are hanging out windows to get sunshine!

  102. Crosby says...

    American here. We began doing this early in our relationship and never looked back. It’s hilarious how odd people think it is when they come over and see our bed!

  103. Hillary says...

    I’m from the U.S. and I’ve been doing this from the day my husband and I got married. I didn’t realize it was considered weird? It just seemed way more pragmatic than sharing (especially because both my husband and I sleep curled up in little balls with the blankets pulled close!)

  104. Natasa says...

    I’m from Austria and yes, I could never get back sleeping with one duvet (though my hubby could:) I was always fighting for my part of duvet, was awake at least two times at nicht because of that. Since we habe two duvets we can also control when we use summer and winter duvets. Anyways I recommend going for two.

  105. Alex says...

    My boyfriend and I do this because I am always cold! We have one main duvet that covers the two of us, and then I have my own blanket that covers just me. It’s great and I would recommend it to everyone!

  106. Try it! You’ll never go back. The keys to a successful marriage are separate duvets, separate closets and separate toothpaste tubes. ;) xo

    • 150% YES to the toothbrush tubes. i am a neat freak when it comes to toothpaste and i always (if i could bold and underline this word, i would) squeeze from the back. he, however, squeezes whichever way he wants, which drives me nuts!

  107. Jenny says...

    We share a sheet but have separate duvets. We still have a intimacy of being under the same sheet, but can temperature control for ourselves. Best of both worlds!!

  108. Julia says...

    After getting some of the best sleeps of our partnered life in Germany with this system, I gotta say it’s magical! Our German family friends actually put two twin mattresses in a king size bed frame, a duvet on each, and then cover the whole thing with a king size coverlet so it looks cohesive. My husband has been hounding me for this forever (I’m apparently a real bed hog and that system keeps me in line), but I can’t figure out the bed measurements to get it right here in the USA! If anyone else has any details I would love to hear it!

  109. natasha says...

    We have a kind sized bed and each have our own king sized duvet. Always have, it’s great!

  110. Sil says...

    You don’t use sheets??

    • Martha says...

      very common in Europe to just use duvets with covers and no top sheet!

  111. Kristin says...

    My husband and I recently traveled to Germany and this was the arrangement in all of the German hotels we stayed at (the only hotels that didn’t have two duvets were the American chains we stayed at for the trip bookends). Some went even further and instead of a King, just had two twins pushed together! We’re constantly fighting over the comforter, so this was a dream come true. I think I got the best sleep of my life in Fussen!

    • Elisa says...

      oh really?!
      as a Fuessen native I am happy to hear that!

  112. Sayonada says...

    WHY. DIDN’T. I. THINK. OF. THIS?!

    you have changed my life.

  113. Luisa says...

    I’m German and never had it another way (except for some holidays). We even have 2 single matresses in our bed which allows both of us to have our inidvidual “hardness grade” (?) – way better for our backs. We cover the gap with a thin mattress topper. Paradise! (Especially when the kiddo comes and jumps in during night time.

  114. i used to have my own blanket when i was with an ex. it was not big deal.

    and with my current situation, my husband does hog the blanket but i use baby/spare blanket on my side of the bed, under the main blanket and it’s worked out great.

  115. Brianna says...

    The hotels we stayed at in Germany all had beds with two duvets. In fact, the bed was actually two separate mattresses pushed together. Sharing a bed with my husband who is 6’4″ is normally tricky. He’s always stealing the covers and sleeping in the middle of the bed. But in Germany, he stayed on his half of the bed since there was a big crack down the middle. Best sleep I’ve gotten since we’ve been married!

  116. Allegra says...

    Virtually everyone I know has two duvets if they share the bed with someone. I didn’t realize it was this big of news on that side of the Atlantic but I highly recommend!

  117. It is very tempting. Especially for someone who usually sleeps with two sweatshirts and socks yet gets hot flashes. (Hate to break the bad news to y’all, but it’s possible)

  118. Erin says...

    We are a two duvet household – I’m a blanket tornado and my husband would wake up freezing – it’s changed our lives!

  119. Marion says...

    I’m from Switzerland but live in Canada now! And to be honest, I didn’t even know this was weird until I read your post. My parents have done it for years. My fiance and I don’t but I would also suggest going 1 size up from whatever your bed size is. If you have a queen bed, get a king size comforter. The additional length is really comfortable!!

  120. Hannah Spring says...

    My boyfriend’s sister is in a long-term partnership with a Norwegian man. We stayed at their apartment recently while they were on vacation. We were surprised to see they had two small duvets on their bed! My first reaction was a bit negative… I thought it seemed overly practical and unromantic. But we slept like babies! I’m still not sure if I would do it. Curious to read other people’s comments! Thanks for posting.

  121. K says...

    I hadn’t heard of this yet, but I had just considered getting a king-size duvet for our full-size bed so it would drape over the sides better. But it could just make things worse. Every morning I wake up with no covering, and half of the duvet on my husband’s side of the floor. He of course is perfectly cozy.

  122. We’ve never shared blankets in the 11 years we’ve been together. He’s a toss-and-turner, and I prefer to be as still as the dead, so sharing blankets was never going to work. That, and we both run at different temperatures while we sleep, so even if we did try to share, we’d never agree on what weight of duvet to get!

    Sometimes you gotta sacrifice “normal” for a good night’s sleep!

  123. Jessica says...

    What?? This is mind-blowing. Two duvets sounds so un-cozy to me. I like being able to have ‘one point of contact’ touching my husband’s foot or arm while we sleep. Hmm…so fun to read the comments. Habits are so ingrained!

  124. LOVE this idea!

  125. We discovered this on our honeymoon in Switzerland! They also don’t use flat sheets, which I love, so making the bed is a cinch.

  126. Megan says...

    My parents (mom is German, dad is American) have been married for 33 years, and have always had their own duvets on their queen sized bed. This means that my mom can have a very thin duvet, and my dad can have a heavy, thick duvet, and both sleep comfortably. I can’t imagine sleeping with a partner in any other way, myself!

  127. Stef says...

    Coming from Austria, I haven’t realized before that couples in the States mostly sleep with only one duvet…! Even though I’m big into cuddling and sleeping close to my partner I wouldn’t be able (/willing) to give up on my own personal duvet ;)

  128. San says...

    Yes, in Germany we always have two duvets… nobody can understand that we have these big duvets here in the US and that you have to share (gasp!) the blanket LOL

  129. I have seen this, but did not experience it until a recent stay in Amsterdam. Both apartments we rented had 2 twin duvets on the king beds, and it was quite nice! We haven’t tried back home yet, but it’s a brilliant idea!

  130. HOW can you at all sleep sharing a duvet???

  131. Marcy says...

    I found this to be common even in B&Bs and hotels in Europe. Also having a “king” made of 2 separately made up twins.

  132. *E says...

    LOL that’s so brilliant! Only problem is, if given the option my husband would surely want something super light weight as he’s always hot, and I want like the heaviest feathers around, so they wouldn’t match, which would bug me! I guess we could solve that with matching duvet covers though…

  133. We do this (we’re British but got inspired after visiting Denmark)! Best. Decision. Ever. Seriously, you won’t regret it.

    Liz x
    Distract Me Now Please

  134. Kate says...

    We sleep like that! We have for… Five or six years now?

    It’s wonderful. No more fighting over body temps. And you can still snuggle if you want to!

  135. Lauren says...

    My husband and I started doing this many years ago and it’s a good way to alleviate crankiness over stolen covers. It doesn’t remove intimacy at all!

  136. Hannah says...

    This is the best! We’ve had two duvets since the beginning of the year, after my husband said he slept the best in our Swiss hotel with the same set up. No more fighting over who is hogging the covers or how hot/cold it is.

  137. Maia says...

    Yes!!! We just came back from Iceland and had 2 duvet. It was great! So comfortable, Loved it! Best night sleep!

  138. Ruth says...

    Ha. We are moving to Switzerland (not Swiss) but we’ve been doing this for years! I have suggested it to a number of friends who have had problems either with sharing covers or with different temperature preferences.

  139. Claire says...

    We do this! I definitely recommend it! I’m a total, unashamed blanket thief, this solves any guilt I have over leaving my husband out to freeze. I can hog away :)

  140. this is such an amazing idea that i’m obsessed with it. i love it when you do posts that share customs of other countries, they make my day better and allow me to feel a little more culturally well rounded. i don’t have a significant other now, but this is something i’ll be filing away in my mind for the future.

    x tali
    http://www.stylewithtali.com

  141. Colleen says...

    Two would make me sad. I get king size covers for our less than king sized bed and that works like a charm.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that’s a great idea!

    • Melissa says...

      yup! we have a queen and have a king blanket and it works beautifully.

    • Carol Wayne says...

      That’s what I did….I put king sized covers on our queen bed….big help…

    • Hattie says...

      I do the same! ….but I also keep an extra throw or twin sized blanket on my side since I’m always cold!

    • Kate says...

      Same! We have a California king size comforter and a Queen size bed. Plenty of blanket for each of us! Added bonus of it coming almost the floor when bed is made, which makes it look so much neater/hides my bins of craft supplies nicely :)

  142. Mtn Momma says...

    That’s a brilliant idea. We’ve gone another route, buying a king size duvet for our queen size bed. But the seed is planted, now I want to try this….

  143. Kara says...

    What? Really? The rest of the world sleeps under ONE duvet TOGETHER?
    How are so many people in the rest of america still married??? My mind is blown….
    I am from Germany and I have never heard of having one duvet together… I could never stand that. My boyfriend and I even have different duvets. He feels always to hot during the night and i’m always freezing. So I have a very thick cozy one and he has a thin one. That is totally normal over here. …

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      ha i love your answer!

  144. Twyla says...

    My husband and I have been doing this since day 1 of our marriage! He thought it was a terrible idea at first when I proposed it but he soon realized how brilliant it was and now we can’t go back. When we stay at a hotel and have to share covers – it’s a nightmare. Except we have 2 queen-sized duvets so the bed is easier to make (we just put one on top of the other). You still can snuggle and what not – just when you’re done you can sleep soundly with your own covers in tact the whole night. I seriously think everyone should do this.

  145. Sadie says...

    Holy Cow — Two duvets is the only way to go! My husband and I honeymooned in Switzerland and stayed in a hotel with twin duvets on the bed. It was nothing short of a revelation. He teases me because I was literally online ordering twin sets from Ikea before we even got back home. Having my own duvet totally allows me to “mummy wrap” myself in my own cover to keep my icy feet warm, while the hubs can stretch out and cover only his middle. Plus, having no top sheet makes making the bed a breeze. Now, I even ask for an additional cover when we stay in American hotels!

    • Jennifer in KS says...

      hmmm. no top sheet. Reminds me of some post that was about bedding that incorporated the top sheet with the comforter/quilt/whatever. Of course, with no top sheet you do have to make cleaning the comforter or duvet a priority, I guess. My husband drives me nuts by pulling out the sheet at the foot of the bed so he can keep his foot “free” – one technique in fighting off plantar fasciitis. I keep tucking it in and he keeps pulling it out. hahahahahaha. Maybe I need to do away with that top sheet.

    • Sadie says...

      Jennifer — We’ve got covers on the duvets, so we just toss them in the wash when needed — and have become pros at the pretzel-ing required to get the covers on and off. During the really hot part of the summer, though, we skip the duvets entirely and each use our own top sheet.

    • I’m curious – I’m from the UK and I’ve never used both a top sheet and a duvet, just a duvet cover. So if you use a both do you not change all the sheets every time then? I feel you on the shared sheet – in the summer we both get too hot with a duvet so we switch to just a sheet, and my fiancé pulling out the tucked-in bottom and messing it up drives me crazy!

    • Sadie says...

      Georgina — actually, if I’m using both a top sheet and a duvet, I’ll toss the top and bottom sheets in the wash each time, and just wash the duvet/duvet cover once in a while. Essentially, with the weekly wash, I wash the covers that regularly touch our bodies and wash the others occasionally. Does that make sense?

  146. Madeline says...

    Haha my husband and I have always used two comforters! It’s really nice!

  147. Jennifer says...

    I would do this. The hotel that I got married in has this kind of set up on their beds – I heard that some of our guests didn’t like it which I thought was nuts! I love it. We have a king sized bed and the comforter isn’t nearly wide enough and one of us is always yanking it to their own side.