Anton at Eight Weeks

Oh, that little face. Since I have to juggle Toby and other responsibilities, I haven’t had as much quality one-on-one time with Anton as I had with Toby (aww, the fate of a second child). But yesterday, Anton and I walked over to the water by ourselves and just lay around on blankets together. It was such a sweet hour and just what we needed. I can’t tell you how much I love this little man.
(He’s really starting to develop a look!)

P.S. We’re also trying to figure out how to encourage him to sleep for longer stretches at night. His longest stretch is about three hours. Any tips would be so appreciated! :)

  1. He is too precious! This makes me want to have another sweet baby.

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  3. Whoops- just noticed that you got that idea already. With a link. It’s that good though.

  4. There is a great book called “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child”. I don’t remember the author, but I do remember that it saved our lives with #2.

  5. :) hm what I can recommend you, if you are breastfeeding, so give him breast. if you sleep together, it makes happier and satisfied both,. wearing him in the sling, scarf.:) and if still doesnt help…so ask yourself wheres the problem. always there is first problem with mami:) and after that is kid. just LOVE HIM:) iam sure you do. so love him:) and love yourself more:) and i can recomend you, maybe you know her, the book : Journey – for kids, Brandon Bays.

  6. Anton is adorable! Cluster feeding closer to bedtime and then a “dream feed” at 10pm. Good luck!!

  7. Two words: swaddle blankets. :) (like the velcro kind so they stay put.) Miracle worker. :)

  8. Joanna- you’ve gotten a lot of great advice so far. Since this is your second, I’m assuming your first slept through the night somewhat early and that you are of the school of thought that it’s possible for babies to sleep longer than 3 hr stretches by 8 weeks. (I agree!) My second is 7 weeks old tomorrow and I’ve been anxiously awaiting some longer stretches. He’s been going through the 6 week growth spurt and I’ve been feeding him nonstop. As a result he slept 7-8 hours the past few nights. I guess I would just agree with all the other women who said to cluster feed in the evening. I think it really helps! Also- I’m sure he’s getting closer and closer to longer stretches. Happy feeding!

  9. At night when the baby wakes up…slow, quiet, low light, and no talking. It worked well with my kids.

  10. A tip my in laws in Ireland gave me which I think helps is heating up your babies sleeping area with a hot water bottle before you lay him down. Our daughter slept next to our bed in a bassinet for the first 6 months. Every night we would lay a hot water bottle in her bassinet and I would breast feed her really well, then swap the hot water bottle with her and she would be nice and toasty. Babies love warmth.

  11. A tip my in laws in Ireland gave me which I think helps is heating up your babies sleeping area with a hot water bottle before you lay him down. Our daughter slept next to our bed in a bassinet for the first 6 months. Every night we would lay a hot water bottle in her bassinet and I would breast feed her really well, then swap the hot water bottle with her and she would be nice and toasty. Babies love warmth.

  12. Lots of good advice here; I’m doing a lot of this with my second baby who is now 11 weeks. I’m finding I’m adding to my knowledge with my 1st-born.
    The cluster feeding at the end of the day is helping me a lot right now; she needs to get a certain amount of calories every 24 hours, and the milk at the end of the day is not as copious but is higher in calories/richer. Mostly she has 7 feeds a day, but if at the end of the day she needs more then she gets it. I try to have her down by 8-ish. Then she can make it until 1:30 or 2 am. Then that feed is usually calm and I don’t need to do much to get her back to sleep. And then she makes it until 6 or 7. I figure that is pretty good (I sleep from 9:30 to 1:30 and then from 3 to 6 or 7 and that feels pretty good at this early age). Occasionally if I see how far she can go and not set my clock, she can make it to 3 or a little more. But then it gets hard to settle down for the few hours remaining.
    All the good advice — more feeds in the day, fewer at night; I would add be careful not to allow too much sleep in the day, 2 naps of 2 hours are okay and then some mini naps; as others mentioned, the eat-active-sleep routine is important (and active can be lying on baby’s back, not just tummy). Be careful with carriers, car seats, any kind of thing that restrains the baby’s movements or causes extra naps/sleep because then the baby is not ready for longer sleeps at night. A nurse told me with my first-born that some parents overuse car seats and the baby hardly gets any exercise. Same goes for carriers, slings etc, which are comforting, but can cut into the night time sleep.
    What a beautiful baby, Anton is! He will sleep more as he gains. Congratulations! (fascinated to hear about the baby merlin suit!)

  13. He has his dad’s chin! Sooo adorable!

  14. Well all babies are different as are all parents, etc. We made the super unpopular decision to put our son down on his tummy at 4.5 weeks. Of course I can’t recommend that, etc. Anyway he went from waking up every 90 minutes to once between 2-4am. At some point in the second month (I think, he is 10 months now) I remembered that someone had told me to count to 60 once (or twice) before snatching him up. Babies have short sleep cycles and often cry out but will go right back to sleep if left to themselves. Anyway that was the piece of advice that worked for us once I remembered it. For all those who are judgmental…every baby is different. In our case I felt that good solid sleep was best for everyone all around. My friends generally recommend babywise.

  15. We just had our first baby July 18th. I am using “Moms on Call 0-6 months” basically as my bible right now and they have some great schedules according to the age of your baby. They have tips for soothing, getting them to sleep longer and even an iphone app. Last night, Evie slept for 6 hours for the first time, and she is 6 weeks old. Let’s see if she does it again. She’s been sleeping 4 hour increments for two weeks or so. At the end of the day, I doubt it’s anything I’m doing and just plain LUCK! :P

  16. Hello everybody,

    My name is Lorena and I live in Spain, sleep training is not so popular here, but it really freaks me out how us, mothers need to “methods”, books, peds,… to make our babies sleep as long as WE WANT, no tanking into account their needs or feelings. I believe CIO methods are simply cruel, no matter what age.

    Cannot believe that we need to be told how to raise our children, how to teach to them sleep, eat,… it’s just absurd. Mothers are programmed to raise children we do not need professionals to tell us how to do it, other wise humanity would not have made it this far. We just need to listen to ourselves. We cannot turn raising kids into a “business”.

    All babies, an mammals (I think we have forgotten we are just mammals) need to be fed several times a night, no matter how much they’ve eating during the day, (hypoglycemia is a real problem for babies)and want to sleep near their mother as she is the one that makes them feel safe and sound. It makes me sad that so many of you want to take that right away from your baby just to get some rest, you should have got a pet instead then. If we are not able to fulfill our children’s need of love and affection…there’s something wrong with us.

    You have to love our babies all day and all night, we cannot just love them during the day and desert them at night, it is just cruel.

    All children will eventually sleep al night through eventually, but it takes time… babies wake up during the night because they are programmed to do so for survival not because they want to bother us.

    In my eyes, CIO methods are nothing but torture. It is true they work but they send the wrong message plus they work because arter experimenting so much strees their wise body releases soothing hormones so thay fall sleep. They do not fall sleep because they’ve learned anything ( a baby’s mind is not a rational on like an adult’s one), but because they cannot resist so much cortisol and tachycardia and releases endorphines to end with the stress.

    I know we have ridiculous schedules, working hours, things to do, social life, etc.. but none of this is that baby’s fault, it is just a matter of prioritizing. I think we all knew children need it all from us before we had them, we can just regain time for ourselves by letting thet cry it out, they deserve better than that.

    You may think I am saying all this because i have not suffered lack of sleep, but ny elder daughter didnt sleep though the night untill she was two and my youngest princess is now seven months old, she sleeps a bit better than her sister used to but she wakes up between 4 and 7 times a night, so I know what I am talking about.

    My sulvival uide consists in me workin part time, 4 hours a day, what makes me earn half of my previous wage, in the afternoons. I feel I they are worth it.

    Joanna, good luck with your boys, they are really beautiful, follow your instinc!

  17. What a cutie! While I know many people do not agree with it, we used Babywise and it really worked for us. Even if you choose not to do cry it out, we used the three hour eat play sleep method. For us, it was HUGE getting our baby to stay awake while eating. If we could even keep him awake for 15 minutes after eating, he would take better naps and that was the first step to sleeping through the night. He slept through the night at 11 weeks and now at 19 months, is still a great napper and sleeper. Hope that is helpful!

  18. Anton is so adorable! and Toby is getting so big! sorry, no tips about sleeping….

  19. In all honesty, trying putting him on his stomach. When my son was born he wouldn’t sleep more than 3 or 4 hours tops. We swaddled him (which helped), elevated him, etc. but he would wake up screaming after a few hours. After a few months of this my husband and I had a light bulb idea in the wee hours of the morning when we couldn’t get him to go back down…we put him on his stomach. I always noticed how he would easily doze off during tummy time. He slept through the entire night and has ever since. I know they say “Back is Best” blah blah blah but I don’t completely agree. Every child is different and ours HATED sleeping on his back plus he had bad gas so I think the pressure on his stomach felt nice. When they are very little you can turn their head side to side and then eventually they can turn their heads on their own. Give it a shot!

  20. Mine is almost 5 months and he has been sleeping through the night since about 8 weeks (by through the night I mean from 9pm-3 or 4 am at first, but now he sleeps from 7pm-6am). The magic seemed to be switching him from the bassinet by my bed to the crib in his room. We no longer woke each other up, and he’s only about 30 feet from me. We would also cluster feed at night, though right now he nurses at 5, we do a bit of fruit puree at 6 then he nurses again at 6:30 until he’s full and sleepy.

    I kinda figure this has been dumb luck, though, and my reward for an otherwise screechy, colicky baby! Seriously, that kid can throw a tantrum, screaming, back arching… And he’s a terrible napper, though we are working on that and seeing some pretty quick progress. Finally had to resort to crying it out, which isn’t for everyone but it’s working for our family.

    Good luck and he’s adorable!!!

    • I agree. Everyone slept much better once we moved our son into his own room. Also try what the French do; The Pause. Its so tempting to pick them up the second they start to stir, but if you just let him be for a second, he might calm himself down and go back to sleep on his own. Of course if he really gets upset and starts wailing, pick him up, but you will never know if he can put himself back to sleep until you give him a chance to try.

  21. He’s so beautiful!! If you resolve the sleep issue, please please could you write a post about it. I have a 7 month old who still only sleeps for 2 hour stretches at night, and I’m slowly but surely unravelling…

  22. Dream feed!

  23. THANK YOU SO MUCH for all this amazing advice and encouragement! I’m so grateful for this community of women, truly. Yes to all the people who think Anton looks like Alex—I agree. He is masculine in the face for sure. Katie, thanks for your sweet note about second children—great point. And Adelie, definitely, I’m planning to post Anton’s birth story, just need to find a few moments to get it all down on paper:) Probably in a month or two. Thank you again for everything!!

  24. I’m currently expecting my first and taking all the sleeping advice I can get :) My Mom swears by the book My First 300 Babies. It’s written in the 60’s but she used it on her three children and all of us were sleeping through the night by 5 weeks. I think you can still find it on Amazon. It’s a little old-school in some methods…but definitely worthwhile! I’m going to use it for sure when my little one is born! Good Luck!!

  25. I have my 3-month old sleep with us. She sleeps for about 4-hour stretches and when she wants to eat I’m right there to feed her. I sleep much better with her in our bed than I do with her in a crib or bassinet. I realize this is a bit controversial, read Dr. Sears’ Attachment Parenting, it helps me everyday.

  26. I found this website really helpful with my daughter (now 16 months and a great sleeper!) I didn’t follow all of her advice to the letter – I never used a swing for example – but I think she has a lot of good info about naps, swaddling, bedtime routines – and it’s a lot easier to read than Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child. But what worked for us is frequent naps, early bedtime, bedtime routine including bath, swaddling, white noise, The Pause, and sleep training at 4 months. Best of luck, congratulations!

  27. Hi Joanna,

    I just stumbled onto your blog a few weeks ago. It’s a great and refreshing read! Congrats on your little Anton! I’m a Dutch mom, my son will be two in October and it took almost 18 months for him to sleep through the night. With some exceptions he would wake up at least once and cry. As I’m sure you have experienced with Toby, you will learn to recognize the cry – is it a hungry cry, did something wake him up, etc. I would listen for a bit first, but most of the time he would cry louder and louder and wouldn’t fall back asleep if I didn’t give him a bottle (after 8 months of breast feeding).

    Oftentimes I wondered if I was doing the right thing, especially because many people advised me to sleep train him and let him cry it out so that he would learn not to wake up. I did all the other stuff: routine, consistency, feeding him more during the day, reducing his feeds at night, etc. After he went to kindergarden at 11 months (two days a week), he had an episode of flu and teething at the same time. Not a good recipe for a restful night!! Then just like that he slept through the night a few times. That made me realize that I did do the right thing by feeding him when he woke up. I knew he could do it and that his waking up hadn’t become a habit. He was just hungry, or in pain, or something else made him wake up. I was so glad that I listened to my gut instinct and went to him and fed him whenever I felt compelled to do so.

    For a baby Anton’s age it’s very, very normal to wake up one or several times a night (for a feed, because of sleep pattern, or some tlc). Every baby is different and it depends on temperament and needs if he will sleep through the night early on or whether it takes longer. You cannot spoil a baby. Crying it out is not good for brain development and attachment. When you let a baby cry it out he will learn that you are not there for him when he needs you. So eventually the crying will stop. Also cortisol levels (stress hormone) are a lot higher.

    It hasn’t been easy (I was 43 when I gave birth to my bundle of joy), but I wouldn’t change a thing if I had to to it all over again. I just went with the flow (knowing that at some point there would be light at the end of the tunnel), listened to my babies needs and followed the best advice I’ve had (mom knows best). It all turned out for the best: my son is a wonderful sleeper now!


    (sorry about the ‘anonymous’, still figuring out how to change that

  28. Our second child has been sleeping through the nights since 3 months and I give credit partly to our son’s personality, but also to the book “Bringing up Bebe” which I know you’ve read and talked about on your blog.

    I had a little revelation after reading that book- about how it’s possible and expected for babies to “do their nights” come three months. And it is for us! We co slept with our daughter (our 1st) for the first 10 months of her life and I barely slept and felt like I was nursing all night long. And now at almost 3 she still has the occasional trouble falling asleep on her own and trouble falling asleep when traveling, she’s wired and wide awake! barf

    Wish I had done this with her! So basically I just began putting him down in his moses basket and then later his crib, once I saw he was sleepy or too fussy- before he broke through the infamous wall where they get a second wind and then are harder to put to sleep. So I just switch it up- put him in his crib awake, or already asleep etc. and I always transfer him to his crib, even if he falls asleep nursing on our bed. This is for his safety- protection against the curious toddler but also allows him to learn to sleep through anything.

    We don’t let him cry it out, but I do- the French thing mentioned in the book where they learn their child’s signs and when to actually pick up the baby, or to let them fuss in their sleep for less than a minute and fall back on their own. And sleep begets sleep- so his 3 naps a day means he sleeps well at night (he’s 5 months now) (naps usually in the windows of 8/9am, 12pm, 3pm, bed at 7/7:30 awake at 5:30/6am.)

    I also read this blog a lot:

    where she talks about treating infants with respect and allowing them to lay on blankets etc undisturbed to have quiet alert moments where they learn- this has helped give our son a balance and calmness to his life that aids in sleeping. Not to project, but I beat the noises of the city and pace can be overwhelming for a baby and perhaps they need more time to chill and unwind. I’ve noticed this with our son on vacation, when there are more people around, more noise, more activity etc, he sleeps more poorly and won’t feel settled.

    Anyway, best of luck and he’s still so young, You still have another 1-2 months of him figuring this out, (if not longer, but give it time!)



  29. My daughter is one day younger then Anton, and she sleeps quite long at night. But I had to put her onto formula (because I wasn’t producing enough milk for her).
    But when she was sleeping short amounts of time and she was in my room, I did notice that I was running to her as soon as she started to wake, then I spoke to a child health nurse that informed me because their REM sleep is so shallow they can wake quit easily, but often go back to sleep after a little grumble. I noticed I was going to her and she was still asleep and I was waking HER up for a feed, so once I started leaving it a little while to make sure she was awake, she’d often go back to sleep and sleep an extra hour or so. I am starting to learn her not awake grumble and her I’m awake and hungry grumble.

    Our problem is wind, she has horrible wind that causes immense pain for the sweet little thing. I’ve tried a world of collic relief for her. I was thinking about emailing the mother in the Congo from your Mothering around the world article and asking her to send me some of that Congo Gripe Water. She seems to be growing out of it slowing. I hope you work something

    Do you think Anton looks like Alex? I have a theory that the first child looks like the mum and the second tends to look like the dad. There are some families where all children take after one parent but the first and second is my thoughts and I’m sticking with it.

    GOOD LUCK WITH IT. I’ll have to come to NY from Australia to introduced our technical birthday twin children.

  30. 3 hours for an 8-weeks old is not bad! Really. Particularly if the baby is breastfed. I noticed that our son slept longer and his sleep seemed more profound when we co-slept. Maybe that’s an option. I do not believe in sleep training, I do not recommend adding anything to baby’s milk as his stomach is not developed enough to digest solids. Spending as much time as possible outdoors is an excellent option. I remember pushing the pram through the sleet, rain and snow for hours, leaving the pram in a bedroom with all windows open when it was freezing outside – it really worked. On the positive side – babies change their sleeping patterns, eating patterns and all patterns constantly and continuously. So maybe next week Anton will start to sleep for 3,5-4 hours or longer. All babies / children are different, so I don’t believe there is a single trick that works like a charm without side effects. Oh, another thing – my boy started sleeping through the night when he was 14 weeks old, but then he stopped doing it when he was 8 months old and came back to the old habit when he was 11 months old, then stopped doing it again, etc. :) Now he’s 2,5 old, spends most of the day outside (we live in a big city and do not have a house with a garden :)) and, generally, takes a 1,5-2 hours nap during a day and sleeps for about 10,5-11,5 hours at night. He has never been “trained”, left to cry. We were co-sleeping when he wanted it, he was carried in an ergonomic sling when he wanted, left alone when he wanted – generally speaking, we were following his lead instead of pushing our agenda. Hang in there and all the best to you and your family :)

  31. I highly recomment Alison Scott -Wright’s book “the sensational baby sleep plan”. Our baby started to sleep for 12hours when he was 8 weeks old.
    “Hello” from Germany, Best, Stefanie

  32. A number of things ended up working for us so here it goes (sorry my response is so long!)

    -Feed little Anton as much during the day, every 2 -3 hours and then a big cluster feed before bedtime. Get his belly nice and full so he can sleep longer without getting hungry as often.

    -We also learned (the hard way) that our little one likes to go to bed early and she is still that way even now (9 months old). She’s in bed by 7:30; any later and she has en epic meltdown.

    -Set a bedtime routine; We turn down the lights in the apartment, talk in soft voices, give our little one a bath and a massage and afterwards she is warm, relaxed and ready for her bedtime feeding. Babies love routine…makes them feel comfortable and safe.

    -White noise (sleep sheep works or a fan) has helped soothe our baby to sleep but I also do a soft shushing noise when I rock her and that actually works better than the sleep sheep. We moved our little one into her own room, which is adjacent to ours, around the three month mark. She’s always been a light sleeper and us turning in bed or my husbands snores would wake her up instantly. I missed having her right next to me but the night we put her in her own room she slept for 5 hrs straight….we woke up scared to death that something had happened to her! She was fine and sleeping.

    -The “pause” has also been a sleep saver. Babies make noises all the time in their sleep. I would pick up my little one every time she peeped, thinking she needed to be held or have her diaper changed..BIG mistake. I would just end up waking her. Even now, as my little one is older and not making those newborn noises, when she does wake in the middle of the night she will soothe herself back to sleep unless she has tummy troubles (gas is usually the culprit).

    -We also follow the eat, play, sleep routine during the day. Here in The Netherlands we are big on this routine (yes more on routines!) and taking the baby outdoors everyday. Activity and fresh air is good for babies and helps them sleep better. We go outside rain or shine (mostly rain:)

    -Last but not least swaddling. We swaddled her until she outgrew hers and then we moved to a sleep sack with long sleeves (love the koeka brand).

    Our girl sleeps for 11-12 hrs a night now; she’s been sleeping through the night since she was 4 months old by following all the above. I know how hard those first three months are so hang in there! I hope these tips will help you and little Anton get more sleep.

  33. Haven’t read the other posts – so apologize if this is a repeat… The miracle blanket – if you are comfortable with swaddling – was really a miracle for us, and for several friends. Good luck! Lack of sleep is so hard!

  34. Haven’t read the other posts – so apologize if this is a repeat… The miracle blanket – if you are comfortable with swaddling – was really a miracle for us, and for several friends. Good luck! Lack of sleep is so hard!

  35. Haven’t read the other posts – so apologize if this is a repeat… The miracle blanket – if you are comfortable with swaddling – was really a miracle for us, and for several friends. Good luck! Lack of sleep is so hard!

  36. I’ll add my stone to the path :) I’m Belgian so France is actually our really close neighbor. What I’m going to say might sound like I’m a bad mother but I agree with the French theory that a baby sometimes wakes up in his sleep just as we do on a lighter sleep phase. Or even cry in his sleep, why not.
    My son is 10 months old now and very happy. When my son was two months old he sometimes understood that if he cried a little, hungry or not, we would jump in, cuddle and breastfeed him. So I just listened. There IS a difference between cries, a hungry baby will scream with a big open mouth, a sleepy baby who just wants a cuddle will just “mmmh” a little, make noise but no big one. We would wait five minutes before jumping out of bed. The day we stopped jumping for a simple mumbling he never woke up in the middle of the night again. But not all parents are able to hear their baby cry five minutes of course. I believe we all need a little independence and that being able to put yourself to sleep alone is NOT dangerous for you. On the contrary! Some adults need to be in a pitch black place with no noise or a white noise machine to put themselves to sleep. I’m happy my kid and I can easily fall asleep everywhere and that we don’t have to stop living while he’s in bed. No hush, no shush.

  37. Also, now that he’s older, when he wakes at night I wait a few minutes before going in and nine times out of ten he falls back to sleep all on his own.

  38. I co-slept with my little one for four months. We slept like champs. He wouldn’t sleep in his bassinet for longer than 30 minutes for the first two months no matter what “advice” we tried. Beside me though he’d sleep for four or five hours a stretch and when he woke he’d just nurse himself back to sleep. At five months he converted to sleeping alone in his crib no issue at all and now sleeps for ten or more hours straight through the night.

  39. Agree with “Bringing Up Bebé” chapter on doing the nights–waiting for 5-10 minutes instead of rushing in helped so much. I also found No-Cry Sleep Solution helpful in terms of starting the routine early on and sticking to it, as well as taking baby off the nipple in the early weeks to decrease the suck-to-sleep association later on. Hang in there–sleep deprivation made me a crazy person and you continue to sound sane and calm!

  40. My brother had this problem. My mom just told me this tip: feed him a very small amount of baby cereal at his bedtime, mixed with milk. This will make it mushy. The cereal will fill his tummy, so he won’t wake up so often during the night. Good luck!

  41. First – you guys have the most adorable boys!!

    With the sleep – I remember all too well how rough the first little bit is (one of the reasons our son will be an only child – ha ha). I think you will find things start to turn around very soon, just as he is getting a little older, other than that – stuff that little tummy with as much milk as possible during the day. Good luck – sending sleep vibes Anton’s way!

  42. I have 3 boys and did go through some sleep deprivation. A mother of 4 gave me this advice which we did not immediately follow but when we did we kicked ourselves for not doing it sooner. Do you last feeding at around 11:30pm, put baby down and do NOT get up again until 5am. Baby will cry a little then go back to sleep off and on. Baby will cry for 3 nights and on the 4th night, baby will sleep right through and you will be guaranteed 5 hours of uninterrupted sleep. If baby is sick or teething, we would obviously get up. Sometimes after an illness or teething, you will have to let baby cry for 3 nights again. I know it breaks your heart and my milk would be coming in but 4th night guaranteed will be 5 hours of guaranteed sleep. Give yourselves permission to try it. Everyone will be happier.

  43. Moms might not agree to me, but when my son was a little baby every time I think he’s about to cry at night I feed him and he goes back to sleep right away. and sleeps through the night. more sleep for me as well.

  44. I love your blog and your boys are so adorable! Hang in there with the sleep thing. It’s so hard when you are exhausted! And hard to believe that in a few short years you’ll be sleep deprived because you are waiting up for them to come home at night. You are doing great!!

  45. Not to scare you but my son didn’t sleep through the night until he was 4. If we could do it over again, we would have let him sleep with us. He was just the type of child that needed human comfort. Good luck!

  46. I have no advice for sleep, except that newborns make their own schedule. I think fighting it just increases the frustration. I think around 12 weeks you will see some longer stretches! hopefully :) hang in there! (mom of 2 :) ) xo julia

  47. Hello Joanna! Congrats on the newest man in your life! I usually just peruse your excellent blog comment-free, but this post is calling my name too loudly to not say anything. My beautiful daughter (and first babe) was born May 18th this year and I am kicking myself for not having read Bringing Up Bebe until now. You are in the perfect period to implement the advice and it work. The chapter entitled “Doing Her Nights” is what you are looking for. I know a lot of people recommend Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. Personally, I have the book and don’t find it helpful. My daughter was colicky however for her first 3+ months so perhaps that is why it wasn’t helpful. My husband and I are currently in the sleep-deprivation trenches too so I feel your pain. Acting on the advice given in Bebe even this late in the game has been helping so it may be worth a shot. Best of luck!

  48. I just came through the whole sleep training with my second son and have used Sleep Easy Solution by Jennifer Waldburger and Jill Spivack, with both my boys. I cannot recommend this book enough ( I give it to all my new mom friends !). It is completely realisitic–babies, unless you are totally blessed, are probably not going to sleep through the night until at least 4 months or older– and so it gives some reasonable parameters to deal with before then, and then some super clear recommendations to get your babe sleeping like a trooper. My older son is now 3.5 years and he is still a great sleeper because we taught him how to self soothe and get into some great bedtime routines. My sister was big into Baby Wise and at the time I found it a little overwhelming ( well with my first son I found getting dressed overwhelming!). I really felt this book got me as a parent but also compassionately took my child’s needs into consideration.

    Sleep deprivation is the worst–but the good news is that it isn’t forever and sometimes having that perspective makes the first few months a wee more bearable—that and wine, a great tv series and a whole lot of coffee.

  49. Put him in the bed with you. I did this with my first one and he slept through the night since birth. BTW, WHAT a cutie pie! SMUACK!

  50. Our closest friends got married recently. I’d love to give them an Indian cheeseboard with a brass heart over the place they met in high school over fifteen years ago.

  51. My only advice is what my mom taught me with my son–any time he falls asleep in your arms during the day, put him down. That way, he gets used to sleeping on his own, without being held. You’re probably doing this already at this point, but just thought I’d throw that out there! A 3-hour stretch at his age sounds about right anyway…

  52. Oh he is beyond darling.

  53. Hi, Joanna! My cousins and sister swear by Babywise. With 9 kids between them all, they each say it worked wonders helping them get their little ones on a good sleep schedule.

    We are expecting our first in October and will be sure to give this method a try. Best of luck! :)

  54. I say roll with it. My little one is 3 months and he is starting to sleep for 4-6 hour stretches. I didn’t do anything special just started to accept my job to feed him and get him back to sleep and then all of a sudden 6 hours of slumber would occur and I was more rested!

  55. He’s super cute! Love those baby yawns. As far as sleeping longer stretches throughout the night goes, I was BIG fan of the ‘dream feed’. You’ve probably heard of it already, but in case you haven’t: I used to pick my daughter up from a deep sleep right before I went to sleep (around 11:00), keeping the lights off I’d quietly nurse her, change her diaper (I had a little night light) and put her back in her crib. Most of the time this helped avoid those pesky 2:00 a.m. feeds – when you feel like the walking dead. Who knows if it works with all babies, but man, did it ever work for me. Have a great day!

  56. Hi, Joanna! I have two girls, ages 11 months and 3 years who go to sleep between 7 and 7:30 each night and sleep until around 7:30 the next morning (sometimes later!) I can tell you that I am firm believer that a baby (and toddler) need two things to make them great sleepers: The first rule: (and this especially applies to babies) Never run immediately every time you hear a noise! Let them cry for a few minutes, alot of the times they fall right back to sleep and if you do run to them every time, they will get used to you coming to them and it will be hard to break this learned behaviour!It is hard, but you will be much happier (and well-rested) later on! Also, children love routine! Around 6:30 every night, we go upstairs, take a bath, have reading time, a bottle, and then settle in for the night. EVERY NIGHT at the same time, like clock work. They never (well, maybe once or twice a year) stay up past 7:30 ish ! they start to crave this routine, and any disruptions would likely cause a shift in their blissfully quiet sleep pattern! I hope Anton starts to sleep a bit more at a time. I will say the first 8-12 weeks are a bit touch and go, but both girls have been sleeping through the night since 4 months!

  57. Our girl was very jaundiced and she wasn’t quick to put on weight after birth; for these reasons our doctor had me pump and bottle feed her so we knew how much she was eating. We did this for four weeks, and her weight shot up. I switched her to the breast for five feeds during the day, but we still gave her the bottle too, especially for her last feed before going to bed. She napped all day in the living room, in the sun, and she went to bed in her crib in our room when we went to bed. We did this until she was four months, then we gradually started putting her to bed earlier. When she fussed, we paused one to two minutes to see if she was moving through a sleep cycle or if she was waking up. Eight times out of ten, it was a sleep cycle. We started the pause after she was six weeks. I can’t say for sure but I believe all of these things contributed to her being a good sleeper. She slept through the night consistently at three months: we knew how much she’d eaten through the day, she had the chance to learn to move through her sleep,cycles, and she was right beside us in her crib so I feel that led to security too.

    Best of luck, it really is baby dependant :)

  58. what a beautiful boy! so happy for you all. sleep will come eventually… xo

  59. I also read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child and loved it. Both of my children slept 11-12 hours a night, pretty much straight, from the age of 4 months. It was great for us. Best of luck to you!

  60. I have a little guy born just a little before Anton (6/8) and I noticed that Eddie started sleeping longer stretches right around 8 weeks. One thing that really helped us was putting him down a little earlier. We were shooting for a bedtime around 8.. and he was just really tough to put down. So I read in a book (Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child) to try an earlier bedtime. So I aimed for a 7pm bedtime. One night he seemed extra hungry and sleepy so my husband gave a bottle at around 6:15pm.. I nursed him and he was asleep by 7 and slept for a nice long stretch. Now we sort of start his bedtime “routine” around 6. We do bath (if he needs one) put on jammies and then I go into the bedroom with him and feed him. Sometimes he falls asleep nursing other times he’s nice and calm and serene and I just swaddle him and then put him in his cosleeper and turn on she sleep sheep.

    Believe me, I know that 6-7 is a super inconvenient time, and not to mention so early. Sometimes minutes after he falls asleep I get sad because I miss him :( He sometimes wakes up to nurse 1-2 times.. sometimes he sleeps all night (and then I just pump) – but even though I miss him and it cuts into my evening I know he’s getting good sleep.

    I saw another commenter suggest cluster feed.. I I try to do that too. He likes to nurse around five, and sometimes he even doses off lol!

  61. My little one is 6 months old and still not sleeping through the night! He gets up once for a feed and I do a dream feed at 10 or 11 pm. I think he has a very small stomach though because he does not take in a lot of milk, never has and if he does he ends up spitting a lot of it back up. We did however start sleep easy solution and are sleep training him to go to sleep on his own. First night he cried for 25 minutes, the second night was 7 so I hope tonight is only 2!

  62. Oy! First things first, your new baby is just adorable. He seems so very alert. I just read this at Baby Center…An interesting note: Whether your baby is a night owl or a morning lark, a long sleeper or short sleeper, she’ll probably stay that way throughout childhood. This has absolutely been true of my 15 mo old. He never slept more than 5-7 hour stretches as an infant, didn’t sleep through the night until 10.5 months old (even tried sleep training, crying methods included), and still only sleeps 9.5-10 hours at night and 1-2.5 hours in the day. I always wondered if he would have slept much longer and better if we had perfected co-sleeping, but it just wasn’t working for me, with him attached to me all night.

  63. Try to cluster feed before bed. That helped us. At first I just thought she was cranky because of the “witching hour” but once i figured our that it was okay to feed her on demand she was happier from 5-8pm AND slept longer. Downside is you have a child on your boob from 5-8. Plus side is there is no screaming baby from 5-8 and you hopefully get more sleep. Good luck!! We have moved on to teething phase….any advice for me :)

  64. hi! okay so my full-proof plan is…

    i let my baby girl nurse while we are both lying down on our sides facing each other. she would fall asleep nursing, pull off the boob, and then lay her head on the boob and use it as a pillow. the smell of the breast milk would keep her asleep for HOURS. i used this: – to keep her safely in place. good luck!

  65. Baby Wise and patience…..a whole lot of patience but you already know that

  66. bath before bed! my best trick!

  67. My little one is three months now and has been sleeping through the night since about 6 weeks. It could just be her temperament, but a few things that I think helped;
    Keep the blinds open in the day time & when they wake up in the day, talk and play with them a little bit. At night, keep it as dark as possible & just feed & put back to bed with as little stimulation as possible.
    Also feeding really frequently in the day. I feed on demand but about every hour or two for as long as she wants. It can be a bit exhausting sometimes, but it’s so worth it to get all that sleep at night ! We put her down for bed at night at 7pm, and then when I go to bed I give her a quick dream feed and back to bed she goes c:
    Hope this helps, good luck xx

  68. I remember the first 6 hour stretch of sleep I had was when my daughter was 7 weeks — I was visiting family and we were in an incredibly dark basement with a fire burning and keeping us really warm. Eureka! When I got home I changed up the baby’s sleeping environment to be as dark as possible and boring (no mobile on the crib). I also started keeping it a little warmer and used white noise. That 6 hours became 8 immediately — and was pure bliss!

  69. Have you tried the Baby Merlin Magic Sleep Suit? It did wonders for us — started using it around 10 weeks and through 6 months when my kiddo outgrew it. Helped with the transition from swaddling to sleeping in just PJs, and he slept for longer, too.

  70. Precious! What a beautiful baby.

    We didn’t do Baby Wise for a couple of reasons but the Sleep > Eat > Play routine really made a difference for us. That method is mentioned in a couple other books as well, The Baby Whisperer among them. Of course, that is just for daytime. At night he is fed in a dark quiet room and put back to bed afterwards.

    Our baby didn’t start sleeping longer stretches until he was 8 weeks, so maybe your sleep relief is just around the corner.

  71. he is beautiful! love that serious look. i bet he’s a thinker :)

  72. What a lovely little guy, so serious-looking!!
    About sleep, I really sympathize, 2 months with very little sleep is a lot and longer stretches would be nice. I remember you quoting or referring to Pamela Druckerman’s Bringing Up Bébé, there are a lot of good ideas as it is true that a lot of French babies sleep through the night at a very early age (around 8 -10 weeks so perfect timing for looking at the book) Good luck and congrats again on your 2 amazing boys!!

  73. He is incredibly cute and looks so much like his brother!

    Re sleeping – I’m a big advocate of cosleeping which is what saved my sanity both times. Other than that any sleeptraining is nonsense at this age like cassidyjane says. They don’t stay this tiny for long, it’ll work itself out!

  74. He is so handsome!

  75. PS: i also have a son, 1 and a half years old ;) and Number 2 is on the way ;-)

  76. Wow, he is so precious. Will be so different with a second to really appreciate the mommy/baby alone time.
    On sleeping: He is so young still and constantly changing & growing & developing at such a rapid speed. Don’t stress about sleep training yet, just make it a priority to let him get some good quality (motionless, dark, quiet) daytime sleep from time to time. Also, get dad involved. I love this tip! Let dad start to create his own strategies and techniques for soothing baby to sleep and back to sleep in the middle of the night. Instead of nursing him all the way to sleep, once he’s stopped nursing and is just comfort sucking himself to sleep, unlatch him swaddle him, and let dad do the rest. This tip also works great for daytime if you’re doing the eat,activity, sleep, you (or in your case Toby)time(E.A.S.Y.). Mostly just enjoy your baby and don’t feel pressured to have a baby that is sleeping thru the night.

  77. He is sooo cute!
    But I don’t think that babies at 8 weeks need to sleep longer then 3 hours. Until 6-7 months its normal that they need FOOD (milk) in the night, especially when they are that little (2-3 months). This is what i was taught by my midwife. And someone above wrote that its not necessarily healthy if they sleep through the whole night, they have to double their birth weight in a few months, so they need nursing. And that little stomach can’t bear so much…
    I find every kind of sleep training quite exhausting for parents and children. There are anyway always different phases in the development of babies, and they sleep sometimes better, sometimes less good. That’s totally normal, in my humble opinion.

    Otherwise i just wanted to tell, i love your blog!!!

  78. Have you looked at any of The Sleep Lady books by Kim West? I liked her books because rather than just giving you sleep theories she gives you an implementable plan. And let’s face it, when you are tired you just need someone to tell you what to do!

    I would, however, only recommend her books, she has a website that you can sign-up for, but we found it is not worth the money. We signed-up so we could talk to the sleep consultants, but had no luck in getting responses when we tried to contact them.

  79. 8 weeks is about when my husband says all of our kids quit their “potted plant” stage and became real people – hence waking up more and not sleeping as much!! My only advice after 3 of these little people is to try your hardest to keep that sweet baby awake during the daytime, playing with them, letting their siblings play with them, take them outside, anything to wear them out in the daylight hours so they sleep during the night time hours! Good luck, what a cutie Anton is!!!!

  80. I put our second one in her own room at 2 weeks. She was a loud sleeper so I wasn’t getting any sleep at all. The white noise machine also helped. I also didn’t run and check on her with every squeak she made. She’s 2 now and still a much better sleeper now than our first one who is 5.

  81. Oh Joanna, I so completely sympathize with you on the sleeping. Our second little boy just turned 1, but he honestly did not sleep through the night for a very long time (maybe at 8 months?). We did everything that everyone told us to, and nothing seemed to work (and we had no problem with CIO, but he was so stubborn). I imagine, like you, he was in our room with us (since we were also in NYC and our first was established in his own room). We actually moved out of the city when my youngest was 8 months, and just like that, he started sleeping through the night. One thing I had thought of (but never actually did), was moving my older son into our room and letting the baby sleep in his own room. I think when you are nursing and in such close contact, when they wake, they smell you and instantly want to eat. Because that’s the only thing that I could think of, since when we moved he instantly started sleeping. Might be worth a try? Or put him in the living room at night? Also, if he has trouble going down, we started to do ten minute cry sessions at around 10 weeks and he instantly learned how to put himself to sleep (no crying for more than 10 minutes, one minute of soothing, 10 more minutes of crying for a total crying of only 30 minutes – or 3 ten minute sessions). Usually they don’t make it through all three 10 minute periods and they learn very quickly. Made it easier on me too, to be able to watch the clock. Good luck!

  82. And I’ll ditto the other request–when you have time—-for my excitement to hear Anton’s birth story!

  83. I have four kids and what worked the best for me (besides NOT reading baby books) is to follow the nurse, play, sleep routine during the day and a bedtime routine at night. I did co sleep with my youngest two until they were about 3 months old and they started sleeping better in their cribs. All of my children began sleeping longer stretches at night around 6-8 weeks and soon I was waking up only once to nurse. Don’t worry about letting them grunt and move around a little bit and I wouldn’t feed them unless they cried. I let all my kids cry it out at 6 months and they are good sleepers. A white noise machine really has helped with my newest baby cause now she knows whenever I turn it on it means it’s time to sleep. Good luck! I find the first two months the hardest because they do need to nurse so often. Also, cluster feeding a few hours before bedtime worked for me as well.

  84. Has Anton regressed in his sleep? I ask because in your vacation post you mentioned he was going from 8-2.30 (I remember being impressed with this, my three month old still wakes every three hours :( )

  85. The 10pm dream feed works for me. My little lady is 11 weeks. I pop her down at 6.30/7pm, pick her up at 10 pm while sleeping. She latches on and drinks. Then she will sleep till around 4pm. I did this with my first, now 21 months, and it worked. I also cluster feed from 5pm. Try to get as much milk in as possible. Sometimes not possible my toddler wanting to play. All the best!

    • I wish that the dream feed worked for us. Now my seven month old wakes up for his dream feed at 11:30. And then at two, four, six o’clock.

  86. We have been using a probiotic called Bio Gaia and it has helped our 3 week old so much. He sleeps for 4-5 hours at a time. We also bathe him at night. Good luck mama!

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  88. Feed him all day! Wouldn’t worry about a feeding schedule at this young age. Seemed to work for me…

  89. He is precious! I feel your pain about the sleeping during the night… I have a six week old baby boy. He is starting to sleep a five hour stretch (from 11pm to 4am). I am not sure what is contributing to it, but here is what we are doing. He sleeps around the corner from our room and I do the “pause” before feeding him. He sleeps with a cool mist humidifier for white noise (probably any white noise machine would work, but this is what we used for our first son). I also cluster feed him between 8:30pm until about 10:30 or 11:00pm (basically feeding and taking about a 10-20 minute break between sides, then repeat). We also swaddle him with the miracle swaddle or the 1.2.3 swaddle (I just read your post on swaddling!). At around 9 or 10 weeks, with our first son, we started giving a pacifier in the night without taking him out of the crib, instead of feeding when he would let us. This trained him to sleep through the night (from about 10pm to 7am). We plan on doing the same this time around. Good luck!

    • Also, I am exclusively breastfeeding.

  90. He is only 8 weeks. You can’t expect him to sleep longer stretches. Every child is unique and their biorhythms are different. You just follow his natural flow. He will sleep longer, eventually, when his body is ready. Messing up with sleep training will mess up other things later for him.
    Seems like you are doing a good job already. Don’t listen to anyone,e except for your heart. He needs you and he needs to eat more frequently to grow up.

  91. He’s so beautiful! What an awesome little fellow.

    We did many of the ideas mentioned here with my daughter (swaddle, fan, noise machine). She was co-sleeping in our room, and one thing we did was move her bed to the end of our bed. That worked great for us–she was still very close and knew we were there, but not so close that she was constantly sensing milk. It gradually eased us into longer sleeping stretches. Good luck!

  92. Anton is so, so gorgeous Joanna! Regarding sleeping, right around Anton’s age, I stopped nursing our little one to sleep and really put into effect the ‘eat, play, sleep’ method a few other commenters mentioned. At that age, he’d wake up from his late-day nap, we’d eat, do his bath and bedtime routine and back to bed. I think the consistent bedtime routine (we always did bath, lotion/massage on his changing table, swaddle and in the crib) really helped a ton. But he really jumped up in sleeping times when I stopped nursing him to sleep – going from 5-6 hours straight to 8 or 9 in a really short period. And like a few other commenters, we tried the whole cry it out thing and within three days he was falling asleep within minutes of being put in his crib (without crying) and soothing himself back to sleep. It’s hard, but he really only cried for maybe 7 minutes the first night and down from there. He’s been such a champ sleeper ever since…

  93. Our best bets for nighttime sleep help(other than once milk supply regulates a bit with hindmilk) are a white noise machine, routines of warm water in bath, and letting her stay up late enough that she runs down some of her energy. Good luck with your 2nd go round!

  94. hi is adorable!
    Regarding advice: I’ve read all the comments above and there is a piece missing: the source of the milk baby is getting, meaning if one is exclusively breastfeeding or not. This is the starting point in any advice you may be given. Babies that are exclusively breastfed tend to need more feeds than the ones on formula. This is very important. I personally believe that, this early in life, you should meet the baby’s needs as much as possible and 3 hours of sleep seem ok to me.
    I have 2 sons myself: 5 and 2 and I am an advocate of breastfeeding exclusively until 6 months:

    • This. What pediatricians tell you is often based on formula-fed baby stats– for example, the growth charts they use assume formula, and really don’t help much with breastfed babies! If I had paid attention to those charts I’d have thought that my (very healthy and happy) daughter was “too skinny.”
      And I think the same goes for the notion that babies should be able to sleep all night by a certain age. Formula lasts longer than breastmilk. If you’re exclusively nursing Anton he may need more frequent feedings.
      Three hours is great for such a little one. I think that we often expect babies to act like adults. But they’re babies! :) I’d agree with trying cluster feeding, and maybe keeping him awake more during the day. But I wouldn’t let a 8 week old baby cry for an hour and “soothe himself.” He is not old enough for that! Crying it out may work at times, but I can’t imagine that it is good for a tiny person who is intended to be close to his mama.

    • Oh, and he is a cutie pie! :)

  95. Our pediatrician told us that once a baby gets to about 2 months, he is physically able to sleep through the night without eating. He was a big proponent of self-soothing early on (the thinking being it’s easier for everyone if a 2month old learns to self-sooth than a 2 year old). We tried it with our son and after 2 or 3 nights of crying for about 30 minutes (admittedly, heartbreaking), he started sleeping through the night and has been an amazing sleeper every since. I know this may not work for every child (I’m pregnant with my second and praying this one will be as good), but it might be worth a shot.

  96. Look at his adorable little round head!!! I must ask where your blanket is from? I’m obsessed with Swiss crosses and that is gorgeous!

  97. What a handsome guy! We did similar things; white noise, keeping the room dark, and cluster feedings in the afternoon and evening to help push them for longer stretches of sleep. We also benefited from the “eat, sleep, play” routine. It’s such a crazy, exhausting, special time! Even now when I see Law & Order reruns on at 3 a.m., it reminds me of the early days of babyhood!

  98. he is so cute. have you considered what you will do if/when people call him “tony?”

  99. gorgeous!

  100. he’s so adorable! he’s got a wise gaze for such a little man. i just started reading “Bringing Up Bebe” and she talks about the technique a lot of French parents (and is recommended by the doctor of Tribeca Pediatrics) of watching and listening to your baby when the wake from crying to see if they’re really awake or just making some sounds while they try to link their sleep cycles. Apparently rushing to your baby to pick them up and/or feed them can actually wake up the baby. I’m just starting my second trimester, so haven’t experienced this first hand, but it sounds like a technique I’d definitely want to try out.

  101. I’m expecting my 2nd any day now and trying to remember all the sleep stuff. We had tons of success with The Happiest Baby on the Block and its 5 s’s, particularly swaddling. If you’re swaddling and he’s busting out, try the Miracle Blanket, it’s a cozy straight jacket. Good luck and let us know what works!

  102. He is an adorable little guy.

  103. After speaking to my pediatrician to get assurance that he was gaining enough weight ie. eating enough through the day, I let my baby begin the self-soothing process (CIO) at 10 weeks. I realize this goes against general advice about not crying out til at least 4 mos but I was eager to (1) get him to start sleeping longer stretches so he can get much needed deep sleep, and (2) start sleeping continuous hours myself. He never went longer than 45 mins before picking up self-soothing and started sleeping 5-7-9 hrs in a matter of days. Of course every baby is different, but if you’re ok w/having your baby learn self-soothing (which I think you are from past posts), I would consider letting him CIO early. I wonder if that was the reason my baby picked it up early and didn’t cry past an hr during the learning process, which I was steeling myself for. Good luck!

    • Do you mean you let your newborn cry for an hour, and are advising others to do so? Just trying to understand this. I want to point out that the American Academy of Peds says that it is safest for little ones to room in with mom until 6 months of age to reduce likelihood of anything happening to babies during sleep. I have been advised by my son’s ped that the reason newborn babies wake frequently is because to fall into a deep sleep at this age is not the safest thing for them, plus they really do need frequent feedings, at the rate they grow. It is not recommended to try CIO techniques until children are at least 4-6 months in age.

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  106. Hey Joana, what a lovely little boy, he looks so serious ! I was just wondering whether you planned on posting Anton’s birth story on your blog. I’m sure I’m not the only reader to be waiting for it ! Maybe I’m just too impatient…
    Good luck with all the rest :)

  107. He’s beautiful, Joanna! With my daughter, I kind of did a modified Babywise method. One thing that I swear worked was making sure I fed her enough during the day. The magic number for us was 8 feedings during the day, and that helped her get through the night. I had to nurse her every 2-3 hours (it felt like that was all I did some days!), but it really made a difference! Hope you find something that works for you.

  108. Our pediatrician told us to feed Micah ( now 3 weeks old) every two hours during the day so that he’s getting the bulk of his food then. I’ve found that when he cluster feeds between 8 and 10, he’ll sleep until 4 or 5am. But basically, they have to eat a certain amount in 24 hours so if you can concentrate the feeding during the waking hours, then babies won’t wake up as much at night, so the theory goes. Good luck!!

  109. For overnight sleep … Wait another month. Babies have a “fourth” trimester and don’t really sort out day and night until they’re about 3 months old.

    Then you can start trying to set him down sleepy but still slightly awake. That often helps them learn to fall back asleep by themselves when they wake in between sleep cycles during the night.

  110. Oh my, he is beautiful! I remember the first 8-12 weeks being the hardest due to lack of sleep. The first 6 weeks after I had my daughter it seemed like I could not get her to sleep for longer stretches either. Until…wait for it. White noise.
    Who knew a circulating fan would change my life in the world of sleep!! Try it. I would make sure to direct the fan away from her crib so the air was not directly on her. It also helps create air flow in the room. She slept more soundly and for longer stretches at a time. And the white noise seems to buffer the talking, TV, whatever noise is in the other room(s) that way you do not have to ‘tip toe’ around as much when he is napping.

    Cheers to your little men Joanna!

  111. Joanna! He’s beautiful! Talking about the fate of the second child, I often think they get the better end of the deal. As first child married to a second child, I always admire my husbands ability to go with the flow and just be more relaxed (and patient!) about things that make the first child in me go crazy! We tend to think less attention is always bad, but the world needs the easy-going second children! Otherwise I think we would see a lot more adult tantrums!
    Good luck with the sleeping through the night! I have a feeling Anton will be making you proud very soon. Until then, lots of nursing and frequent prays to the universe for help will get you through it! I’ll be here cheering you and Anton on! :)

  112. We did “on becoming babywise” but one of the big things that worked for us was that we never let baby E go longer than 3.5hrs between feedings during the day. If that meant waking up a sleeping baby, that meant waking up a sleeping baby. Then at night we would let her go as long as she could between nighttime feedings while waiting a few minutes if we heard her fuss at night to make sure she wasn’t just transitioning between sleep cycles and was really in fact hungry. Making sure they are well fed during the day will help them not be hungry at night. Also, we practiced a “eat, play, sleep” schedule during the days and put her right to bed after feedings at night to again help recognize the difference between daytime and nighttime. This among other things helped Eloise sleep through the night by 8 weeks with no “crying it out” needed. Hope you get some good rest soon!

    • We did this with our little girl, too, just as Ashley described, and it worked wonderfully. She was sleeping 6-8 hour stretches at 8 weeks. Good luck!

    • This is exactly what we did with our now 11 week old Just as Ashley described it and she was sleeping through the night at 8 weeks. It felt very natural and we didn’t need to force it too much. Anton is looking so chubby and adorable! I’m sure you’ll find something that works for him in no time!

    • We followed “Babywise” too and it worked wonders for my daughter! She was sleeping through the night at 8 weeks!

    • We followed “Babywise” too and it worked wonders for my daughter! She was sleeping through the night at 8 weeks!

  113. What a beautiful picture of the baby.


  114. Hmmmm….what worked for us? I didn’t let Chloe fall asleep right after eating during the day. But maybe he’s just a hungry boy?

  115. so far it seems like he looks more like alex, when toby was an infant it was obvious he looked so much like you. anton is a little more of a mixture it seems like.

    as for the sleeping tips, i have no experience lol but would just suggest a sound machine or a fan to make some noise in his room. My friends twins didn’t sleep through the night fully until after 1! surprised me but i guess with two it’s really hard since if one wakes up the other one might hear

  116. Check out Babywise. Also, we did our last feeding around 11pm and that got our twins through a nice long stretch of the night. We did that for a long time, feeding them between 10pm and 11pm to facilitate sleeping thru the night! Worked wonders! We swear by Babywise!

  117. Newborn tummies are really tiny so they need to eat very often. On average, newborn’s stomachs are empty every 1.5 hours. So, if he is waking up, he probably needs to eat. In fact, some doctors encourage you to wake your child up in the middle of the night if he is sleeping TOO long so that you can make sure he is getting enough to eat. I’m not sure how long they need to eat so often, however, so maybe he is fine going without food longer at 8 weeks. I know my sister and her husband used a noise machine to lull their daughter to sleep. Now she goes on naps by herself!

  118. He’s sooo cute!
    Sorry I had the same trouble with my baby. Hang in there.

  119. Wow. He is beautiful, Joanna. Looks like a thinker! :)

  120. I just Amazon Prime-ed The Baby Whisperer book for help with getting my 4.5 month old son to sleep. A friend has wonderful success and it does not involve any crying it out, you are able to pick them up and soothe them as often as you wish. I believe they have you put them to sleep without nursing so when they wake up at night they don’t have to nurse/eat to fall back asleep (once they are old enough to go through the night, I’m not sure what age that it). Anton is adorable and his sweet bald head reminds me of my own sweet boy. I love the fuzzy softness of it, awwww. Good luck with the sleep, as someone in the middle of figuring it out I know how hard and frustrating it can be. I’ve never enjoyed my morning coffee so much!

    • This is true. When I had to go back to work, I bought this ugly and huge thing, because I absolutely needed a 4-5 hour stretch of sleep to make it through an entire day of meetings, etc. He never got “used’ to sleeping in it and transferred to crib just as “easily” as if he were being rocked, shhhed, etc. I now know about the mamaroo, which would take up considerably less room. Check it out

  121. Have you read Bringing up Bebe? In it, the author talks about “The Pause” that the French do with their children. It’s those brief moments between when your baby starts to fuss and you run over to check on him. For me, there was no pause. I always assumed Grace needed a diaper change, a feeding or a good snuggle. BUT! The French beg to differ. They say that babies wake up between sleep cycles but if left alone for a few seconds (to ensure they are actually waking) they will fall back to sleep. Bonus: French tots sleep through the night long before their American counterparts AND they don’t require the dreaded sleep training most of our kids do. Good luck!

    • Sometimes a quick hand on the baby though or shhhing immediately when they begin to stir helps get right back to sleep without entirely waking. This helped my baby learn to sleep longer stretches once I figured this out (but it was after 6 mos old) when he was in his own space.

  122. I don’t have any advice on the sleeping thing, but he’s a cutie. I love his chubby legs.

  123. He’s really starting to look like Toby now!