Toby Meets Anton for the First Time

Thank you again for all the sweet notes about the new baby! I’d love to share a few photos of Toby meeting his brother for the first time…

The day after Anton was born, Alex brought an excited Toby to the hospital. A bunch of readers had recommended not holding the baby when the older child arrives; just put the baby in the bassinet and have your arms open to greet your older child. We did just that, and it worked well. Another reader tip was to give Toby presents from the baby. So Anton “gave” him a flap book, a lollipop and this peg game, which Toby loved and inexplicably pretended was a salad.

Here’s the first moment they met, when Toby asked to “pet him.” (I was a weepy mess behind the camera.)

Toby also liked playing on my hospital bed. After spending almost two days with just teeny still Anton, Toby was like a tornado! Also, the cutest thing: When he went home with his babysitter that evening, he turned to her and said, “Anton…I want to see him again sometime.”

When we got home, we hung out in our bedroom, just soaking up being a family of four.

Then Toby asked if he could hold him and was giddy, proud and tender. So far, the only indication of any anxiety on Toby’s part was at bedtime. He normally falls asleep easily, but for the first two nights we were home after the hospital he called out for us many times: “Put the covers on me,” “The pictures on the wall are bothering me,” “The curtain is a little bit scary,” “I need some water,” “My Band-Aid fell off…” We were happy to indulge:) Luckily, that seems to have passed, so hopefully everything will keep ticking along. As with all things parenthood, we will take things as they come!

Thank you again for all your sweet notes. xo

  1. Huge congrats from France…You have one beautiful family, I love the pics of Toby holding little brother Anton…magical, no?

  2. oh my. that last photo made ME cry. so sweet. makes me hope my little guy gets to be a big brother soon – so much harder trying to get the second one than it was the first. enjoy your boys and congrats again!
    Chandra | Oh Lovely Day

  3. growing a family is always so insane and wonderful. congratulations.

  4. Hold on to these moments. i’m a mom to a 16 mo old and a 7 yr old and the jealousy/stealing toys will kick in eventually =/

  5. Adorable x 199 (my daughter Audrey’s favourite number)! There is nothing like seeing a sibling with their baby sibling. If Anton grows up to be as adorable as Toby (and he will) Manhattan will have two heartbreakers. What a gorgeous family.

  6. This is the loveliest thing I’ve seen in ages! I am so happy for you. Thanks for the heart strings tugged and the happy tears. Congratulations on your new arrival and on growing your family! x

  7. This is such a sweet post. It brought tears to my eyes. I am pregnant with my second right now, and I hope that the transition from 3 to 4 goes well for our little guy too. Congratulations to all of you! You have a gorgeous family!

  8. Your boys are precious! So Beautiful seeing the two little ones together. Thanks for sharing such a sweet, tender moment. :)

  9. I’m not gonna lie; I opened this post expecting my uterus to melt, (it did), and I got so excited to see that you used my idea (you read my comments! (Yay!) My almost-8 year old son STILL treasures his “gifts” from his now 2 and a half year old sister. When we purge toy boxes each season, that has remained a constant, much like his devotion to her. I love them.

  10. OMG this is the sweetest thing I have ever seen! You must be so excited. What a beautiful family you have!

  11. Too cute! Back in 1998 when my son first met my daughter he asked if he could pet her too.

  12. these are the sweetest!

  13. q says...

    congrats joanna! all these photos are incredibly sweet especially the first one :)))

  14. this is too sweet not to comment! excited to hear about the Toby & Anton adventures! This almost makes me want another one! ;) CONGRATULATIONS!

  15. So sweet! Congratulations!

  16. reading and seeing these photos made me cry. congratulations! :)

  17. This post made me laugh a lot with the cuteness :) “I’d like to see him again some time.” Kids have such a strange world view! You must be super proud right now, thanks so much for sharing and good luck for the next few weeks! x

  18. Oh my gosh….I’m crying… so sweet.

  19. That is so touching, thank you for sharing. Enjoy.

  20. This is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing!

  21. Sooooo sweet! I love those sibling photos when the older holds the newborn younger. The line about “petting him” and the final photo kiss are just the awesomest.

  22. Oh man, what sweet pictures. I said “AWW!” aloud!

  23. Congratulations to you and Alex! And welcome sweet little Anton!
    I lived exactly the same moments 3 months ago, when my daughter was born and my 3 y-o son made a tornado! I had to look at pictures of him just to convince myself that he didn’t have grown A LOT during my 3 days hospital ;-) He looks soooo big beside his little sister. Enjoy these fabulous first moments and let things come as they come: tired, happy, nervous, good mood, bad mood, this is the miracle of life!

  24. I am a weepy mess right now! How very cute! Toby is going to be a great big brother!

  25. That last photo is oh so precious!

  26. Toby looks like an amazing big brother already. So happy for your family!

  27. So sweet! Toby looks so happy, he’s taking it better than I did. When my parents brought my sister home I wouldn’t let go of my dad for a few days, at least.

    If anyone would like to check out my new blog, that would be wonderful!

    Best wishes to your lovely family, Joanna!

  28. Your family of four is so sweet and so very precious. Congrats – and thanks for the tips about introducing Toby to Anton!

  29. The tip about not holding the baby when Toby comes in is a great one. I would have never though of that but it makes so much sense.

    Those pictures of Toby and Anton are just the sweetest! I’m glad everyone is doing well and adjusting easily.

    Congratulations again, I’m so happy for you and your family.

  30. So incredibly sweet, LOVE the photos of Toby staring at his new little brother. Heart = melting. Congratulations to your beautiful family! xo

  31. I’ve tears in my eyes from all the beautiful pics :) Congrats again on Anton’s arrival!

  32. Toby is wonderful and I love the tenderness and willy boy combo that shows through the photos. Enjoy your growing family!

  33. Soooo sweet! Toby is adorable, and so is sweet little Anton! Congratulations!

  34. So precious! In a year they are going to be inseparable BFFs. How fun to have two little boys!

  35. Those photos of Alex with Toby, staring at Anton….no wonder you’re a weepy mess! So, so beautiful.

  36. Just lovely! As always, I love your writing style – a perfect mix of sentimentality and humor.

  37. I’m another one of those in line to have #2 pretty soon, and this just bowled me over. How absolutely lovely and wonderful, and how incredibly generous of you to share with us. So beautiful!!

  38. S says...

    Congratulations, Joanna, Alex, and Toby!

  39. congratulations, what a beautiful post, brought tears to my eyes since I’m pregnant and have a 2 1/2 year old son. Can’t wait for him to meet his sister :)

  40. The second I saw that first picture my eyes welled up with tears. What an awesome big brother he is and will be! I hardly know you at all but I have so much love for your sweet family.

  41. This is so sweet. It makes me weepy to read it and I’m so happy for you and your family. Such lovely photos, too! Congrats.

  42. Toby’s smile is so adorable! And that last picture is so, so sweet. Love it! Glad Toby’s adjusting to his new little brother :)

  43. Such sweet pictures – that last one needs to be framed and put on the wall! Congrats on your darling baby boy, he’s too cute!

  44. Such Precious fun first moments. Thanks for sharing them with us. :)

  45. Congrats! So happy for you all! Such a lovely family. <3

  46. Awwwwww! Tearing up at those last few photos. Toby is so sweet with is new little brother. Glad to hear it all went smoothly! Obviously you guys are great, thoughtful parents.

  47. OH those last few picture make my eyes fill up, how sweet they are. Congrats Jo!

  48. You have a beautiful family. Congratulations!

  49. Toby is SUCH a cutie! And Anton too, I love the name! I wish you all the luck in the world for both of your boys and your whole family.
    Love from Austria,

  50. Yay! I am so happy for you! They are going to be the best of friends I know it! :)

  51. These pictures are so beautiful, Joanna! Alex looked so proud in each and every photo. I loved all of Toby’s quotes, he’s hilarious for being such a little man, and Anton is absolutely adorable. :) You two seem like such great parents, and your boys are incredibly lucky to have you. :)

  52. Ohhhh! Toby sounds like such a sweet boy. The last picture just made me melt! All the best to your family and your new addition :)

  53. Really cute pics. Congrats to you :)


  54. So lovely! Congrats mama.

  55. So glad to hear Toby is having a good time getting to know his brother, and that he’s adjusting well to the changes. It’s always cool to see that instant bond that siblings have – there’s nothing quite like it. :-)

  56. SO sweet!!! Congratulations on your family of 4!

  57. this just made me so happy, what a beautiful story and family you have! congratulations, so happy for you all! xo

  58. sososososos cute and i cracked up with ” the pictures on the wall are bothering me” ;p

  59. Congrats again!! I have three of my own and they either say or do things that amaze me everyday. One minute they cry for the other saying they miss them when gone and when they reunite they scream at each other saying they’re not friends anymore. Very age appropriate for 6, 3 and 1 year olds and very funny and cute. You’ll have many great stories to come. Can’t wait to read them!!

  60. The last picture of them together might be the sweetest thing I’ve ever seen! Oh your heart must be bursting with pride and love for them!! Congratulations!

  61. These photos are beyond perfect! And such a proud BIG Brother Toby is! Congratulations to you and your family!

  62. Congratulations! You have such a beautiful family!

  63. Wonderful photos of a beautiful family! Enjoy this time together!

  64. So beautiful, what gorgeous little boys! Toby is just the sweetest. Congratulations to you all x

  65. Congratulations on a very beautiful baby boy and such a gentle big brother! You did an amazing job of raising such a self-confident and sweet boy, he trusts you so much that he doesn’t feel left out or jealous. Enjoy the first few weeks as a family of four! Best wishes from Germany, I enjoy reading about you and your family every morning.

  66. Thank you so much for sharing! I got all teary myself! Toby is adjusting wonderfully it sounds! Good job Mama!

  67. OH how very special. I just love seeing how the transition form 3 to 4 went!

  68. Congrats! Enjoy your new family of 4 ;)

  69. Such a perfect meeting :) I hope that when we have a second child it goes just as smoothly

    ps:Anton is perfect (but you already knew that ;)

  70. Awl, this made me all teary! such a sweet family! congratulations!

  71. This gave me chills. Wishing you all the best.

  72. Congratulations to all of you! Toby looks all set to be a super older brother!

    On another note, we just bought the same co-sleeper, awaiting our first little one in August!

    • Do you mind if I ask what brand the co-sleeper is? Thank you in advance!

    • I was curious, too!!

    • Looks like an Arm’s Reach cosleeper to me. We were gifted one of these and loved it with our little one!

  73. So sweet! Those two are going to have some great adventures together.

  74. Our older daughter made a mess out of bedtime too – just crying whenever she heard the baby cry, and luckily it only lasted 2 days. Curious if you’re going to call him Tony and have Toby and Tony!

  75. Thank you for sharing this!! What a sweet time for you guys… Toby cracks me up “the pictures on the wall are bothering me,” Hahaha!

  76. That first picture is just amazing, you can tell how excited he is. Congrats again.

  77. How are you feeling? Best wishes to you and your family. Yes, things will get interesting from here on out so remember to give yourself a break every now and then. Of course, you now have double the joy to make you smile.

  78. Joanna .. this is maybe a goofy question, but how exactly do you pronounce Anton’s name? Like An-ten or Ant-on (as in off/on)?

    • Ditto to the question!

  79. So sweet! My little lady is only 7.5 months old and I can’t wait for her to be a big sister. Seeing Toby’s sweet proud face makes me even more excited. Congrats to the family of four!

  80. All looks lovely! Happy time for everyone. Really, it will be absolutely fine. Anton appears to be obligingly second-babyish. Almost comatose…how that helped when my second baby arrived.

  81. All looks lovely! Happy time for everyone. Really, it will be absolutely fine. Anton appears to be obligingly second-babyish. Almost comatose…how that helped when my second baby arrived.

  82. You are an amazing mom!!

  83. Oh, this makes me teary! As a mother of a 1.5 yr old son, we’re starting to consider when we will do this again, and these posts have filled me with hope and excitement (rather than fear, which is how I’ve felt for a while!). Thanks for sharing your life with us– it’s so sweet and love-filled.

  84. Thank you for sharing your super-sweet photos! I have two boys and they are so much fun. A family of four…so exciting!

  85. This is unbelievably sweet, tender, precious. Again you make me excited for motherhood.

  86. Oh my, so sweet!! We have three boys and the bond between brothers is so incredibly special. I am so very happy for you and your beautiful family!

  87. Oh my word, this is so sweet! Congratulations on such a beautiful family Joanna!

  88. Congratulations to all of you! Toby looks like such a proud big brother – I love it!!

  89. Ohhh, this is probably one of the sweetest and loveliest blog posts anywhere. Love it:)
    Congratulations on a beautiful family of four!

  90. I even teared up just reading this! How sweet! Very happy for you and your family of four!

  91. I have happy tears in my eyes for you, how sweet is this! Congratulations!!

  92. There’s so much love here! Huge congratulations to you and your beautiful family.

  93. Oh my goodness, I can understand why you would feel like a blubbery mess behind the camera. My eyes welled up a little all the way from down in South Carolina! Enjoy your precious gifts :)

  94. It melts my heart to see Toby excited and loving as a big brother!

  95. These pictures are so touching! Many congrats and thank you for sharing this beautiful moment in time from your family.

  96. It melts my heart to see Toby excited and loving as a big brother!

  97. Oh what a gorgeous moment to share with your readers. We are privileged to have a look at the first meeting between brothers.

  98. Those photos are adorable! What a sweet big brother (and little brother!!) xo

  99. I’m so sorry! congrats on your baby!!! He’s darling! I should’ve said that first:/

  100. This is such happy news – and I have to tell you, I LOVE his name! My brother in law has the same name, Anton James! That was so fun to see. We’re planning to incorporate the name into our family once we have kids too!

  101. Oh how sweet!!! The last few photos of him looking down at Anton are just too much :)

  102. Joanna! I LOOOOVE your blog. You are the coolest girl and I find you so easy to relate to. I have a question. I don’t know if you’ve done a blog post on diaper bags but I spent like a middle ground amount on a diaper bag and it started falling part just months after having him. I need a new one but am nervous to spend the money for something not great! Do you have any opinions on diaper bags? Do you have one you swear by?

  103. Congrats Joanna – your stories of motherhood are truly an inspiration to us ladies who are still biding our time!!

    • THIS a million times (especially the single gals!)

  104. “The pictures on the wall are bothering me..” — made me laugh! What a knucklehead. Congrats to all 4 of you — but especially Anton who has been blessed with an awesome family:)


  105. so beautiful and sweet – it made me weepy remember my two meeting one another. congratulations!!

  106. This post melts my heart and makes me even more confident that expanding our family will go well! Congratulations again! Your family is simply lovely!

  107. When I was small I told people they could “pet” my little sister when she was home from the hospital. My family still laughs about that now. Hah! Glad everything is going well. Beautiful family!

  108. I think this is the cutest thing I have ever seen! Congrats on your sweet family of four!

  109. Love reading about your experience – I feel like I have a friend going through the same life event I am. I just had my daughter on 7/4 and my son is 2.5 yrs old. The sibling relationship is so sweet!

  110. Tears over hear….sweetest interaction your hearts must be bursting!

  111. congrats joanna! these are the most tender pictures and descriptions! you inspire to make the meeting of 2nd babies to older siblings so much more meaningful! i seriously can’t wait to hear/see more of this cute babe!

  112. Amazing- such great tips from your readers about Toby first meeting Anton. Lovely photos of Alex and Toby… And of your two little boys too!! Congratulations again!

  113. J says...

    These pictures are adorable! My grandpa’s name was Anton :)

  114. Your boys are beautiful! Such a sweet set of photos. xoxo

  115. So, so sweet Joanna.. You’ve captured it brilliantly. Just precious :)
    Toby’s comment was brilliant!

  116. Whoosh, about to cry. Just beautiful, makes me want to give my sweet baby boy a sibling. Congratulations!!!

  117. this is so precious!!! i hope my LO will be just as loving whenever she becomes a big sister!

  118. So sweet! This brought back so many memories… my two boys are now 27 and 25! It only gets better. The very best to your family. Carolyn

  119. The pictures of Toby looking down at Anton are heart-achingly beautiful and sweet. So happy for your (now) family of four!

  120. SOOOO sweet! I’m looking forward to watching my son meet his new baby sister in October, and I can only hope it goes this well:)

  121. These pictures are beautiful, and I loved the tips for the older child’s first visit to the hospital! Such a sweet family.

  122. Nice pics.
    A lot of happiness for you and your beautiful family :)

  123. Hooray! Oh, that second baby is magical, isn’t it? To get to experience TWO children is such a miracle.

  124. How beautiful! Congrats again:)

  125. Sounds like an ideal and peaceful transition and a happy family of 4 :)

  126. CONGRATS!!!!! Anton is gorgeous! And Toby is such a big boy! Especially next to the new one:) It’s so wild to be so hooked in and affected by your life and not even know you. I feel like I do. xo

  127. So beautiful! And how adorable is Toby asking to “pet” his little brother. They are bound to be best friends!

  128. Toby saying that he wants to see him again sometime – I melted. :)

    Too sweet – and what GREAT pictures!

  129. What tender moments! He will maybe even remember snippets of those memories, if not what lovely photos to share with both of them when they are older. And then they were four… lovely. Enjoy.

  130. I remember bawling the first time I had my second baby and my first together. Sweet. You are a good mama.

  131. I am absolutely dying reading this post. My heart totally swelled up! Toby looks like such a proud big brother. Enjoy every minute :)

    • Same here! Such a sweet post.