I usually don’t get too jealous, but…
…instead of worrying about Alex’s current female friends, the one thing that can drive me weirdly nuts is imagining him with his past girlfriends. I picture them watching movies and cooking tacos on Sunday nights. I envision his girlfriends making jokes and him laughing. I picture them reading in bed. Aaarg.
I mean, at one point, he actually loved each one, right?
Then I just chill out because now we’re in love, so who cares? But now and again, I’ll get a masochistic streak and ask him questions about them. Over dinner, I’ll affect a breezy tone and ask, “What was your first date like with Nora?” or “Did Lacey come to your family’s house for Christmas?” I always think I want to know, but, no matter how innocuous his answer is, I always wish I hadn’t asked.
Well, artist Leanne Shapton was curious about this type of “backwards jealousy,” so she wrote a compelling illustrated book about people’s ex-girlfriends. I love how each illustration has a quote about the woman, a snippet that the current girlfriend has probably heard from her boyfriend that drives her nuts.
I’m curious: Do you suffer from “backwards jealousy,” too? What tidbits do you know about your partners’ exes?
(FYI: This topic was brought up on Glamour five years ago, and I wanted to write more about it now and show you guys this book)