Motherhood

How Many Kids Do You Hope to Have?

We are hoping to have…

…two! Now and again, we’ll get carried away (especially after an especially successful day of parenting:) and talk about how fun it would be to have four. But then we think about the logistics of our day-to-day lives, and realize that two is the magic number for us. Fingers crossed; knock on wood. And I would LOVE to see Toby as a big brother.

We’re thinking of “trying” for a second baby this fall or winter. We were very lucky and didn’t try with Toby; he was a welcome honeymoon surprise. But now we’ll be trying and then waiting each month to see what happens (I’ve heard a lot about the infamous “two week wait”). The whole process makes me excited and nervous. (And I can’t imagine how hard/disheartening it must be to keep on waiting…)

What about you? How many children do you hope to have? None? One, two, three? The more, the merrier? Not sure?

(Top photo by Mihaja Photography; bottom photo by Louis Fleckenstein)

  1. I have four children (two boys and two girls). They are all out of the house working and away at school. I had all four within 6 1/2 years so there wasn’t much thought put into “how many” to have, but I feel so blessed and fortunate to be the mother of these beautiful human beings.

  2. I had my 1st baby at 26 & i had the worse docs… long story short my son was born with cerbel palsy due to Docs mistakes that was 10 years ago. Now at 36 i think 1 more baby but when my son died it was the worst feeling to be somebodies mommy one day and the next day to be no bodies mommy so with that thought i think maybe i will have 4 or five but at 36 IDK if thats possible or if that is best. So i am still having the great debate with myself!

  3. (although, I should clarify… even though both kids were one-shot-wonders, they were both planned. They just came… instantly!) XOX

  4. hahaha – both of my kids are one-shot-wonders… really! Be careful, all it takes is a couple of glasses of red wine!

  5. We’re expecting our fifth baby, and I hope we have at least one more. When our first daughter was born, it was overwhelming (I was finishing up graduate school at the time), but now it’s wonderful. Nothing brings me greater happiness than raising my children. I’m also glad that we started having children when we were fairly young (I’m 29), because I’ve definitely noticed that it gets harder to bounce back from the sleepless nights!

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  7. I wish i could have 3… but I think two is a more realistic number in real life…
    I’ve tried with my first one…The wait always put me down once the period came in… But i shouldn’t complain much, it was quite fast (less than 1year after stopping with pills, but I lost :-( but then only 2 months after the miss carriage :-) )
    Now i am planning to start trying again sometime next year.
    I bet my little one will be a very good big brother :-)

    xx,
    A.

  8. I’m sure this sounds crazy to most but I’d love to have 5 kids! I’m one of seven and I love my huge, wonderful family. But I currently have 3 littles in a small 1 bedroom on the UWS and I’m SO worn out. I am hoping we can move out into the country in the next year and have more kids and outside spaces for them to independently explore.

    I have a friend here on the UWS who is pregnant with her 7th! The oldest is almost 9 years old, and there is a set of twins. They live comfortably in a 2 bedroom, and don’t use hired help. She, in my book, is a saint. She is seriously the most sweet and patient person and he inspires me.

  9. I’m sure this sounds crazy to most but I’d love to have 5 kids! I’m one of seven and I love my huge, wonderful family. But I currently have 3 littles in a small 1 bedroom on the UWS and I’m SO worn out. I am hoping we can move out into the country in the next year and have more kids and outside spaces for them to independently explore.

    I have a friend here on the UWS who is pregnant with her 7th! The oldest is almost 9 years old, and there is a set of twins. They live comfortably in a 2 bedroom, and don’t use hired help. She, in my book, is a saint. She is seriously the most sweet and patient person and he inspires me.

  10. We are very happy with our two ages 5.5 and 27 months. One girl, one boy. Not outnumbered! And feel like we’ll be able to fully give to each.

  11. I think 3! I would never have an only child and I don’t think I could cope with more than 3!

  12. christy says...

    We have five. It is crazy wonderful. None of them were “planned”, although I did say at one point (when I had only had one) that I thought 4 would be nice. He is getting a vasectomy in October. So 5 is definitely the magic number. Oh, I should mention, I am the oldest of 12.

  13. I come from a big family and it’s something that I’ve always wanted for myself. Maybe not quite as big, but five kids has always felt nice to me. People seem to favour even numbers, but when there was ‘just’ the four of us girls in my family, it was still odd because we didn’t pair up like we were ‘supposed to’, at least in getting along/relating/etc. And, to be completely honest, even with odd numbers, a child is never alone, that’s what having siblings is for.

  14. Anonymous says...

    I want people to start asking themselves how many more children the earth can handle.

  15. You are my breathing in, I have few web logs and often run out from to brand.

  16. I have the two I had hoped to have, and while there are days that I wonder what a huge family would feel like..I think the two are perfect — girl & boy — sister & brother, and they are adorable together!

  17. We want to have a child biologically AND we want to adopt, so at least 2!

  18. I just became a mom of a baby girl. I would like another baby to be her sibling. But just not right now. I barely even get some rest. lol

  19. Three. Fingers crossed; knock on wood. :) And I would love to see my little guy as a big brother, too.