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Articles Club

Confession: I hate winter. I always get the winter blues when it’s cold, dreary and gets dark at 4:30. So, in an effort to come up with fun wintertime activities, I had a lightbulb idea…

Let’s start an articles club this winter! An articles club would be just like a book club, but we’ll read articles. We’d all read the same story–from, say, The New Yorker or Elle–and chat over wine and snacks. It would be fascinating, timely and a much easier commitment than a book club (because, honestly, who ever finishes the book on time?:). And it would make the winter feel fun.

What do you think? Would you want to start one with your friends? I could post the articles, and we could chat about them online, too. Let me know!

P.S. I’m thinking this one for the first?

(Layout by Jennifer Hagler for Cup of Jo. Photo by Shannen Norman for Cup of Jo)

  1. I’m in.

  2. Brilliant idea Jo!! You’re such a clever cookie…very interesting first article too

  3. Jo, you’re speaking to me! Living through my first proper autumn (as in Berlin autumn not Sydney autumn) soon to be first proper winter and the blues are kicking in.
    Please do an online version though as english speaking friends are few and far between atm.
    Great idea! x

  4. Great idea! I live in Greece and i am a little bit far to join a book club. This on-line idea is fantastic.

  5. wow, what a great article, very thought provoking.

  6. Me too (about winter, and sad..) great idea, I’m in!

  7. Anonymous says...

    I loved the article! Thanks for sharing!

  8. That’s a great idea!!! I love reading articles! but its hard to find good ones!!!!

  9. What a great article, what a strong and courageous woman!!! I’m certainly not married but she has given me the strength I need in my own relationships. Thank you for posting the article. I am so interested in this potential article club, I’m actually giddy about it :)

  10. Anonymous says...

    Wow, I read Laura Munson’s book this summer which was truly wonderful. I really admire her for her Zen-nes and courage.
    I would never ever ever have stayed with my husband if he left me like that. I learned a lot from the book, but would not let myself be treated like a doormat. Respect to Laura. Everyone does things differently. There are bound to be problems in marriages but both have to be committed to fixing them, not just one person.
    I love the idea of the article club!!!

  11. Great idea! We have very cold winters !!!! It might help me to survive :DDDDDDD

  12. Världens bästa idé! I’m in!

  13. this is so creative. i love this idea. it’s much more realistic than a book club, isn’t it?

  14. This is a great idea! I’ve read that article before and when you first read it it’s SO shocking. What a brave, resilient woman for being able to get through such an ordeal unscathed. I don’t know what I would do in that situation…

    Maria xx
    http://www.cheekypinktulip.blogspot.com

  15. What an great idea. I really like your idea of article club in a winter session. You just start this, we all have supports to you.

  16. What a fabulous thought, Jo! I would love to get involved in a cyber discussion. Living in Utah, in-person discussions would be a bit difficult for me.

  17. K says...

    I’m in! What a good idea.

    This story is so interesting. I don’t know if I could forgive my husband if he did that. It seems like she was right, he was having a hard time, but how did she ever trust him again? Would she think that this could happen again? A good read. An interesting read, definitely modern love.

  18. Yes, please! We’re moving to Seattle (very sudden)from the sunny Bay Area smack in the middle of their dark and gloomy Winter. I don’t know a soul there and I love where I live now, so I’m terrified. I will need the distraction and stimulation!!

  19. Sounds great to me! I love the first article. So honest and real. We can beat winter together!

  20. Yes! I love talking about articles!

    adele

  21. I really like the articles club. and i just read that article—i’m ready to discuss it now…..

  22. Sounds like a genius idea to me!

  23. getting my phd in theatre history (and teaching a play analysis and styles course) means that every weekday is like an article club for me. I have to say, one of the best ways to fight the winter blues is to keep busy and do interesting things! I wonder if you will find your article club inspires all kinds of additional thoughts/ideas/inspiration – I know that as I hit the end of each quarter, I’m usually exploding with ideas in all areas of my life – and my breaks are always incredibly full of creative release. I really do think that cultivating your mind has positive results in all areas of life!

  24. ,,,i love winter and i love this idea!(smile),,,please count me in,,,

  25. count me in!

  26. yes indeed. fantastic idea. i’m in.

  27. I’m in! I love the idea, and what a fantastic article to start with!

  28. I’m not married or in love for that matter….but I can still relate. I don’t know how I feel about the article but it made me think and definitely opened my eyes…

  29. I lovelovelove this idea and I loved that article!

  30. Great idea! I can probably happily pass the winter writing essays about those modern love essays :)

  31. judy gal says...

    Brilliant idea!! And a very thoughtful choice as a beginning…

    Thank you..looking forward to the next article.

  32. Oh, I read this article a couple years ago. It’s great!!

  33. Christine in Toronto says...

    I could not love this more.

  34. I’m in! I love this idea! Who has time to read an entire book when you work full time with a toddler, anyway?

  35. Fabulous! I was trying to get a book club going online with my FB followers, but no takers! Fine, I’ll just join you, over hot cocoa or black tea, twix and the best lemon loaves. Let’s read!!

  36. wow! I’m super jealous! Wish I lived nearby so I could join this article club! I’ll totally be part of the online one!!

    Great idea, Joanna! ;)

  37. This is great! I read this article around the time it came out, and it still brings up such strong feelings!

  38. I love this idea! Can’t wait to curl up in bed and read the first article . xoxo

  39. I love the idea of an articles club! :] especially one that begins with a modern love story. I’m obsessed with that section.

  40. thanks for all these comments and enthusiasm!!!! i am PSYCHED!!! and jossie, awesome point about the vitamin d drops, am going to buy some tomorrow :)

  41. That sounds pretty cool! I guess it’s sort of an abbreviated book club? Either way, I’d love to see the articles and the discussion, even if I like winter enough to not need the cheering!

  42. Raras Rumanti says...

    it’s an inspiring article, and it boosts my strength. thanks for sharing. can’t wait for the discussion to spur.

  43. i’m in!

    pretty sure i’m also in love with this article.

  44. That was an amazing article. Thank you for sharing! And an article club would be fun!

  45. That’s an article of book proportions! ( great idea, I’m in)

  46. LOVE this idea, especially since i never seen to have the attention span for books lately….

  47. I want to do this!

  48. I think that’s a great idea, although it would have to be a substantial article. Maybe a magazine club or a New Yorker Club would give you more to talk about?

    Have you heard about the new trend of Cookbook Clubs where everyone reads a cookbook and when they get together to talk about it, each person picks a recipe to make and bring? I live in New York and I really want to start one!

    -Laura

    http://okayiknow.blogspot.com/

  49. omg no way I read this article the DAY it came out, in 2009! I stalk the Modern Love column, love it. I so look forward to the newest articles. I’ve legit read EVERY single one. This one is definitely thought provoking….I don’t know that I would have done the same!

  50. Fabulous idea! I was in a similar situation with my live in love years ago. He told me he didn’t love me anymore and I told him to look me in the eyes and say that as I didn’t believe him. He couldn’t. He was scared that was what it boiled down to. 11 years later we are still together and going strong!

  51. brilliant idea and a great, thought-provoking article! The notion of pride and shame is so insiduous and yet almost taboo – it’s at the heart of so many of our issues, our broken egos, our guilt and shames, yet paradoxically that’s the very thing that prevents us from facing up and confronting them.

    you should also check out longform.org – it’s dedicated to long form pieces and some of them are so mindblowing and rewarding to read. (I find the site super handy to pass the time in waiting rooms!)

  52. This is such a cool idea! It’s perfect for all the over-worked, over-committed people I know. Also, the article? Incredible.

  53. Love the idea and loved this article.

  54. Oh yes! I have read about magazine clubs before and thought it was an inspired idea. Anxious to hear more about the online side of it…

    Thanks for doing this!

  55. I’m in!

  56. Brilllllllllllllliant idea – I’m in.

    As for the winter blues – go get some Vit D drops – and make sure you take them every single day. Part of the blues is the lack of sun and your body having Vit D withdrawal – can’t tell you what a difference it makes.

  57. I’m in!!!!!

  58. I’m in! I get the winter blues too and I’m in a colder climate this year. Love the idea :)

  59. I’m in for the article club. Loved the first article. Great selection.

  60. Love the idea of an articles club – brilliant! (also laughing b/c I’ve actually read the book that this article is based on – it’s FABULOUS)

  61. Count me as the 225th person that thinks your idea is brilliant. And Modern Love! It is one of my favorite things about the SUnday paper :)

  62. An articles club is a great idea!
    By the way, I thought the article was great. I am neither married nor with children but I loved her approach to the predicament she found herself in.

  63. This Modern Love article just floored me. I’m utterly speechless and awed by how the writer gave her husband space and patiently waited for him to love her again. What a story of strength! -Jennifer

  64. I remember reading this article over 2 years ago? I think you had posted it, and I had read it right before i got married. Now married, it has taken on a whole new meaning. Such an inspiring article – thanks for sharing!

  65. What a great idea! I love reading magazine articles, especially ones that provide fodder for discussion. The one you posted is just amazing. Such a testament to fierce, enduring love that doesn’t give in, even when it’s challenged. So incredible.

  66. That’s a wonderful idea! I would love to participate, and at least have links to the articles you end up using – I’m always looking for interesting things around the web or print :)

  67. Great idea…great article. That women has class and a lot of wisdom.
    xo jana

  68. Such a fantastic idea! Looking forward to seeing the other articles you post. And, of course, hearing what others have to say about this recent one – I was blown away!

  69. Fantastic idea! You are not alone; I get the winter blues, too. I’d definitely read and discuss online. Something to look forward to :-)

  70. What a lovely idea! I would love to take part :)

  71. I read that article and I loved it. If that’s the type of article you want for a club, I’m in!

  72. Yes, yes, yes! I agree completely! I always feel the same way during early winter darkness-I usually find myself sifting through the netflix choices before I decide nothing looks appealing, then I go to bed early. LAME! And not very uplifting either! I would much rather spend some time reading an interesting article and discussing via internet with some wine! Best idea EVER!

  73. Yes, please. That’s an amazing idea!

  74. LOVE this idea! I jumped ahead and read the article. Fascinating! I have so many conflicting thoughts about it. I can’t wait to discuss!

  75. What a great idea. :)

    I read the article just now while my little one is asleep. The first thing that struck me when I finished was how easily it could have gone the other way. She says it was his pride that was hurt, but it seemed strange to me that his pride would recover by watching her do all of those things with the family without him.
    If it were me in the husband’s shoes I might feel resentful and hurt that my family could so easily go on without me being an active part of it.

    I also wonder whether her husband would have paid her the same courtesy if she’d had such a meltdown.

    But it was a fascinating read and I’m glad it worked out for them. :)

  76. oh same here… winter can get way too grey and I’m loving the articles club idea!

  77. You’re a genius. I can’t wait for this to start up!

  78. i love this idea and loved the article, as well.

  79. What a great idea! And a great article!

  80. This is a great idea!

  81. I think thats a great idea!

  82. Angela says...

    That’s a great idea! Thank you :) Have a great day. xo

  83. Luciana Clark says...

    What a great idea! Count me in!!!!

  84. Such a great idea! I hate winter so much.. this would be a great pick-me-up! :)

  85. Definitely down with this. Hurrah!

  86. I love it!

  87. dp says...

    great idea and less commitment with an article vs. a book.

  88. I love this idea! I live in Nunavut, Canada (the Arctic) so it’s already very dark here and it’s been snowing since September. This will make me hap hap happy!

  89. I actually shared this story back then with a friend going through something similar with her husband and it TOTALLY worked. They’re happy as bees today.

  90. Love the idea! :)

  91. This is a great idea!! Also, that article was so powerful. That had to be some of the toughest times to deal with. I don’t know if I would be able to remain so level headed.

  92. i’m ALL in and would love to participate! kudos for coming up with such a lovely way to connect and enjoy the winter ahead! xo.

  93. This is a wonderful idea! I love reading, but with a 20-month-old toddler, never have the time anymore. I just read the article you posted in 5 minutes and it had ups, downs, tears and a smile… All the points a great novel has, but within a much, much, much shorter {and more convenient} time frame. Loved it. Great idea.

  94. oh joanna, i appreciate you! thanks for thinking of fun ways to build community and spread encouragement through a dreary winter.

  95. i love this idea. especially if we could do an online sharing type of thing. magazine articles are becoming some of my favorite things to read. short, sweet, and to the point.

  96. I love this idea! I am going to be in nyc for this fall (possibly much longer) and would love to chat with some interesting gals!

  97. awesome idea! i never finish books on time either. the library has been profitable since i’ve been made a cardholder. :/
    and also…i’ve read that article! it was really inspirational.

  98. I LOVE this idea. I am in a book club and really enjoy it but I love love love to read and this would be such a fun way to branch out from just books! I read the article and have some opinions on it and would definitely be interested in hearing what others think too!

  99. Yeah! Good idea.

  100. A lovely idea! So… I would love to! I hate winters as well and I’ve always wanted to join a book club but I’m just not that quick on reading books… But articles are manageable! :)

    Love,
    Nancy

  101. Leanne says...

    Just sent that to ALL my female friends. Just amazing.

    Love the idea!

  102. I adore this article; I’ve read it over and over since I first came across it about a year ago, and it continues to give me hope in the establishment of marriage.

    And love the idea of an articles club!

  103. i really enjoyed reading that article. i’m not married yet but hearing about situations like that is always eye-opening. i really like hearing stories about people who stick it out.

  104. I think this is a great idea and much easier for most people to commit to in comparison to a book club.

  105. i think this is an absolutely brilliant idea. not everyone has time to commit to book club discussions, but most anyone can set aside a half hr or so to discuss an interesting article. and this is a great first pick. although a bit above my maturity level and personal experience, i find it incredibly enlightening

  106. Great article!

    Differentiation keeps one sane and gives the other an opportunity to become sane.

  107. that’s an awesome idea; please do it!

  108. I love this idea! So in :)

  109. Just read the article, so much food for thought but I had the same “my happiness is up to me” attitude early on in my marriage. My happiness increased by a million percent. I also know a couple who could be this marriage and it is interesting to see it from the woman’s point of view. Thanks for the great recommendation!

  110. I love the articles club idea!!! I’ll go for it! When will be oye first “online” meting? Xoxo

  111. I love this idea. When do we start?

  112. I love the idea! And would love to be a part of this articles club.

    Great first article by the way. I love how she held the fort down. She was unshakable and believed that what her husband was going through was not going to be permanent.

    I can’t imagine how I would handle it 15 more years down the road with my husband. I wouldn’t know if I can do it the same way she did. But I do hope that it won’t even happen to me. That’s what I’m going to believe.

  113. I’m right there with you…I can hardly stand the long dreary winter, and every year it’s a struggle to motivate myself to do anything at all. But I LOVE this articles club idea! I would definitely enjoy the online interaction, but I may have to set up something local too. Simply brilliant! Thank you!

  114. It’s times like these I wish I lived in New York! Yes, I would LOVE to be a part of it – online. :)

  115. Yes please, I love this idea!! I’m a little biased as long-form journalism is what I want to do with my life, but ah well.

    You should check out longform.org, my narrative non-fiction prof mentioned it two years ago and it’s fabulous – they send you a long piece every Saturday morning (the last was Elizabeth Gilbert’s piece on Hank Williams III-!!!) it’s become my personal article club.

  116. love your idea! So much easier than having to commit to an entire book (that you may or may not even like)

    I must have read that article 100 times in the past. I think it’s so amazing.

  117. Fantastic idea! Growing up, I frequently teased my father about how often the words, “I read an article recently…” came out of his mouth. Of course, now I’m the one constantly saying the same.

    Thanks for this article too. It so perfectly sums up what I’ve been trying to encourage amongst friends going through a similar experience lately. If only they could be so strong…

  118. What a nice idea. After having a baby I felt I have lost my reading leisure time. I love to read and discuss my thoughts.

    *~LoVe & Strenght~*….52NewDays

  119. wonderful i would love to sign up and do it. I think its so much better than a book club. Articles are strait sweet to the point and you can even change them up.

  120. I am in!

    This is a great idea, as a mother of a 1 year old, I feel lucky when I can catch up on the New Yorker, etc, much less my books.

    I read a few months ago about a bunch of women who started a New Yorker club in Washington, DC (where I live).

  121. I LOVE this idea! Book clubs can be hard to stick with sometimes. :) This seems great! I also hate the winter and try to find things to look forward to. This would be fun. Perhaps I’ll start one here in Nashville.

  122. Lewis says...

    I love this idea! I’m in! I also love this article. Her book about the same topic is great – I actually read it for my book club, and it made for a really interesting discussion.

  123. Oh, let’s please! I love to discuss the things I read with friends, but no one is ever reading what I’m reading! And articles are much more manageable for a club!