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Have a Sweet Weekend.

Lucy and Anton

What are you up to this weekend? After three years, we finally figured out who Anton looks like: my twin sister! Aren’t they basically the same three-year-old? Also, this weekend, we’re going to visit our friends in Connecticut and walk in the woods. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

I work from home.” Made me laugh.

I gave the same birthday present to my mom, my sister and myself.

How to serve a killer cheese plate with just ONE cheese.

What a cool Airbnb.

What it means to dress like a woman. Zing!

Would you put your phone away for your ENTIRE vacation?

I’d love to wear this on a date.

7 money questions to start a conversation.

A dating app that matches people based on things they dislike.

Love this bread basket, of all things.

Tote bags to support the ACLU, and a tote to support Planned Parenthood.

(Cheese via Emily. Money questions via Swissmiss.)

  1. Brittany says...

    My husband and I go camping purposely to take tech breaks. It is so nice. :)

  2. Emma says...

    Hi Joanna, just want to let you know that I have a friend who also makes beautiful tote bags with all proceeds supporting the ACLU and Planned Parenthood. They are based out of New York and they don’t have a website, but their Instagram is @orcasisters if you want to take a look! :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you so much, emma!

  3. Candice says...

    I never mentioned it but always thought Anton looked like your sister Lucy.

  4. Nazeefah says...

    Joanna I’ve always thought that Anton looks like like your twin!

  5. Laurel says...

    I HAVE put my phone away for an entire vacation!!! IT IS AMAZING AND I TOTALLY RECOMMEND IT!

  6. The bread basket was a pleasant surprise. I love that country French look. :)

  7. i can easily do the break/vacay sans gadgets, except a camera /point and shoot :) im that friend that can go a whole dinner outing with friends without taking the phone out bc i sincerely dont need to i just love listening and looking at the people and things around me sorry i sound so spacey but i do im enamored by all the interaction ballet those things are super easy to miss also terrible tho, if someone needs me to see a text while at it oh well. a wild rarity perhaps havent logged into fb approx 3 years, possibly more.. etcetc

  8. Always a pleasure reading your beautiful blog, Joanna! You never cease to amaze me

  9. Christina Vieyra says...

    We would (and do) put our phones away for a vacation. Our annual summer vacation spot is on a small lake with no wi-fi and it’s glorious. 7 whole days of being off the grid. I can’t recommend it highly enough!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that sounds so nice!

  10. Jess says...

    I bought the “first they came for reality” tote – love it and love that the proceeds go to the ACLU.

  11. Lena says...

    OHMYGOD that airbnb is my hometown!!! It was so dorky and small when I lived there! And now it’s cool!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that’s amazing!!!

  12. OMG, I couldn’t stop laughing reading that “I work from home” piece from the New Yorker. I’m working on going outside at least once a day.

  13. One of my twin sister’s kids looks exactly like me also! It’s so funny how that happens.

  14. That airbnb place looks gorge, i’m so desprate to go to mexico – it’s so exotic for us english! whereas Cali peeps can go so easily!
    Leving my phone off/at home during a vacation feels impossible! altho i love checking social media (well i am a blogger!) its good to switch off now and then i guess and try to enjoy the moment
    http://thewanderlusthasgotme.blogspot.co.uk/2016/08/food-pics-are-my-favourite.html

  15. They look almost the same! So cute!!

  16. Brooke says...

    I just started a job working from home. That New Yorker piece had me crying-laughing. So funny, thanks for sharing.

  17. Zoe says...

    Hey there, I know you have written about creative ways for voices to be heard and I just had to share what one women from the city of sisterly and brotherly love has started. This women started a campaign to buys back Senitor Tummey’s vote. Brilliant!

  18. Lynn says...

    Slow walkers! I hate slow walkers! Although I’m married (not to a slow walker, thankfully) I’m happy to see they made the app’s list.

  19. Jeannie says...

    I’m laughing at the “wild” notion of putting one’s phone away for an entire vacation. I’m 29 and gave up owning a smart phone a few years ago; don’t regret it for one second! :) Because I have an un-cool flip cell that just makes calls (I can’t even text out), there’s absolutely no reason to take it out during my vacations lol!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that’s awesome, jeannie! i might just follow your lead :)

  20. Emily says...

    My daughter looks exactly like my sister, too! It’s so hilarious as she doesn’t have kids and I’m the one who grew her in my belly. Happy weekend!

  21. ha funny that you’ve just discovered who anton looks like. i remember seeing a photo of the 2 boys where anton looks like your sis and toby looks like you :)

  22. Katie says...

    You hit it out of the park this week. Thank you for being a bright spot in my day.

  23. I had a phone-free 10 day cruise to the Southern Caribbean over Christmas and New Years. It was heavenly!

  24. MM says...

    Unrelated to the above but I was hoping to make a request for a topic of discussion, which is especially poignant today. I am wondering about the best way to deal with sexism in the workplace. My boss is an old school man who has made it clear in his interactions with his team that he believes men are better adept at coming up with ideas and working in general. I have some of the highest metrics on the team, have done some of the more complex projects and have recently won an industry award for my work within our industry designation program. Other women on the team are behind a lot of the positive changes and training implemented for our new department, and have contributed significantly to the success of our team. And yet, whenever we have team meetings, we are hushed, talked over and blatantly ignored. Our accomplishments go completely unrecognized, meanwhile if a male on the team so much as saves $1 for the company, they are praised excessively. Our ideas are stolen and implemented by him. And if a male team member basically rephrases a suggestion or comment one of us ladies makes just seconds before, suddenly it’s the greatest idea and they are given the reigns on it. My friend has gone to HR about this, but there isn’t much they can do without proof and it will make things incredibly awkward. I have also broached the subject of him hushing me in meetings and nothing has changed. How can we make our voices heard and contributions recognized without rocking the boat or getting ourselves fired?

    • Jeannie says...

      Wow, I’m so sorry that’s happening and I’m sure this goes down at other companies/organizations. I’d definitely be interested in reading about what others women have to offer in tackling this!! Power to you.

    • Sarah says...

      I don’t know if I have great advice, but the part where it would make things awkward stands out to me. Perhaps reframe that and be willing to make it awkward to make a change? There are legal protections against sexism in the workplace, perhaps you can consult a lawyer about how to document the proof needed for your HR department. Legally, they cannot fire you for claiming sexism. Good luck, I understand your desire to not rock the boat, but we women have to stick together and refuse to be ignored!

    • Louise says...

      Ooh, that sounds really tough . . . I work in a fairly male-dominated field in academia and have had some issues before with a guy who would interrupt me frequently on conference calls to basically repeat what I had just said. I found it helped to just keep talking and not cede the floor. Not forever, mind you, but enough that I could finish my summary or comment.

      I’m afraid that may not be so helpful to you especially if your boss actively hushes you(!). This person wasn’t my boss, and generally just seemed more enthusiastic than trying to take credit. Does it help for you to echo another woman’s idea in meetings? Like, “Oh, Nicole, that would be great for . . . ” Then, you’re reinforcing that Nicole had this idea and that it was heard as her idea.

    • Are there any senior women in your workplace who could serve as a mentor for you? Or perhaps another female leader in the industry who you could approach for help? Maybe you could band together with the other women in your meetings to do something like this http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/09/heres-how-obamas-female-staffers-made-their-voices-heard.html .

      Do you have an ombudsman program available in your organization (or city or state)? It might be worth looking into. Also, if there is any way of gathering evidence (short of the tape-recorder-in-the-briefcase trick a-la George Costanza) I would start doing that now. If you have an EAP benefit it would be free to speak with a counselor, preferably one with career counseling expertise, about this issue.

      This is a systemic issue that you shouldn’t have to tackle on your own. Since there are some other women in your workplace, it’s time to work together on this. You shouldn’t have to deal with this, and I’m sorry that you are. Stay strong!

  25. Kirsten says...

    Hi Joanna

    Maybe one for the next weekend post? ;) America first, who wants to be second? Follow along on:

    http://www.everysecondcounts.eu/

  26. HA- that working from home piece! Totally nailed it (although I am proud to say that I DID workout this morning… but I also will admit that I ate a large amount of ham for lunch today- weirdly wrapped in lettuce leaves). The New Yorker knows me well!

  27. There is a resort in the Keys where you are forced to “unplug”. One can earn screen time credits based off the number of hours you left your phone locked in their safe. Sounds like a wonderful place to me!

  28. Kathy says...

    Anton and your sister look JUST ALIKE!!! What a fun discovery!

  29. Wow, great links, and that AirBnb is unreal!

  30. Andrea says...

    So funny-my daughter looks like my twin. In fact, when we are all together, people think my twin is the mom, and I am the aunt! And one day my daughter asked me, “since Hanna is your twin is she also my mommy?”

    • JessicaD says...

      On pictures that I post to Facebook of my daughter and me together, Facebook will ask if I want to tag my *daughter* as ME!! She looks more like me than I do? So bizarre!

  31. Brittney says...

    I’ll preface this by saying that my comment is completely not meant to be disrespectful, but a personal goal of mine is to fact check all assertions in politics. I do it for my own peace of mind because encouraging fake news from all sides is throwing gasoline to the fire. People are sensitive and reactionary. I’m absolutely a feminist, but the Donald Trump’s dress code news hasn’t been validated as a fact yet. Sure, he could have said something like that, but DID he? I think we owe it to ourselves to fact check as much as we can to ease some of the volatility today.

    • Anna says...

      The nymag says that his comment was “alleged”… but either way, its cool to see the different inspiring ways that women dress.

    • Anitra Sweet says...

      Thank you! I agree with you. EVERYTHING must be fact checked from ALL sides. Journalism 101 in my opinion. I agree that it definitely sounds like something D.T. would say but it’s considered unproven so why report about it? Seems irresponsible to me. Cup of Jo has a lot of credibility with me so I am somewhat disappointed.

  32. The Airbnb looks amazing.

    • Emily says...

      There are over 600 Planned Parenthood clinics. I would guess all of them provide prenatal services other than abortion, and can name a bunch within a few hours of my house that do. Maternal mortality rates doubled in Texas between 2000 and 2014 as a result of the state forcing the closure of Planned Parenthoods and similar clinics. That said, even if Planned Parenthood only offered abortion services, they would still be providing a safe space for women to exercise their legal rights.

    • Rose says...

      Please stop spreading fake news. The same writers also claimed that PP had removed prenatal care from it’s website. They did not:
      https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/pregnancy/prenatal-care. Not all clinics provide prenatal care nor do all clinics provide abortions as they are not equipped to do so due to funding constantly being cut. What they do always provide is services to prevent unintended pregnancies, Pap test, breast exams, STD test and lots of educational services on safe and responsible sex. You would think that anti-abortion advocates would applaud them for the yearly 579,000 pregnancies they prevent. And please don’t try to tell me that you should only have sex if you’re ready to have a baby. I, like many others, am in a committed relationship of 5+ years. We are engaged but waiting to get married and start a family after we complete graduate school and are established in our careers. I have never gotten pregnant thanks to modern medicine and healthy, sex positive sex-ed in my youth. Anti-abortion groups would have me not have sex unless I was ready for a baby. Ridiculous! It’s pretty simple, if you’re against abortion, don’t get one. But let the rest of the world make their own choices. You may believe a sack of cells is a baby but I don’t. Just as I would never force you to keep a tumor you didn’t want, please,stay out of our choices.

    • SeaKelp says...

      I was thinking the same thing! If PP is to be taken seriously, they can’t false advertise like that.

    • Jamie says...

      Rose, exactly! :)

  33. MK says...

    These tote bags! Yesssssss.
    As an aside, I really appreciate that the Cup of Jo team has decided to have a point of view re: what is happening in our country and around the world. There are other blogs I follow who have barely uttered a peep about it. I’m not sure if this was a big conversation or if it was just- yes, this is what we are doing. The silence I hear from other sites is deafening. By saying nothing, they are saying something.
    #resist

    • Gem says...

      I totally agree!!!
      Their silence makes me think of that Desmond Tutu quote: If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.
      Go COJ. Love you guys x

    • Christina says...

      I agree! Kudos to you, Joanna, for speaking your mind and putting yourself & Cup of Jo out there. I’m sure you’ve lost a few readers but the rest of us love what you’re posting! XO

    • Claire says...

      Here here!

    • lynn mckoy says...

      THIS!!!!

  34. jean says...

    OK. My heart is bursting. I literally said, “aw” out loud when I saw these pictures.

  35. Haha, that New Yorker piece is hilarious. Though I miss my days of freedom being at home! *insert all the crying emojis*
    Also, that Airbnb is ridiculously amazing. Like, I can’t imagine a more peaceful escape. <3
    http://www.wonderlandsam.com

  36. Julia says...

    The ACLU online store has a surprising variety of cute things too! I just donated to them the other day and happened to scope it out. My fave is the dog tee that says Civil Liberties Watch Dog :)

  37. Emily R says...

    No phone on vacation. TOTALLY! Sounds like a dream.

    Also, that dating app sounds amazing.

  38. yael steren says...

    I think I’m actually going to watch the Super Bowl. I recently watched the Amazon TV show All of Nothing, and I found it really interesting and it sparked my interest!! I highly recommend it even if you don’t like football!! And then I have to prep for New York Fashion Week!! Hope you have a wonderful weekend!! xx

    http://www.yaelsteren.com/blog/

  39. those totes! i’m definitely in need of one (or two!) they would make great gifts too!

    xo, brittany
    http://www.notablob.com