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Have a Lovely Weekend.

Brooke Fitts

What are you up to this weekend? Alex and I are going to a cocktail party tonight and I’m looking forward to dressing up. I also want to carve out some time to catch up on the stack of magazines on our coffee table — one of life’s simple pleasures. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

Can’t decide if this sweater is totally amazing or weird.

17 iconic movie scenes that were actually improvised.

Spaghetti with fried eggs. Yum.

Stella did this mask with friends, and said it was crazy and awesome. (It BUBBLES!)

My son looks like Danny DeVito.”

What’s the first bite of Thanksgiving dinner that you shovel into your mouth?

Walking lifts your mood, even when you don’t expect it to.

How to host a fancy dinner party for $50.

Cool new emojis for 2017.

Japanese students — not janitors — are in charge of keeping their schools shipshape.

The compliment project.

Plus, two reader comments…

From Nadja: “I think that, conventionally, we’re supposed to present the ‘best’ (read: most socially acceptable) version of ourselves on first dates – and that kind of mindset makes us want to hide whatever our ‘weird’ things are. My first date advice is to BE the weird version of yourself! Chances are, those weird things are actually the things you find most interesting about yourself, even if they aren’t cool in a mainstream way. If the guy is into your weirdness, it’s the best way to make a connection, and you know he’s really into YOU.”

From Jenny: “My friend and I had this ritual of singing ‘Eye of the Tiger’ to each other over the phone before a first date to help calm each other’s nerves.”

(Photo by Brooke Fitts/Instagram. Spaghetti via Hither & Thither. Movie scenes via Girl of a Certain Age. Emojis via Swissmiss.)

  1. Catherine says...

    Not only in Japan but in most Asian countries (Korea, China, Taiwan, Phillippines, etc) all the students pitch in to help clean! Public or private schools!

  2. “squishy hoagie roll” – LOL.

  3. Your carefully curated list of links always sets my weekend off to a great start. Thanks Jo :-)

  4. I hope you had a wonderful time dressing up! That sounds so fun.

    My little family is getting ready to fly back to our hometown in CA from Seattle. I can’t believe it’s already Thanksgiving week! Cheers, everyone!

    http://www.thewefiles.com

  5. Melissa says...

    Laughing so hard at the Danny DeVito link, because our one year old totally looks like Buzz from Home Alone right now!

  6. rach says...

    The sweater needs to go! It’s shocking.

    • rach says...

      I feel like even the model wearing it is laughing a little.

  7. Amanda says...

    I’m so glad I clicked on the dinner party article! Normally I feel like those write-ups are always very run of the mill, but I found the recipes in this article so delicious-sounding, and Amiel’s frankness and humor had my fiancee and I giggling. What a funny and delicious link – thanks so much!

  8. I love the article about the $50 dinner party! Just goes to show that entertaining can be simple and affordable

  9. Laura C. says...

    Definitely weird, poor sweater.

  10. GoldenMoon says...

    That sweater is weird. Thanks for letting me think about something mindless for a change this week!

  11. Hahaha, I love the ‘Eye of the Tiger’ one. Good one to keep in mind for the next time I’m going to do sth I’m nervous about :)

    Nadine Cathleen | Karateandcaviar.com

  12. Rachel S says...

    Thanks for sharing the article about the Japanese students taking care of their school! I attended a Montessori school from 2 years-9th grade and we had a very similar set up. At the end of the day students rotated through chore lists- folding laundry, sweeping the floor, cleaning tables, wiping mirrors and windows, and cleaning the bathroom sinks. We did have a janitorial staff that took care of maintenance, but we were responsible for general upkeep of the rooms. As a college student, I’m shocked at the number of people who don’t know how to clean a bathroom, do laundry, or wash dishes.

    • naseem says...

      As a Montessori guide (the word Montessorians use in lieu of “teacher”), hearing this makes me so happy!

  13. I love the idea of a $50 fancy dinner party. I may have to try that before we move. This weekend I plan on doing nothing. I just decided to move with my boyfriend around the country while he opens bars, Austin being the first stop then Denver.

    This week has been crazy. I celebrated turning 30, my boyfriend left for Austin again which put me in tears (before we decided I should join for real) and found out my high school friend/boyfriend was one of the service men who died in the Bagram suicide bombing in Afghanistan. He was 30 years old.

    A friend of mine told me the super moon made people more emotional then normal, especially scorpios. It couldn’t have been a rougher week. Im using the weekend to real, write down memories of John and be thankful for those who put themselves in danger everyday regardless if they have a wife and two young children. This is partially why this move, while it sounds scary, is important. Our time is limited and we should take advantage of every opportunity that arises. At least when I knew him, John always lived his life like that.

    For some reason typing all of this seems easier than talking to people. I didn’t feel comfortable talking to my Pilates clients about it, but this group of women are so supportive. Thank you for listening and maintaining such a great blog. It is really appreciated, especially during the hard times.

    • Laura C. says...

      Go on, Maggie. I am so sorry for your loss. Will be praying for him tonight.
      Have a lovely weekend
      Xoxo

    • I’m so sorry to hear about your HS boyfriend. That’s terrible. And I’m sorry that your current boyfriend moved! What a tough week. Hope you had a nice weekend.

    • Ingrid says...

      Sending thoughts of strength and sympathy on the loss of your friend (both for you and his family) and best wishes for safe and happy travels with your boyfriend…

  14. Loving the Danny Devito one!

  15. Angela says...

    Yeah, crossed fingered emoji. Why is this not on the radar?

    Also, I’m kind of obsessed with the “students clean their own school” concept… Helps break down that sense of entitlement that adults love to complain kids have (as they should because, well, they do), and it seems like an equalizer…Everyone does it, rich/poor, white/black/brown/etc., male/female. Great idea.

  16. Little Danny Devito…. Lol adorable!!! Spaghetti with fried eggs – yum. Love the idea of the Compliment Project, especially right now when everything is so crazy. It’s a nice way to kind of regroup.

    Erm, the sweater is a no. Sorry. :(

  17. Polyana says...

    I love the article on students who clean their own schools. We had something similar at my school, a very small private K-12 school in Connecticut, for grades 6-12, and it’s called “Self Help”. We didn’t realize it at the time, but it was such an incredible life lesson to work together and keep a common space clean and put together. Makes you appreciate your environment so much more! Plus, as seniors, we got to run each area, which we were assigned to, and there were prefects for different parts of campus. Leadership skills!

  18. In the Philippines, public schools and some private schools (like ours) task students (grade school and high school) in cleaning the classrooms. There will still be maintenance staff to take care of common areas and bigger spaces though. It’s a good way to teach the students to be responsible with their surroundings and to be respectful to janitors by understanding their work!

  19. PB in PDX says...

    Thanks for the link to the Compliment Project. Our elementary school is focused on kindness this month. I am going to print these out and put them up throughout our school this weekend. What a great idea for spreading kindness and putting out a positive vibe as we head into a stressful season. I love it!

  20. Beth says...

    I may be the only one but the sweater is amazing…

  21. Janine says...

    I’m with you, Joanna. My knee jerk response to the sweater was, “Wow, it’s so great!” immediately followed by, “Oh, wait, it’s weird.”

    I think it’s the proportions that throw you off. The colors are fantastic, but then you notice it’s sort of cropped AND it has bell sleeves AND the knit is really thick and raised in places. The weirdness starts piling up the longer you look at it.

    I’m not sure if anyone could ever wear this sweater, it would definitely wear them.

    • LOL, YES!

  22. Maria in Maine says...

    Not liking the sweater..a bit Star Trekie with the blue…

  23. Eleise says...

    Sweater has ‘What was I thinking?’ written all over it. Among other things.

  24. Anna says...

    I am totally fascinated by the Bon Appetit menu… the food looks and sounds delicious, and I am totally trying that Marcella sauce! The writing, however is also what interests me. It seems that casual, slightly condescending writing is the preferred delivery in journalism these days. I am both charmed and put off by it at the same time… I don’t mean this in a grouchy way, just observing!

    • Katherine says...

      Just going to quickly vouch for the Marcella Hazan tomato-onion-butter sauce! I’ve made it a million times and it is as good as the writer says. I usually put a clove or two of garlic in too :)

  25. Nancy says...

    My 12 year old says the sweater is wierd. I trust her.

  26. allison says...

    Ha, weird sweater! It’s a “no” in my book. Also, at my private highschool in CT we had “work duties” where we all had a mandatory “job” (unpaid) to help keep the school clean and functioning- it could be anything from “dishes” (known as THE WORST- working in the dish pit in the kitchen), to being a tour guide for perspective students (THE BEST). As a freshman my job was to sweep a hallway in the art building one trimester, vacuum one of the classrooms one of the other trimesters, and empty the trash in one of the buildings during the last trimester. Sophomore year I was accepted as a tour guide and never looked back – especially because the first tour I ever gave was to Chevy Chase and his daughter!

  27. Jeanne says...

    I love the idea of kids rotating cleaning jobs in their school. They are more likely to appreciate their learning environment and less likely to damage school property. Two years ago, I visted Tokyo with my family. You guys, there is seriously no trash in the streets! People throw away their trash? What a concept! This is a city with over 13million! And I shockingly watched people leave their designer purses and laptops on public tables while they waited in line for Starbucks or food. It was really wonderful to see.

    • Lin says...

      I live in Tokyo and, not only is there no garbage on the streets, but there are very few garbage cans on the streets. So people keep their garbage (food wrappers, etc.) and take it home to throw out. For real! My kids go to our local elementary school and yes, it is true, they really do clean the school. There is a janitor, but only for the really big jobs. The kids scrub the floors in the hallway and the stairs!

  28. Ali says...

    I’m still waiting for a ‘fingers crossed’ emoji too. Can’t believe it’s not there.

  29. i think the sweater is weird…ly cool! it’s almost sold out too! that danny devito looking baby is seriously wonderful.

    happy weekend joanna & co!
    xo, brittany
    http://www.notablob.com

  30. Heather says...

    My vote is totally weird for the sweater… also – the ultimate first thanksgiving bite is fitting a little bit of EVERYTHING on your fork!!

  31. ginger m. says...

    sweater=weird….and I like weird stuff but I wouldn’t wear that.

  32. Molly says...

    Gotta be honest – not a huge fan of that sweater, but I am super into the cheap dinner party and feeling very inspired to pull it off! Just have to get through Thanksgiving first (which looks like it will cost much more than $50 eek).

  33. Amy says...

    I love the sweater! Happy weekend

  34. I can’t decide about the sweater either! I’d totally wear it, but it’s not the sort of thing you can wear once a week, you know? “There’s Jody in her funky sweater…!”

    Love the article in walking. As I’m getting older I’m realizing how much my own self care affects my family. Happy momma = happy family.

  35. Ann says...

    Yup!….agree with Christine….totally weird…..over designing clothes aswell as other stuff… nyt mag covered this recently i think

  36. Thanks! Your links always cheer me up. I need that this week!

  37. Yukie says...

    My family is Japanese, but up until age 8, I lived in New Jersey my whole life. When I moved back to Japan and entered grade school in a small town, the whole cleaning-the-entire-school-every-day thing was a culture shock. Not only that, we’d be assigned a different task as a group (of 4-6 students) each week… hosing down the toilets (in a rural town, it was the squatting style potties), carrying back the whole class’ lunch from the school kitchen, to feeding the pet fish/frogs! Thinking back on it, it’s amazing how much fun we all had doing these things every day.

  38. Lizzie says...

    Weird. That sweater is weird.

    • Haha! Totally agree.

  39. Joanna, I am currently pregnant for the first time and I would love (as I’m sure many of your readers would) a roundup of essentials for a comfortable first pregnancy such as the best stretch mark cream, comfiest maternity leggings, books, etc. Apologies if you’ve already done this in which case maybe someone can provide a link? Thanks so much for your great site.
    Best,
    Tina

  40. Jessica says...

    How do we not have a fingers crossed emoji yet!!?

    • Nicole says...

      RIGHT?!

    • Felicia says...

      I already have one on my phone (Android). I wonder why it’s not universal.

  41. Christine Hart says...

    Weird on the sweater

  42. Sasha says...

    I totally agree with Nadja’s comment! On my first date with my fiancé, I brought up this old (slightly embarrassing) video game about dogs that I used to play as a child and said that I wanted to track it down again to play now. After blurting that out, I immediately regretted it. Had I exposed too much ‘weird’? But then, he told me that he had bought that same game on a whim just two months earlier. On our second date (the very next day), we played it together on his front porch.

  43. Mac says...

    Those reader comments! I laughed. On our second date, my husband and I bonded over both having huge mouths which led to us putting bigger and weirder things in them–golf balls, limes…We were crying laughing. I guess it’s true, show your quirks early!

  44. Jenny says...

    Ha! Thanks for reposting my comment here (Eye of the Tiger….)! You totally made my week :)