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What are you up to this weekend? I’m getting a haircut (the same one I’ve gotten since I was two years old:), and then we’ll be getting ready for Halloween! We’re hosting some friends that evening with a pot of vegetable chili, which will hopefully help balance out all the sugar the kids will be inhaling. Hope you have a good one, and here are some fun links from around the web…

Curious to try cacio e pepe chips!

How to find joy in three seconds.

Women bring their “I Voted” stickers to Susan B. Anthony’s grave.

Hosting a dinner party in a small space.

The particular hell of noisy co-workers. #shoutcough

The New York Times just launched a new website designed to help you decide what TV show or movie to watch next. (My vote: Insecure!)

This looks cozy to wear all winter.

Wow, what a beautiful art installation.

How to start running. Have you ever done the run-walk method?

Cute maternity workout wear.

Great style hacks from two J.Crew stylists.

I waited 96 years.

Plus, two great reader comments…

From Nina: “My husband Ross’s book Works Well With Others was published last year and has tons and tons of funny and insightful career advice! One of my favorites: ‘Hugely important rule: Everyone is weird and nervous. No matter how famous or important, everyone is just really weird and really nervous. Especially the people who don’t seem weird or nervous.'”

From Courtney: “We started a tradition last year after coming home famished from trick-or-treating and realizing I hadn’t thought about dinner. We picked up Chinese takeout, lit a fire and after we put our daughter to bed watched a horror movie just the two of us with pumpkin beer! Will be repeating that this year, too, can’t wait.”

(Photo by Madeleine Johnson. Running link via Swissmiss.)

  1. I was active for a lot of my childhood and began running as a pre-teen, but struggled with it for a long time. I was fine, but not great, and I never seemed to improve. It wasn’t until I was training for my first half marathon two years ago that I finally decided to join a training group, and it was there that I learned to run-walk, with ten minutes running and one minute walking. I swear by it now! Running is an incredibly mental sport, and on top of that I struggle with anxiety, so breaking up a two-plus hour race into ten-minute chunks is so much easier to handle. It’s helped me get stronger, faster, and more confident in my running – so much so that I’ve recently decided to start training for my first full marathon :)

  2. LS says...

    I usually love hour posts but…

    That J Crew video is absurd. It could be an SNL skit…

    I’m sorry but it’s hardly interesting, new, or necessary to show us how to roll up our sleeves or have a shirt hanging out. Watching this I’m reminded why J Crew is in such trouble and frankly, boring.

  3. Katie says...

    The Susan B. Anthony post made me tear up! What a gift she fought for!

  4. D says...

    The link to “waiting 96 years” prompted me to call my grandma; she’s 98 and doesn’t drive anymore. My plan was to offer to take her to vote but she has arranged a ride to her polling place on Tuesday. Go Grams!

  5. I am always a huge fan of the articles you recommend. I love the NYT article you posted about running. Great tips on how to train for all levels runners. Never too late to become a runner! Also, LOVE the Susan B. Anthony story. Wish I lived closer by so I could help honor her memory with my “I Voted” sticker . Girl Power!

    xo,
    Anika Yael Natori, aka, ‘The Josie Girl’
    http://josiegirlblog.com/

  6. Susana Silva says...

    It’s Chade-Meng Tan; sorry for that and for all the speed writing misspellings.

  7. Susana Silva says...

    I have read/used the book by Chade-Men Tang and I have to tell you that my lack of focus and anxiety didn’t allow me to get there…but thinking back I realize that everytime I practised his exercises, it made me relax somehow…only I didn’t disconnect from all my useless worries after that…age brings his us that foccus, step by step. Today I totally relate to the article on How to find joy. This blog is one of them…it may sound sappy but I have to tell you that whenever I’m at work and I feel that peak of stress I open this blog’s webpage and immediately my minset changes and I travel and relate and feel the good vibe, so thank you very much for that. Apart form that are those great moments, such as my son’s today’s morning hugs and whenever he says I smell good even if I’m not wearing perfume; when I have the chance to run for 3,5 km at lunch time in the nature; when a friend tells me he missed me. So, it got me thinking: Why on earth do I always foccus on the bad vibes, bad words, bad looks by others? I guess that is my journey…as I’m already on this path, hopefully I’ll get there some day or at least I’ll get there each three marvellous seconds I can get.

    Have a lovely day.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that is amazing!!

  8. Heather says...

    As a native of Rochester who happens to live around the corner from the beautiful Mt. Hope cemetery where Anthony is buried, I’m so happy to see you include the activities at her grave in your weekly wrap up. People have been putting their I Voted stickers on her grave for years and I’m excited to see how many will be on there next week. It will be even more relevant when (hopefully) we will have elected our first female president! I plan on leaving my sticker there in Susan’s honor!

  9. Casey says...

    How to start running? Put one foot in front of the other. I know that sounds sarcastic but it’s true. I’m not a runner but I can run 3 miles without too much effort. Once I did a 10k. I think to get started you have to not worry about speed but literally keep trekking forward. One foot in front of the other. And breathe. Sometimes we can over think things. The more I thought about it the less likely it was to happen. So I had to just run out the door and do it. Impromptu ;)

  10. Marion says...

    I’ve never been a runner (or a gym goer) up until 3 months ago when I decided to get serious about fitness. My trainer recommended the run-walk method and it works really nicely. I started with 3 minutes of walk, 1 minute of run for about 10-15 minutes. I’ve progressively moved up to 1 minute of walk, 4 minutes of run for 20 minutes. Obviously that’s not a very long yet but I mix that in with some other cardio and it works really well! I’d highly recommend it. (but I still hate to run)

  11. Caz says...

    Another vote for the walk-run method here! A friend and I decided to do a fun-run a few years ago but neither of us had run before. We used the “couch to 5k” app and it was great! The first day I was DYING when I had to run 30 seconds non-stop, and it was such an amazing feeling when we were running over 3kms non-stop just a few weeks later. Also, working out with a friend really helped – there were a few cold mornings I would not have got out of bed if it wasn’t for the fact I knew she was waiting for me!

    • Amanda says...

      I am a total non-athlete. Actually, more like the anti-athlete. But I’ve used Couch to 5k several times and have done lots of 10ks and even a 10 mile race. I never actually ENJOY running, but the satisfaction of finishing a race is pretty amazing.

  12. deanna says...

    I’m a huge fan of the run-walk method! I’ve run successfully run at least 10 half marathons relying on this approach, and plan to up it to a full marathon next year. I myself run for 8 minutes, walk for 2 minutes. I can get in about a 10 minute mile at that pace, and I’m fine with that. In fact, I’m much faster than running straight through! It also helps to psychologically break things up into smaller chunks. I listen to my body and if I don’t want to walk, I don’t. If I feel like doing a 7 minute run and a 3 minute walk, I do! If you really want to run, don’t worry about the details. Just find what works for you, get out there, listen to your body, and have fun!

  13. as a kid 1922 seemed like such a long time ago–well, as a suburban kid, it felt like all of the world’s problems were solved right before you were born. But now it’s really hitting me how crazy it was that 1920 was less than 100 years ago!

  14. Tasha says...

    96 years. Uh huh. *Some exclusions apply.

  15. Emilie says...

    Like a couple other posters, I am a big fan of Couch to 5K. They have a free C25K app now that guides you through the runs. You listen to your own playlist, and then a voice tells you at regular intervals when to walk, run, and cool down. I’ve traditionally been more of a yoga/hiking person so I wasn’t sure whether or not I’d take to running, but I’ve really been enjoying training in the pretty fall weather. Leaf peeping + Hamilton soundtrack + getting to feel like a badass when I’m done = a real happiness boost. Wish me luck for my Gobble Wobble 5K on Thanksgiving! Pie is a great motivator, too ;)

  16. Emily M. says...

    I love your new habit of sharing reader comments on Fridays. Nina’s quote had me laughing out loud for it’s surprising accuracy!

    I learned to run through the run-walk method and I swear by it. Also, learning to run with a group of awesome ladies is a great motivator for those days when you feel like you just. can’t. do. it.

    xo

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you, so helpful!

  17. I ran-walked the Marine Corps Marathon! I wore a distance tracker with a timer and took a walking break every ten minutes. It made the training so much more manageable. I highly recommend it for new runners. I always hated running and this helped me learn to love it.

  18. Joanna,

    Funny question, but I absolutely love your hairstyle and I’m wondering what words you use to describe the front length and layers to your stylist. I love how it falls around and frames your face, but doesn’t look like t would be as high maintenance as bangs!

  19. You know you’ve nailed your Friday post when your readers can both laugh and cry at the different links you’ve shared. Slam dunk this week, ladies. xo

  20. Susan M. says...

    the run-walk method is great. I’m generally a run-only person. But if I haven’t been running in a while, or if I’ve had long lapses of walking only, as when I was pregnant 2 times, when I wanted to get back into running, the run-alternating with walking helped tremendously. And it is a good shake-up if you are in a rut with running one speed, as it works a little like circuit training without having to think about it too much. Apparently, it can burn more calories than a simple run-only run.

    • Colleen says...

      I did it this summer and it helped me go farther as a whole.

    • Nicola says...

      The run-walk method was magic for me. I was not a runner at all, and then I did the AIDS Marathon training program, which used run-walk (the Jeff Galloway program). I went on to do four marathons, all using run-walk to some extent. Now, after having my second baby, I know that when I get back into running I’ll use that approach again.

  21. Julie says...

    I love the reader comment about watching a horror movie after the kids are in bed on Halloween. I think we may just do that this year.

  22. Elisabeth says...

    Oh, just reading the “I waited 96 years” site… NO YOU’RE CRYING! (I’m crying.)

  23. The art installation is breathtaking! Started looking at photos from the Renwick Gallery and the entire exhibition is absolutely amazing. If only I can see it myself!
    That last link about women voters is so so moving, I’m so in awe reading through their stories! Really eye-opening, and makes me glad that a new change is coming.
    Have a good weekend <3

    Joanne | Life in Blue Skies

  24. Stephanie says...

    I’ve been running on and off for 13 years and have always started back with the run-walk method when I’ve had to take a break for various reasons (injury, pregnancy, laziness! ;) I never knew it was an actual training device. Did one today –32 minute run/walk with minute intervals. That article is motivating me even more! Thanks.

  25. Roxana says...

    The shout-sneeze is a close cousin to the shout-cough. So annoying! A very close family friend shout-sneezes and it is so startling, it’s actually enraging. We’ve told him this :). Don’t know what I’d do if I had to work with him!

    Absolutely love How to Find Joy in Three Seconds. So true and helpful.

    • Tori says...

      Yes! #shoutcough made me laugh out loud. My husband does what I call the scream sneeze and it makes me hate him for a second, haha. Grrrr!

  26. The New York Times’ recommendations are solid, I definitely know what I’ll be snuggling up to as the heating comes on and everything gets cozy… perhaps that cute squishy hat will make an appearance. Thanks for all the recommendations :)

    http://www.englishigirlinnewyork.org

  27. It’s so exciting to get the chance to vote for the first major party woman candidate for president (and not just because she’s a woman, but because she is a caring, yet badass lady!). I love seeing the photos of the women who were born before the 19th ammendment passed; it makes me tear up!

    It’s interesting seeing the “I VOTED” stickers on Susan B. Anthony’s grave, and normally I wouldn’t have thought anything weird about it, but I recently read “Originals” by Adam Grant, and he goes into depth about the women’s suffrage movement leaders, Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Lucy Stone, and you find out that there are some horrible things that Anthony and Stanton did to push their agenda. Lucy Stone was the earlier influence to women’s suffrage and anti-slavery movements than the other two and she held her morals more strongly than Anthony and Stanton, who were a lot more shady than I realized! They campaigned to deny black men the right to vote because white women didn’t yet have the right to vote, along with being backstabbers to Lucy Stone. Petty to say the least.

    Anyways, even after reading that depressing information from “Originals”, I was happy to find out about Lucy Stone, basically the mother of “keeping your maiden name”! <3 If I lived near her grave, I would stick the "I VOTED" sticker there instead!

    • Hey, Tanith! I’m the author of the Susan B. Anthony piece and also a women’s historian. I didn’t have a ton of room in this piece, but I’ve written about the founding mothers and race elsewhere and to say the least, it’s complicated. (Here’s a piece about the split within the movement I wrote a while ago http://modernnotion.com/nothing-argument-almost-tore-womens-suffrage-movement-apart/)

      My take is that it wasn’t a matter of strong morals as much as conflicting visions of what equal rights and suffrage meant. The fact that early supporters like Frederick Douglass distanced themselves from the movement was really disappointing, especially through modern eyes that see the many ways in which the movements could and should have worked together. Unfortunately, intersectionalism was not a thing back then and many major historical figures had views that make me blush and/or gape to this day.

      That said, Anthony is (rightly, in my opinion!) still considered one of the movement’s most important figures, in part because she was one of the most vocal, and became even more prominent during her court case over illegally voting. I’m so glad that more people are becoming aware of Stone, and I do what I can to make sure that I write about all of them!!!

      Also, I’m psyched to see that this piece is getting so much coverage, but also kind of cringey because it’s from April and there actually isn’t early voting in New York. I can only imagine how her grave will look on November 8 :D

      Sorry for the soliloquy…I’m always psyched to see the name “Lucy Stone” out in the wild! – Erin

    • I should also add that the reason Douglass distanced himself from the movement wasn’t because he sucked, but because he (rightly, in my opinion) felt it was untenable to align himself with Anthony and Stanton given their anti-15th Amendment, “all or nothing” stance!

  28. Ruth says...

    I live in Rochester, where Susan B. is buried, and when Hillary won the nomination, we brought our daughter (who is 1) to her grave and took pics and said a cheer for women everywhere. Our mayor – a woman – had posted a placard that people could sign, telling Sue. B. (as she’s referred to around here) that she’d be so proud of the progress. Still a long way to go but we’re getting there!

  29. Noelle says...

    I started with couch to 5K back in spring 2013, and here I am 3.5 years (and 5 half marathons, 3 10-milers, several 10ks and a few 5Ks) later and am still running strong. Stronger, actually :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      wow, that is incredible, noelle!!

    • This is amazing… maybe I’ll try to actually stick to it this time (may have failed miserably twice before) congratulations to you!

      http://www.englishgirlinnewyork.org

    • Christina says...

      This is basically me, too. I didn’t do it alone, though. Our local running store has an amazing beginners program for women that is basically a guided couch to 5K for all fitness levels. We met once a week for discussions about nutrition and gear and cross-training and for guided runs. It definitely changed my life, and I have met so many amazing women of all ages.

    • Kathryn says...

      I did couch-to-5k a few years back to get ready for a charity run, didn’t run again for an age, and then used the same sort of interval training for a 10k last year, for which I ran the whole way without stopping (my only aim for it!), and would definitely recommend. It is so easy to get disheartened when you can’t even run for a few minutes, but after a few weeks you can look back and see how much you have already improved which can be a real confidence booster. Next year’s aim is a half marathon (because insanity has obviously struck). I wouldn’t claim to enjoy running, but I enjoy being able to.

    • Kathryn says...

      Also – one bit of advice that I read when I was preparing for the 10k was that sometimes it is better not just for your body but for your race time to walk than to run. For example, if the course has a gruelling hill that running up wipes you out, slow down, soldier on, and because you have saved your energy you will make the time up, because running uphill takes much more out of you than walking unless you have been doing loads of incline training.

  30. love those maternity workout clothes- such a good find!
    also, i’m digging the reader comments, it’s so fun to hear other voices’ thoughts on the topics!

    xo, brittany
    http://www.notablob.com/