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Have Your Kids Ever Shared a Bed?

Kids Sharing a Bed

When Anton grew out of his crib, we borrowed a toddler bed. But he only slept in it for a couple nights…

Kids Sharing a Bed

Instead, he begged to sleep with Toby. Even when we put Anton’s toddler bed into Toby’s room (we figured they’d be more comfortable in separate beds), he would end up cuddled up next to him.

Kids Sharing a Bed

Now after moving apartments, the boys have continued to sleep together.

Kids Sharing a Bed

They don’t always look 100% comfortable, haha, but they never seem to mind.

Kids Sharing a Bed

I was planning to get little twin beds for them, but maybe we’ll just stick with a double?

Kids Sharing a Bed

What do you think? Have your kids ever shared a bed? How long did it last? A shared bed is so sweet for now. Even if they drive each other crazy during the day, all seems forgiven as soon as they climb into bed. (And it makes vacation easier!)

P.S. A family that shares a bed, and 12 cool shared bedrooms.

  1. Karen says...

    My third child was a big (but wonderful) surprise. After she was weaned, her crib moved in to my other daughter’s room. The room luckily had plenty of room for both a crib, and the double bed the older one had been sleeping in before #3 even came in to view. When the crib was converted into a toddler bed, she stayed in it just a bit longer than your son stayed in his. Maybe a couple of months. When she realized she could climb into bed with her sister that was it. Fortunately big sister did not complain. There are 6 1/2 years between the two girls, and I really did not think it would last as long as it did. Two summers ago, when they were 13 and almost 7, we moved into a 4 bedroom house, so that each kid could have their own space. The teenager was definitely ready. They do still have sleep overs with each other every month or so. I think it was a great experience for them. I feel like it helped form their relationship with each other. I did sometimes wonder if people thought this was odd. Not that I would have cared.

  2. Lacey says...

    My girls will not sleep together (unless they both climb in bed with me 😊), but growing up I loved sharing a bed with my sister. Even with twin beds, I would climb into hers almost every night.

  3. Fel says...

    Such a sweet photos, too adorable. Love, love, love <3

  4. TheRachelSyn says...

    My kiddos are still little (almost 3 years, and the youngest is 6 months), so no bed sharing for them yet. But my sister and I shared a full size bed for many years – my earliest memories are of sharing a bed with her (I was likely around age 3), until I was 7 or so? (She’s 18 months older than me)

  5. karen w says...

    they are the cutest! such sweet photos :) maybe when we have more kiddos we’ll see if they want to share a bed.

  6. cait says...

    My sisters and I are all in our twenties, and though we live in different places, (two different states, one different country) when we’re together we still often sleep in the same bed. Since we were little we’ve called them “sleepovers” because we all had our own rooms. Sometimes it’s just more fun to snuggle up to your sisterfriend.

  7. Andrea says...

    I’ve got 3 kids (10,7,5) and they all share a bed (although now the oldest often ends up on the floor). This started as a complete accident several years ago and we figure as long as they are happy and getting sleep, we won’t intervene. The funny thing is that in our very small Seattle house they each have a bedroom of their own! I know this won’t last forever, so as long as they are still happy to snuggle in a puppy pile I’m a happy mama!

  8. Adélaïde says...

    Made me laugh out loud, and then cry. They are just so cute together. I slept in my sister’s bed for at least 10 years (I was not allowed to, but every night I sneaked out of my bedroom to join her) and this is the best memories of my childhood. We talked for hours and it surely helped create that special bond that we still have.

  9. Nora says...

    My dad bought my boys one of those expensive bunk beds, all wood, etc..Yea…they sleep on the floor together. 10 and 4.5 and they’ve slept on their beds a handful of times. It’s been like this for about a year and a half now

  10. My sister and I shared a bed until the forth grade when we each got separate rooms… then we crawled into one another’s beds every night anyway.

  11. April says...

    There’s 11 years between my sister and I (I am the baby), and I slept in her bed for a large part of my childhood, until she moved out at 19. We rarely fight to this day. Such sweet moments between siblings–they will remember this stuff, and cherish that bond forever! (Or at least I hope so.)

  12. Jos says...

    Such gorgeous pics. They must recreate them in years to come like those three brothers have done. Have you seen those pics Jo? Hysterical. Can just see Toby and Anton doing the same thing with these poses!!!!

  13. Estela says...

    Those pictures are the sweetest thing ever!!!
    Can you do a post on siblings? I also have 2 boys (2.5 and 10mo) and having a hard time with jealousy from the oldest one… he kicks and throw stuff at the baby 🙀🙀🙀

  14. Monica says...

    My 6 year old daughter and 4 year old son have shared a bed for the last 2 years and they love it.

  15. Katherine says...

    My mom still talks about putting my little brother to bed in his room, and me to bed in my room, then about 10 minutes later hearing him say, “Kat? Can I come over now?” then the pitter patter of feet across the hall into my bed. He slept with me for years (we probably settled into our own separate beds around ages 7 and 9) and my whole family has treasured memories of this bedtime routine. I think it fosters a very kind, comforting bond between siblings– we never fought, and still don’t!

  16. Lizzy says...

    So sweet! My sister is two years older. When we moved to a different city and a bigger house, my parents gave us the top floor. We were six and eight years old and didn’t even want a wall between our rooms. So we decided to sleep in one room and play in the other room. We did that for years, but eventually we asked for the wall ourselves. And even after that wall I used to take my mattress and put it next to my sister’s bed when my parents went out and we had a babysitter. Two years apart does mean a lot when you grow older, so that wall became very necessary when we were older. We are now 30 and 32, living in different countries but still very much enjoy sleepovers, haha!

  17. They are just so sweet cuddling together! My daycare provider once took a pic of my two older boys sleeping snugly together, which she said only ever happens with siblings! The other kids will sleep side by side, but never snuggle. So sweet.

    Also, where did you get that Rescue Bots pillow cover!!! My boys would flip over it!

  18. mosey says...

    Oh my gosh, they are sooo cute!!
    Although my older sister and I had separate bedrooms I always ended up sitting at the foot of her bed almost nightly for important teenager chats (“I’ll never get a boyfriend!”). I’d stay there until I couldn’t stay awake any longer or until we’d get yelled at to go to sleep. :)
    These are my favorite memories growing up.

  19. Andrea says...

    I was thinking about this, actually this evening, when my mother pointed out that the “very expensive” crib for my 8 month old has never been used. I remembered my sister and I sleeping together for years. Until at least we were almost teenagers. Mainly due to space. Except we would sleep head to toe and sometimes I mistook her big toe for my thumb …. at least that’s what my mother tells me. I claim no memory of this. 😋

  20. Liz says...

    could you do a bunk bed with a full on the bottom? that way they have options

  21. Lindsay says...

    My sister and I shared a bed since we were little and still do when we’re both home at my parents. Sometimes she would sleep in her own room, but for the most part we shared. I think it really bonded us. We still talk about getting into trouble goofing off after bedtime. Our pediatrician told my mom not to allow it, but I’m glad she did. I don’t see anything wrong with it. Plus, those adorable pictures you have will be great memories down the road!!

  22. We adopted our twin girls when they were just 13 days old. We had them share a crib when they were tiny. We had read different opinions on this method with twins but we felt it was right. They had been together since conception and having their twin next to them would be comforting, especially since they experienced the separation from their birth mother. When they outgrew the swaddle, we separated them into different cribs, although placed them next to each other. This stayed the same when we converted their cribs to toddler beds. I then decided to get 2 full size beds for their bedroom instead of twin beds. I thought that would give them enough room if they wanted to share a bed as they grow or they could have their own beds. They’re now 5 and they mostly sleep together, however they go through periods when they want to sleep on their own. I love how close they are, but also have their own independence too.

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  23. My sister (she’s 2 years younger) and I shared a bed until…actually, we still share when we’re both home visiting our parents! She lives in South America and I’m in Chicago, so it’s rare that we’re both back in Wisconsin at the same time – and when we are, it’s a treat to have grown-up sleepovers in our childhood bedroom. (Luckily our boyfriends are cool with sleeping in the guest room or on an air mattress in the living room!) Our night time chats were lifesavers growing up, and I credit our close friendship as adults to that.

  24. Ceciel Shaw says...

    And I’m so enjoying the comments. Isn’t it sweet that we can listen to and appreciate each others’ stories? What a fabulous space you’ve created, Joanna and team.

    • Melissa Marterella says...

      Hi Ceciel! I’m loving the comments, too. My girls share a bed, and I keep wondering if I should get them twins…maybe down the road. When I do, I’ll probably push them together to make a king for as long as they want it that way.

  25. Ceciel Shaw says...

    These pictures are gorgeous! How cozy and I bet they’ll always remember this :)

  26. kelly says...

    De-lurking to say that is *the cutest thing ever*. Siiiiigh. Why change a good thing?!

  27. Joanna, I would love to hear your take on this (and/or sharing a room) as a fellow introvert! I always had my own room and bed growing up – granted it was just me and my brother! It sounds dreamy having a best bud constantly around, but I also can’t imagine not having my privacy – it was key to my creativity and recharging time as a child.

  28. Sweetest!!! Need to make black and white posted with all of these in square format– 2 per row ❤️️

  29. Oh my gosh I am dying with these pictures right now. So funny when Anton is sleeping on Toby’s face so funny

  30. How utterly sweet! I say yes to getting a double bed, or if you have the room, push two twin beds together, and then they can have their own beds back when they are ready.

  31. Hillary says...

    These photos are crazy cute. So adorable I want to cry.

  32. Wendy says...

    I have three sisters.
    Inevitably, one, two, or three of us would creep to one of the other sisters bedrooms just before bed and bunk together even though we had separate bedrooms with our own beds. Nothing sweeter.

  33. Anne says...

    I have a 6yo boy and an 8yo girl who have shared a room since our youngest was born. They’ve had bunk beds for years but 99 percent of the time will wind up in the same bed. We’re going to be splitting them up in the coming year and I’m already so nostalgic for this sweet time in their lives! (And I, too, have so many hilarious pictures of their goofy sleep positions!)

  34. lea says...

    my little sister and i shared a bed until i turned 11 or 12. then my mom got us bunkbeds but we would just end up together in one of the bunks. i loved it, my little sister would sometimes complain i took all the blankets in the night.
    my daughters are 2 and 5 and sleep together sometimes and in their own beds when the 2 year old is hogging the bed. i think i’ll give them twin beds pushed right up next to each other. their own blankets, their own space but they can still lay in bed and talk and sing and be together.

  35. Awww they are so adorable together! I sleep with my son because we only have one room in the house and I have a feeling this is us when we are asleep =P

  36. So adorable! Our kids don’t sleep together – mostly because when we’ve had to share a bed, they can’t keep still and if they aren’t giggling and playing they’re kicking or pinching. :p

    • Julia says...

      That’s what happens with my boys (7 and 4) too: they often ask for sleeping together, but every time we give it a try, they completely forget about lying down… and they end up in their separate beds.

  37. Kelsy says...

    Love these pics! Living in a 2 bdrm we opted for a double bed for our girls to share. It’s allows their room to also be a guest bedroom:)

  38. Shannon says...

    The sleeping positions are hilariously adorbable. I shared a room with two twin beds with my older sister from who knows when? Age 3 when our next sister was born? Then when we moved at age 9 my older sister and I shared a double bed until she went off to college. It was both comforting and annoying to be so closely connected with another human being. She would talk loudly into the night on the phone with her friends while I needed absolute quiet and darkness to sleep. But we have the closest bond and friendship I could ever ask for. It was also comical when our friends would come over and they would have no problem joining us in our every day slumber party. I have great teenage memories of a bunch of us going to sleep and waking up together in friendship bliss.

  39. Erica says...

    In our house we have a boys’ room (3 boys) and a girls’ room (2 girls). Ever since I can remember, my two girls and oldest son ended up in the same queen bed together. This went on for many years until they were 11, 9 and 7 and my two little boys were born so the queen bed went into the girls room to make way for the crib in the boys room. The girls, who are 17 and 15 now, still share the queen bed and it doesn’t seem strange to us at all. My oldest daughter will be going to College in less than a year and the girls will have to sleep alone for the first time ever!

  40. Katy says...

    I have 1.5 year old and a 3.5 year old, little dudes. Has anyone started bed sharing at this young of an age? Right now the youngest is in a crib, and oldest in a toddler bed, in separate rooms. I’m thinking of trying the bed sharing out this weekend. Moving the youngest into the toddler bed once everyone has fallen asleep. Want to give it a shot for the cuteness and closeness factor, but also, maybe they’ll sleep in a bit more if in bed together? Right now they both get up around 5am. If it works, I’d purchase a full size bed for my toddlers room and start the bed sharing.

  41. Madeline says...

    I have two younger sisters who shared a bedroom when we were young (two twin beds) while I had my own room with a queen bed (ahhhh space!). Many nights they would both sneak into my room, climb in on either side (stuck in the middle! nooooooo!) and ask for a bedtime story. We’d all fall asleep snuggled in, side by side. Twenty years later, those nights are some of my favorite childhood memories. (Love you like crazy, Sara and Holly!)

  42. Trish says...

    My two boys share a bed! We transitioned our toddler right into a full bed and it worked out great! Those picks look a lot like how my boys look on any given night!

  43. Ah, I’m wondering how this will go for our own children (currently pregnant with our first), but as a child, I insisted on sleeping in my sister’s bed! For someone who had regular nightmares, it was such a comfort to have her next to me :)

  44. Danielle says...

    Oh my gosh, this just made my morning. So sweet! My kids are too young to share a bed at the moment, but I hope they do. I am one of five and didn’t share a bed ever, but we would have sleep overs in each others rooms and sleep in the spare beds in them (we only had spare beds as the older ones moved out and went to college). It is still some of my favorite memories from childhood. So I hope my kids get to experience something similar.

  45. Sasha says...

    My girls shared our bed for many years, then the bottom bed of twin bunks for many more. Then one on top and one on bottom, but often cuddled in together. It worked really well for us. Now my husband and I co sleep with our three dogs, in two queen sized beds ;) it’s awesome. We need all that fur to keep us warm in the winter in Montana.

    • Sasha says...

      Those pictures are wonderful btw. I too have albums full of photos of my sleeping children. My grown up girls joke that I liked them best while sleeping. Well…. :)

  46. Janet says...

    It’s my dream for my boys to share a bed, and those gorgeous photos just confirm if for me! Once the baby is out of the crib, I’m going to test it out. They both love to snuggle while they sleep, so I think they’ll go for it :)

  47. Alba says...

    Let them enjoy these beautiful childhood habits of sleeping together before they grow up and want their own space. These pictures are adorable.

  48. Courtney Lennberg says...

    I think this makes total sense. Why do we work so hard to train kids to be staunchly independent sleepers to then hope they find a life partner and spend the bulk of their living existence sharing a bed? These are such sweet pictures.

    On an unrelated note, Joanna, if I could make a strange birthday request, bump up your postings for the next miserable 21 days until this election has come and gone! I keep coming back here trying to distract myself from the utter chaos of American politics. You’re my only hope! :) (That’s a convoluted way to say thanks for being a place to come snatch some oxygen in stifling news environment. I’m sure no one would complain about having more Cup of Jo anytime though). Cheers!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      you are the sweetest, courtney! we will try our best to be a good, cheerful distraction!! xoxoxo

  49. Megan says...

    My boys totally wind up in bed with each other and us too. Makes me wish I had followed my instinct of getting a double mattress, putting it on the floor, and calling it a day.

  50. Emily says...

    So sweet and ephemeral. I wish we could bottle childhood.

    • Sasha says...

      This made me smile, my feelings too.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      oh that is my biggest wish. well said, emily. xoxo

  51. Cindy says...

    My boys (9 and 6) have their own rooms across the hall from each other. But my youngest has either snuck in or requested to sleep with his older brother since he stopped sleeping in a crib too. Now he doesn’t sleep with him every night but they still do every so often. It is really sweet watching them sleep together and see how endearing they look to each other when asleep compared to the normal daily bickering we see from them during the day.

  52. This is so precious. Totally priceless.

  53. ADORABLE!! These pictures melt my heart :)

  54. Sarah says...

    My daughter (5) and son (2) have twin over full bunk beds. 90% of the time they sleep in the bottom bunk together.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      too sweet!

  55. Vicki says...

    These pics are amazing! Such sweetness! Thanks for sharing