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My Beauty Uniform: Jen Garrido

My Beauty Uniform: Jen Garrido

Jen Garrido is a San Francisco-based fine artist (her colorful paintings are gorgeous) and the genius behind the textile line Jenny Pennywood. She’s the epitome of laid-back California cool, and her views on beauty are refreshingly honest. Here, she talks about how to get the perfect (curly) topknot and her ongoing relationship with her armpit hair…

Where did you grow up?
Los Angeles right by the beach — I was a very beach-y teenager. I used to be a super-tanner, like slathering on olive oil, but now I wear SPF 30 in my moisturizer every day. My freckles are partly hereditary, partly sun-related, so I try to protect my skin as much as possible. Also, I have very dark hair all over, but as a teenager I used to put Sun In on my arms and back. I thought if my hair was golden, nobody would see it.

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What else is in your daily facial skincare routine?

I wash my face in the shower in the morning, for the last six months I have been using either Fresh Soy Face Cleanser or a Peter Thomas Roth Anti-Aging Cleansing Gel. I then use argan oil first on my face and apply a Fresh anti-aging serum. I use Origins Mega-Bright SPF 30 Moisturizer. I only wash and apply lotions in the morning; at night I just brush my teeth and floss. If I wash my face at night, my skin doesn’t like it.

Do you do any beauty treatments?
I get my brows and lip waxed. In middle school, Timmy Benson commented on my mustache. Still to this day, I feel a twinge of embarrassment when they apply the wax in public. But I haven’t been shaving much lately. I kind of want hairy pits, so I’m always pushing the limits on it. I can do it because it’s always cold in San Francisco, so you don’t usually wear tank tops!

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What about armpit hair appeals to you?
I lean in the very hippie/granola direction, but I’m not completely a hippie. It comes from laziness, too. But also when it’s growing, I’m like, ‘Oh yeah, this is growing! How long can I grow it? Keep growing!’ But I end up breaking down and shaving after a few weeks or if I might wear a tank top. It’s hard to make the commitment.

Do you wear makeup every day?
I have a tan complexion and freckles, so makeup always looks kind of dramatic. I don’t even wear jewelry because of the too-much-drama factor. Sometimes I put on Yves Saint Laurent under-eye concealer and lip tint from Tarte or Korres. I’d also love to wear mascara, but I can’t figure out how to make it stay on my eyelashes. It sort of falls off and then I get black raccoon eyes, which I do not like.

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What about for special occasions?
I change things up with cheek tint, natural eyeshadow and lipstick. I do have to say, I wore makeup at my wedding and I felt so pretty! But makeup doesn’t feel natural for me. My mom wears no makeup at all. She doesn’t even use face lotion or wash her face with anything other than a Dove soap bar.

Did other women in your life teach you about beauty?
When I was 14, my aunt asked if she could pluck my eyebrows. I said no but I wish I had let her. I didn’t do anything with them until I was 25. I look back at pictures now and am like, ‘Oh, my God, what was I thinking?’ I was in art school and nobody was talking about it. Then I moved to San Francisco and I met my husband, who worked in the fashion industry. His roommate looked at me and was like, ‘We need to do something with those.’

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What’s your family background?

My mom is Eastern European Jewish; her parents came from Poland to Brooklyn. My dad is from Guam. It’s interesting, maybe 15 years ago, Rebecca Walker wrote a memoir about being biracial. When I read it, I was like, ‘Hold on, I am biracial.’ It resonated with me, where I hadn’t really voiced it before then. The author is half Jewish and half African American, and I identified with being half Jewish and half something else.

Your daughter Jemma is five. How do you approach beauty with her?

We try to downplay beauty because my husband, Josh, is a model, and we think paying attention to someone’s looks can block someone and not allow for a person’s real personality to show. She also has long curly hair, and everybody comments on it, but we don’t want it in her head that it’s an important piece of a human.

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Was your husband always a model?
Yeah. He’s a fit model for Levi’s, so all their men’s jeans are exactly fit to his body! When we were dating, I think he liked me in part because I was so not into any of that stuff. I do love clothes and all that, but there is this paying attention to beauty that I don’t do.

Were you always a full-time artist?
I was a kindergarten-through-eighth-grade art teacher for five years. Then I made art while teaching part time and waiting tables. When I turned 30, I thought, if I’m not going to do my art full-time now, I’ll never do it. So I quit my teaching job and began selling my work. But when the economy crashed in 2008, all the galleries I was working with closed. To diversify, I started a line of graphic design and textiles, Jenny Pennywood. I found freedom in making up this alter art ego and working under a whole other name.

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What do you do to care for your hair?
My hair is curly, really long and big. Hair in my face distracts me, so it’s usually in a top knot. I use DevaCurl No-Poo shampoo and conditioner. There are no parabens or bad stuff, so my husband and my daughter use them, too. I brush my hair with a pick in the shower and then wash and condition it, but I only wash it a few times a week. I like my hair textured and a little greasy, since when it’s freshly washed it’s very soft and gets frizzy. As far as products go, I alternate between Kevin Murphy hair oil and curl cream, straight up argan oil, DevaCurl Set It Free Spray or DevaCurl mousse. I like my hair on the bigger side, so I can get more of a dynamic top knot!

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Is there a physical feature you weren’t into when you were growing up that you now like?

Actually, I have made peace with my hair. I have this thing called trichotillomania, where I pull out my hair. I’ve had it since third grade. It’s very under control now, but there was a point in my early 20s in grad school where I got bald spots because I was really nervous. I alternated between pulling out my hair and hypochondria, going to the doctor obsessively for this or that. Then I started getting acupuncture once a week, and it made it all go away.

Wow, that’s amazing.
I got acupuncture at a school in San Francisco, so it would be more affordable, and they took the whole body into account — ‘What color is your poop? Are you sweating at night?’ All those details mattered to them. There was something about that holistic approach that calmed me. I was like, ‘Oh, I’m not crazy.’ It was the beginning of me paying attention to my body as a whole. I also started exercising — which was something my family was never into growing up — and it changed the way my body felt and it also changed the way I saw all my symptoms.

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How do you take care of your body now?

I don’t exercise that often anymore. In my 20s, I exercised a lot, and then life happened. But I still love hiking, aerobic activity, taking classes. I think about it like a thousand times a day, like ‘What can I do for exercise?’ If I could only find one hour in the day… that magic hour, I keep looking for it!

What’s the most dramatic thing you’ve ever done with your overall look?

In my early 30s, I started going by myself on my birthday every year to get a little tattoo. Now I have 13 tattoos on my forearms and one my hand. They don’t really mean anything, but I like shapes. The first time I went I got a circle, then I got a heart, then a star.

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Which tattoo is your favorite?
I have three fish hooks on my wrist that look like “J”s — Josh, Jemma and Jen.

Finally, do you have an overall beauty philosophy?

I love the natural, healthy, not overdone feel of beauty. I’m currently planning my later 40s and 50s in the body and beauty department. Have you heard of Cameron Diaz’s The Longevity Book? The concept of aging gracefully and naturally is fascinating to me. Getting older is shifting my perspective. My soul is a 16-year-old in the summer, but the body and skin change and you have to wrap your head around that.

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Thank you so much, Jen!

P.S. More beauty uniforms that include a weekly ritual for glowing skin and a trick for amazing cheekbones.

(Interview by Megan Cahn. Photos via Jen Garrido, C Magazine, Emily Nathan for Martha Stewart Weddings, Maria del Rio and Lena Corwin.)

  1. I grew up totally into makeup, haircolor (everything unnatural) and now I gravitate towards the less-is-more, natural approach to beauty. I loved her interview and that you featured someone who is more intentionally undone and lovely. I want to learn from types who are more down-to-earth and self-assured.

    http://www.thewefiles.com

  2. I am so happy to see someone talking openly about their trich (I know I’m very late to comment!). I have had trich for many years, over a decade, and just began seeing a specialist over the past year or so. Techniques that have really cut down on it for me that I learned in therapy are:
    1. Logging (just like a food journal): I use the Notes app in my phone and log time of day, location, number of hairs and if it’s helpful to list a trigger (feeling anxious, bored etc.) The purpose of this is to prevent the absent mindedness that usually comes with hair pulling. We are forced to use our brains to acknowledge the behavior.
    2. Collection — this is weird but bare with me. My therapist gave me tiny envelopes to put my collected hair. I pull the most at work. Each time I pull I have to see that a strand here or there really adds up. At the end of each week I through them away
    3. Inconvenience Review Card — we did an exercise where my therapist asked me to list all the ways that trich has negatively impacted my life (embarrassment, isolation, time lost with friends and family, not being able to take pride in the thickness of my hair anymore, etc.) It’s not meant to shame, just to acknowledge. I look at it periodically when the pulling flares up.
    4. Lastly, there is new technology in development called HabitAware. It is similar to a fit bit. When you reach your hand up to your head it vibrates (hopefully it updates to include automatic logging at some point via an app). Similar to logging as above, but with the help of tech! It’s not out yet, but will be soon.

    I hope someone finds these tips helpful. Be patience and kind with yourself!

  3. Mariezey says...

    I enjoyed this so much! Beautifully written. Jen, thanks for sharing about your trich. It’s good to reminded that this is a pretty common and manageable disorder.

  4. Mirella says...

    Beautiful! One of my favorites. I love her perspective on natural beauty.

  5. I love this! Her perspective on aging is inspiring.

  6. Loved her! Such a natural beauty. I have trichotillomania as well but not under control at all. Never thought about acupuncture though… Definitely something I’ll look into trying.

  7. Nora B. says...

    This was amazing! Not sure if Jen is still checking in, but I had a hair question for her (as a fellow curly haired gal!): I also love my hair the second and third day better, but find that sometimes sleeping on it just destroys it. Do you have any tricks for when you sleep?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hi nora, thanks for your question! i sent jenny your question, and here’s what she said: “I don’t wash my hair every day – more like once a week – but I do wet and brush it in the shower every day. So I always get a restart on my hair every day.”

      hope that helps!

  8. Capucine says...

    I’ve had a painting by Jen Garrido near to my heart for some years now. It feels very special to hear from this maker of beauty, about beauty.

    Somehow, the husband-as-model and no-makeup mix is really electric to read in plain text here for me. I am grateful to know her perspective exists as I’ve never heard it before. Likely because I started life as the ugly duckling child of a beautiful woman, married a beautiful man, and didn’t begin to step out of that anguish until I was 35 and realized like a stroke of lightning what a gift it was for me to be not beautiful.

    This interview is the only one I’ve ever read that reflects me. Thank you for asking her, and to her for voicing her perspective so I can grow my own.

  9. Nora says...

    I love it that every entry in this series is different again. Wonderful!

  10. Lynn says...

    “My soul is a 16-year-old in the summer, but the body and skin change…”

    I love this thought!

  11. JoAnn says...

    Omg, I have two of her paintings!! I knew her name of course but that’s all!!!! Just lovely!!!!!

  12. Loved reading this. I’ve been an Instagram follower of Jens and love her gorgeous artwork—it’s so great to learn about the person behind the artwork. She seems so down-to-earth, embraces her quirks rather than fighting them and just seems so joyful! Great series!

  13. Mme Dubois says...

    Love LOVE everything about that story!

  14. Caitie says...

    Amazing! I gave my curly/crazy hair to my daughter too, and everyone talks about it! Working to balance that with her can be tough to do sometimes, so thanks for the camaraderie.

  15. Samantha says...

    What a beautiful soul. I love her appreciation of natural beauty!

  16. ali says...

    love this! I bought her textiles at an adorable shop here in VA and loved reading this about her! favorite one for sure! xo

  17. Rachel says...

    Hands down, my favorite of this series.

  18. JJC says...

    I completely enjoyed this article. A million thanks for featuring real women of diverse background and culture that many of us can relate to! Jen’s mom is Eastern European Jewish and her dad is from Guam (Pacific Islander) – such an interesting and beautiful mix.

  19. Thanks for the mid-day cry, Cup of Jo! I started pulling my hair out when I was about twelve years old. I am half Jewish (except, on my dad’s side, so the wrong kind of half Jewish but tell that to my unruly hair and large boobs which totally came from that side of the family) and half something else (boring old European white, I suppose). Until this day, this post, as I prepare to turn 40, I have never encountered in any way someone who also admitted to trichotillomania and in such a cool, “this is me” way. Thank you, thank you, thank you Jen, and to all at Cup of Jo for bringing this to us.

  20. robin says...

    Fellow Trich Maniac here. This made my cry with recognition. I also have huge curly hair and my desire to ‘zoink’ as I call it, come and goes in waves. I have been so ashamed of this my entire life (started in 2nd grade, I’m 38 and still zoink when I get stressed out or emotional) and hearing your words is so affirming.

    I also feel the same way about pit hair!

    Basically, I’m in love with you now. :)

  21. Samantha says...

    I find it hilarious that I commented yesterday on Megan’s welcome post about how I was a Jewish latina but never expected you to feature that. And now Jen here is half Jewish half black, and I can kinda relate cause there is a mix of black and white in my family (Dominicans are super mixed). Since I’m white (more like pale), I never identified as biracial, more like “bicultural”. It was kinda difficult when I was younger, cause Dominicans are super Catholic and the cultures and mentalities are so different, some things just clash inside your brain (like kosher vs not kosher), but I do appreciate and feel grateful for my background. Coming from such different cultures teaches you to be much more tolerant and open minded towards the “unknown”.

    I feel you Jen, with the half Jewish curls and eyebrows. My mom would cut my eyebrow hair since I was like 7 cause my brows were so long they were almost reaching my eyes lol, and started threading my eyebrows when I was like 12. Beauty parlors are super common and cheap here in DR, so I have been getting blow outs from a very young age, like most girls, and it just killed my curls. Now my hair is slightly wavy but so much easier to manage.

  22. annie says...

    I love that you have added more ethnically diverse people to your beauty uniforms. I just wish Cup of Jo would interview people other than creative-types. It’s always the same type of person–a photographer, a designer, someone with an independent shop, an artist. I would love to feel more connected to the people you interview on here (i’m a teacher, for example)… which might mean expanding your horizons a bit.

  23. Jessica says...

    This is my favorite feature of the site and absolutely loved this installment! I can’t recall any others featuring someone with curls like Jen (and myself!) so it was great to feel connected to that part of her routine. Definitely going to try some of the hair products she mentioned. Thanks for sharing Jen!

  24. To everyone posting about hair-pulling: it is something a counselor can ABSOLUTELY help with. It is a real anxiety-related disorder, and in therapy you can learn your triggers, explore the underlying causes of why you do it in the first place, and practice techniques to manage it.

    It is so hard to overcome the shame behind trich, but a trained, caring therapist won’t even blink an eye and will be there to help you through it. I encourage anyone dealing with this (or skin picking or any mental health concern) to go talk with someone trained to listen. It is worth it.

  25. Stef says...

    Favorite beauty uniform, hands down.

  26. Elle says...

    Thank you for this post. I developed trich about 10 years ago and not a day goes by when I don’t feel embarrassed about my hair. If at all possible, I would love to hear more about how Jen found an acupuncturist who treats that condition specifically–or can you just go to anyone? Thanks for being so open Jen and all of you who have commented. I feel a lot less alone.

  27. Kellie P. says...

    i LOVE that the beauty uniform series now includes both women who are super into products and enjoy the beautifying process as well as women who take more of a natural approach, but are certainly just as beautiful.

  28. Amber says...

    Wow! I’ve admired her art/textiles for quite some time now. It makes me happy to learn that the person behind the art is pretty dope too! Loved her honesty and “down to earthness”. Also, I’m turning 30 this year and will probably steal the small tattoo idea.

  29. What a natural beauty who recognizes her own strengths. So nice to see she’s raising another strong young woman in her daughter. Love her art!

    Julia
    http://www.whenthegirlsrule.com

  30. Teree says...

    Jen, I also have oily skin and mascara is a nightmare. I got eyelash extensions a couple of months ago and it is a game-changer. Loooooooooove.

  31. Maureen says...

    Her last sentence brought a quote to mind: “Age has no reality except in the physical world. The essence of a human being is resistant to the passage of time. Our inner lives are eternal, which is to say that our spirits remain as youthful and vigorous as when we were in full bloom. Think of love as a state of grace, not the means to anything, but the alpha and omega. An end in itself.” ― Gabriel Garcí­a Márquez, Love in the Time of Cholera

  32. Wow. Like the women above, I loved Jen’s candor and spirit, and I was impressed and reassured by how casually she spoke about trichotillomania. In high school and college, I suffered from it, but had no idea it was a diagnosable condition, or even a problem. I remember tugging out eyebrow hairs while putting together my college applications in the public library, something I deeply regret now that I’m in my 30s and gorgeous full eyebrows are everywhere! I wonder, too, if trich might have resurfaced a few years ago in the form of compulsively looping my curls around my index finger, a habit I find myself doing unknowingly (until it’s pointed out to me), but consistently… Krista’s comment about finding her hands going to her hair while she’s at her desk really resonated. Thanks for such a stimulating piece this morning!

  33. Ella says...

    I just had to comment as I loved her so much. That’s the kind of woman I look up t and we need more like her. There wasn’t a hint of smugness, she just seems so natural and real. Sometimes your beauty uniforms articles are fabulous and dreamy in a way you kind of feel you will never be like them. And as much as I will never be like Jen, different background different lives, I felt a huge connection to her. Hair pulling, hypochondria in the past , bad eyebrows until 25, a mustache and a Levis model husband.. I mean… girl you rock!

    • Theresa says...

      I agree with you, Ella! I love the beauty uniforms, but always think they are so out of the realm of my circle and me. Jen is like me in so many ways! Thanks for this one!

  34. Katie says...

    I think everyone should try letting some body hair grow for a bit! I stopped shaving my underarms as a reaction to my ex who hated body hair. It’s been a year and a half of growth and I love it! It makes me feel sexy and powerful and I love wearing tank tops. Formal dresses and body hair make me feel strange, but that’s something I’m working through.

  35. Ashley says...

    Loved this one!

  36. Brigitte says...

    Another wonderful post! I only discovered your blog recently and I am totally hooked.
    It’s quite an accomplishment to turn a post on style and beauty into such an insightfull and inspiring personal portrait. congratulations!
    And of course, Jen: such a beauty, inside and outside!
    P.S.: I loved how it turned out that every item people asked for (necklace, bag…) where actually made by her.

  37. Rhian says...

    Loved this one – I’m pretty much the same – hardly wear make up. I love mascara too but always got panda eyes, so stopped bothering – Until I discovered tubing mascara….it’s the BEST. I bought the Trish McEvoy one – http://www.trishmcevoy.com/p-40-lash-curling-mascara.aspx
    Highly recommend it – now I wear just Mascara and under eye concealer most days. Rhian x

  38. Luna GC says...

    Me too! I’ve only started using very little make-up since last year age 39… only I now have time to apply any. With 2 kids six years apart & our youngest now in Prep/Pre-School it feels good to have that 10-20 mins “Me Time”. I’m learning so much about what I don’t want in products & on my skin that I’m still minimal on any makeup. So, still not missing out on being a makeup “junkie”. I just love the increasing variety in Organic & Vegan products, yay. For me wearing jewelry & makeup feels heavy on me – not sure if it’s an official condition but I feel grossed out byu it.

  39. Nicky says...

    Loved this! Any idea where she got her awesome pink wedding dress?? Sure it’ll be long gone but maybe they have similar things :)

  40. HI JEN! Re: mascara, you have to try L’Oreal Double Extent Beauty Tubes Mascara (if you want to wear mascara, that is!). I have always always had an issue with mascara smudging under my eyes due to oily skin around that area, but this stuff is magic. I’ve tried waterproof ones, drugstore brands, luxury brands and this is the only one that works (Clinique also do one) – it also comes off with just warm water. I sound like a walking ad, but I’ve been telling anyone who’ll listen about it because I can wear mascara again!

    • You are 100% right!!!! It is a type of mascara called “tubing mascara” and that is the ONLY kind that stays on me. I’ve tried ALL of them, and the L’Oreal is among both the best AND the cheapest! I rave about it all the time too and immediately thought of it when reading her comment about mascara not staying on.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      how interesting! i’ve never heard of this!

    • Monique says...

      One more vote for tubing mascara! I use the Clinique High Impact Curling Mascara one but am going to check out the L’Oreal one. I turned to it because I hate taking eye makeup off at night. Hate it so much it prevents me from wearing any in the first place. Tubing mascara has changed my life because it literally comes off as I am washing my face!

    • Samantha says...

      A great mascara that stays put, even at the gym (and I sweat a LOT) is 24h mascara from Covergirl. It’s not waterproof so it’s easy to take off, but it will stay put all day!:)

  41. Daniah says...

    I absolutely love the beauty posts, but this is the one I related to the most.

  42. cm says...

    i love this feature and this one was especially good! she’s so effortlessly stylish and beautiful – the best. her paintings are also incredible.

  43. A.Zarraga says...

    I love love loved this one! It was refreshing to read about a woman with a very open, grounded, realistic approach to life and beauty.

  44. Alexia says...

    Great post! Beautiful family, very personable woman. I would love to see a much older woman too- 70,80. I feel like they would have so much to tell.

  45. Amy says...

    What a wonderful feeling to read both a beauty post and numerous comments that let me know I’m not alone in my trich struggle. I decided several years ago to stop being ashamed and start telling people when they ask why I draw on my eyebrows and lashes. Much like mental health, there really should be less shame and more awareness and education. And I always hope that maybe one time I’ll tell someone and they’ll know that they, too, are not alone. Thanks, Jo!

  46. Natalie says...

    I love how confident she is in herself without makeup. That’s soooo not me at all. :)
    Jen, I love mascara and have always hated the inevitable raccoon eyes, too. I just tried a new one and it literally doesn’t budge at all for the entire day. It’s L’Oreal Beauty Tubes. I think it works because the formula isn’t wax-based like a lot of other mascaras are.

  47. Michelle says...

    Love that she’s older and also (especially!) that she is beautiful through and through without focusing on beauty products. I struggle reading this column, which includes countless women who are naturally beautiful and yet use so many products and such expensive products. I try to teach myself (fake it until you make it!) and my daughters that all those products don’t mean much. Beauty radiates through your smile, your eyes, your words, and your actions.

  48. Yes. Thanks for this! :)

  49. Megan says...

    I love all the beauty posts but this one resonates with me… Because though I read about all those beauty rituals and products, I don’t do or use any of them. I really like the way I look, sans makeup and not much of a skincare routine and sometimes my pits and legs are shaved but sometimes not (I like smooth and furry but not so much the stubbly inbetween stage). So thanks for the glimpse into the life of someone else who pretty much goes au naturel!

  50. Christine says...

    So glad you’re featuring a woman in her forties. I love the beauty uniform series, but tend to feel like I’m surrounded by women ten years younger than me (mostly since I have a four year old). More please!

    • Azlin says...

      Amazing profile! Love her natural and calm outlook on beauty and life. Agree with you Christine, finally a woman in her forties though she doesn’t look like it!
      And Jo, agree with some of the other comments. Maybe profiles of women who are not in the artsy/design/creative/self-employed fields. Where the rest of us in the less creative fields can relate too. That goes for the home tours too 😊
      Another thought; how about profiles of women who’s having or had problems in their marriages and how they pull through it.

  51. She’s so refreshing and honest. And obviously very beautiful!

  52. TJ says...

    I love this.
    My favorite part of the interview where she was all oh, yeah, my husband is a model…NBD. Ha!

  53. Jen! You’re amazing! Thanks for this total breath of beauty fresh air! xoxo

  54. heather says...

    what a beauty, inside and out!

  55. Kate says...

    loved this profile! armpit hair, mascara struggles, curly hair… Love love love to see I’m not alone in these struggles but that beauty prevails!!

  56. Hanna says...

    Hallelujah! Someone who finally said, “I don’t really wear make up.”

  57. Chania says...

    How about some plus size beauties? Beauty comes in all sizes, and with lots of challenges to find attractive plus clothing.

    • Johanna says...

      Yes to this!!

    • Melissa says...

      That would be amazing! All of the women you post about are fun to read about and seem like such cool people, but it would be great to see some plus size ladies, too!

    • Heather says...

      I vote yes on this, too!

    • Samantha says...

      There was a plus size woman featured recently, you should look her up, I don’t remember her name but she and her husband own a natural skin product line.

  58. jeannie says...

    I love this sentence and can totally relate to it: “My soul is a 16-year-old in the summer, but the body and skin changes and you have to wrap your head around that. ” Such an interesting, honest and inspiring beauty uniform!

  59. yael steren says...

    It must be so cool to have her as a mom and grow up in such an artistic environment!!!! Not sure I can get on board with the armpit hair (lol) but somehow I can see that working for her! I love the candid photo of her laughing too! Great shot!! xx yael

    http://www.yaelsteren.com/blog/

  60. I love this honesty – on life, aging, creativity and profession. I love these kinds of articles where I feel some kinship with other real women. Thanks for sharing!

  61. Amy says...

    One of the best things about this series is how inspiring these women are. Sure, Beyonce, Angelina Jolie, Hillary Clinton, etc….they’re all very inspiring too, but their levels of greatness are a bit out of reach. The women you profile make me feel beautiful because I find myself relating to them over and over again. That being said, I do agree with the readers above about profiling some less artsy women. Not all of us are painters/designers/small business owners and we don’t have the freedom to dress and live “outside the box” every day. Also, I wear my hair in a giant, curly bun – yay!

  62. Emma says...

    I feel like all the beauty uniforms feature pretty natural products — easily purchased over the counter, now that I am older I want to see some woman who are taking their beauty to the extreme, refusing to age gracefully. I want to know about the best pharmaceutical grade products and prescriptions. Feature someone who does a little botox, retinoid A, and coolsculpting please :)

    • Jessica says...

      Emma, you might be interested in following the British beauty writer Sali Hughes, who writes for The Guardian. She definitely addresses more of the topics you mention, like retinoids, botox, etc. She also has a book called Pretty Honest that covers a wide range of topics related to beauty–it’s one of my favorite books I’ve read on the subject.

    • Jill Palumbo says...

      As one of the readers here on the older side, I love the fact that Cup of Jo embraces the natural products and ageing gracefully. I think it does a disservice to women to promote all the botox, surgeries, and radical artificial means in the name of youth/beauty. I have no problem with using anti aging products and taking care of your skin, but I think you can take it too far. I realize this is my own opinion, but I hope most of the women here agree.

  63. Liz says...

    Really love this interview. So real. I kept thinking about it after reading it.

    • Me too. I read it over lunch and wanted to come back and make a comment. Love how real she is; it’s a fresh approach. Have to laugh at Emma’s comment above too – yep, I’d be down with hearing a bit about someone with real life experience of little ‘touch ups’ here and there wether it be botox or something else I’ve never even heard of. Thanks, Cup of Jo!

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  64. Karen T. says...

    Awesome profile. I really enjoyed this one!

  65. Shannon says...

    Definitely a real woman beauty uniform. Very relatable and personable.

  66. I love this segment because it’s so interesting to read all the different takes on beauty. Thankfully there isn’t a ‘right’ method. Diversity is beautiful.

  67. Ruth says...

    I am so curious to know more about what she means when she says she’s planning her later 40s and 50s in the beauty/body department… what does that mean?

    I have really just started to feel the reality of aging (having two little kids and the sleep deprivation – and general difficulty of self care – I’m sure does not help… every morning I think, will I ever not feel and look tired again??). However, I am very much committed to resisting the societal pressure to take drastic measures to alter one’s looks and the natural course of aging. I’ve been thinking about what it means to age gracefully.

  68. Lauren E. says...

    I feel like I say this every single time, but this is my far my favorite beauty uniform! This one really spoke to me. She just seems super comfortable with who she is, but at the same time acknowledges the effort to keep evolving. Love this.

  69. K says...

    I agree, this is the best Beauty Uniform yet.

  70. The day I stopped feeling like I have to shave my armpits was the best day! I shave every few months on a whim, but currently it’s 80 degrees and I’m wearing a strapless dress and red lipstick and I’m rocking full, dark armpit hair. I think it’s my way of unlearning beauty standards that have made me feel like I have to “fix” my body. No matter what I do or don’t do I enjoy myself and my body, and it’s increased my self-confidence. Love it!

    • veronica says...

      Amen to that, sister. I now shave whenever I want because I want.

      It truly was a process of unlearning to get to this level of personal confidence and awareness. I hated the sight of (my) armpit hair at first, but I forced myself to stick with it – because dismissing (my) beauty because of body hair wasn’t acceptable anymore.

      Thank you for this profile and hooray for diverse/open-minded reader comments.

  71. Kendriana says...

    I love how laid back she is, a realistic/attainable beauty.

  72. Kimberly says...

    I love her outlook.
    I adore her tattoos and hair! Even the pit hair. Sometimes I care, most of the time I dint shave with the meager time I get in the shower or bath.

  73. Rach says...

    I pretty much never comment but am finally doing so to say that, while I have
    always loved this series, this is the first I have resonated with!

    Love the necklace Jen wears in the photo with her husband and daughter – any chance you could find out where she got it?

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i just sent her an email! i think she’s on a plane right now, so she might get back to us in a little bit :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Jen actually made the necklace herself. She wrote: “As for the necklace, I got into making necklaces a few years back and made a whole bunch but then stopped… glad to hear that someone liked it!”

    • Sara says...

      Bummer!

    • Cait says...

      Do you think she would be willing to do a tutorial on here for how she made it? I like making jewelry sometimes and it would be fun to try this!

  74. Natalie Brennan says...

    I LOVE this series!!! All are so different and frank and wonderful! Thank you, Cup of Jo ladies!

  75. Alex says...

    Many of the women you feature have very interesting beauty routines that I admire, but they’re can also be expensive, which makes them intimidating. Being a broke college student, I like that Jen and a few other recent posts are pretty low maintenance, but still gorgeous and original.

    I love this series because after reading each one, I feel like I know the woman. They’re always so unique and independent, women that I am striving to be like as I keep pretending I fit in in the adult world!

  76. She is lovely. Really enjoyed this one. Thanks for this!

  77. My new favorite.
    This is so refreshing and she is so beautiful in the best way possible.

  78. Nina says...

    Beautiful person, and beautiful art! The prettiest girl in my high school class used the saying “It’s nice to be important but its more important to be nice” as her quote in the yearbook and it seemed like that made her prettier. I do think you look very pretty in your wedding pictures. What a lovely couple and your daughter has such an engaging smile. Thanks for sharing. I have a hard time washing and moisturizing at night. But I read something recently that said our skin regenerates between 10-11pm (this could be total bunk) so if we are going to wash and moisturize, we should do it before that time so that our skin can use the products. So I’ve been trying hard to do that!

  79. Stef says...

    Loved this one! I would also love to see more of a range of Beauty Uniforms by way of profession/”type” of woman. All of these women profiled end up making me feel inadequate somehow as they appear to be very artsy, creative types who seem to have the perfect aesthetic. Would be great to see a beauty uniform of a teacher, barista, lawyer, doctor, etc.

    • Hil says...

      YES! I love these posts but feel like they have similar careers and can have a more laid back look. As a professional in a job with dress codes and expectations of how you present yourself, I’d love to see a wider range of careers.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes, thank you so much for your feedback! xo

    • Ruth says...

      I didn’t notice this til these comments but so true. I’m about to start a job where I will have to dress very professionally in the “traditional” sense (even though in my personal life I lean toward the bohemian) and it would be interesting to see some beauty uniforms in that vein.

    • Grace says...

      Yes, please! I’ve been curious about these new lines like MMLaFleur that promise nice work clothes, but been disappointed, and would love some inspiring examples of ways to dress professionally, give off a strong and competent vibe, but still feel creative. And on a budget, of course :)

    • Agreed!! For example, top knots are called out in the dress code policy at my office as unacceptable for work. I love wearing my hair like that when not at work (and Jen’s looks awesome!) but it’s an example of how we more traditional office-working readers could use a little mixup in the beauty uniforms.

      It would also be fun to see how women who wear work-related uniforms gear their hair/makeup/etc. to fit within their dress codes…and how much they break out of those molds when not at work!

    • Jessica says...

      This is such a good idea! I’m a no frills, no-makeup person when I work from home too, but in my teaching career, it’s important to me to be really pulled together–I’m in front of people all day, after all!

    • KayN says...

      I completely agree with this! Those of us in the more buttoned-up professions deserve some love too :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      yes! we would LOVE to feature different professions. we are working on it, and looking forward to sharing more of a range of careers.

  80. Tyler says...

    totally identified with her comment on jewelry. I hardly wear any besides my wedding band, it always feels like too much!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      me, too! unless the earrings are teeny, or it’s my wedding ring, i feel costume-y with jewelry. i feel like everyone’s staring at me. i know that’s dumb, but i’m so used to wearing nothing!

    • I can totally relate to this! I love earrings, but I feel like they’re too much if I wear my hair down — I’m debating chopping it off. :P

  81. Love her laid-back approach to beauty :)

  82. Alison says...

    This Beauty Uniform! Finally, one that I relate to. I don’t know if it’s because she’s a fellow San Franciscan, or that I also bucked my family’s no-exercise trend, or that she and I both fight with the half-Jewish dark hair issues (my eyebrows omg), but I feel such a kinship to this spectacular and yet totally chill lady. Jen, can I be your friend?

  83. Erin G says...

    Now THAT demonstrated true beauty. Love absolutely everything about this profile on Jen. I aspire to her confidence, openness and attitude.

  84. Michela says...

    For the first time I don’t feel inadequate reading a beauty uniform…thank you so much Jen for being…normal! But still beautiful.

    • Emily says...

      Exactly! For the first time, I don’t feel compelled to go buy a bunch of new product. LOVED her definition of beauty.

  85. Johanna says...

    Finally! A lady that resembles me! Not that all the other Beauty Uniforms aren’t fun to read, but if we had to group up with the woman who best reflects ourselves, Jen would be my team captain. Love it! Thanks for this!

  86. Lauren says...

    Do you know where her bag is from in the last picture? Looks so soft and wonderful.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i’ll ask!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      She made the bag herself! She says: ” I made the sample of the coral colored tote with the leather straps and plan on making some for fall/winter in just dyed canvas. I just bought the fabric last week in fact.”

  87. This was a really refreshing read – I love her no fuss approach to everything!

  88. L. says...

    Very grateful for this. I have trichotillomania as well–also under control, but always there–and appreciate her openness about it. Also love her thoughts about raising a daughter to look beyond beauty.

    • Myra says...

      I’d love to know how you got it under control. Thanks for your comment btw, it’s really good to know other people do it too. I’d convinced myself I was for sure the only one (because why would anyone do it)

    • Isabelle from Geneva says...

      Dear Jen and L.,
      Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your testimonies that are really soothing!
      My 15 year-old daughter had been fighting trich as well, it’s been hell for years.
      I feel more confident now that she will find her own solutions.
      Jen, you are a wonderful person!
      Love

    • Rachel says...

      I’ve been fighting trich for 20 years now. I’ve accepted that it’s something I’ll always have to deal with, but things took a turn for the better when I stopped blaming myself for it. Finding the triggers may help more than trying to control the action itself. I try to keep my hands occupied and if I’m stressed I go take a walk, read a book or eat some popcorn (seriously, keeps my hands busy) until I feel like I can control the urge. My heart goes out to you – I know how isolating it can feel to have this. Thank you, Jen, for being so open about this!

    • Lauren says...

      Agreed! I also have trichotillomania and have struggled for years, damaging my legs so badly (that’s where I pull from). Now I want to look into acupuncture.

    • Kelley says...

      Me too, argh. I hate it. I just bought these weirdo “tangle” things on Amazon to try to distract myself from sticking my hand in my hair. Of course hasn’t been a great substitute yet…

      I never thought of acupuncture. Will need to try it!

    • It’s wonderful to hear so many people come out and speak about trichotillomania! I also have it but, similar to Jen, have it very under control. Stress is my trigger, in all and every form. Whenever I feel the urge to pull my hair I whip out my pocket journal and take a note of exactly what I’m feeling, what I’m doing, etc. Then I fill that with something else. Like many of you do, I keep my hands busy! So as soon as the urge hits I’ll grab a stress ball or pen/pencil, anything, just to keep my fingers busy. I’ve also found yoga and meditation to be very useful but the journal has really been clutch. Thanks Jen for being so open and honest with us!

    • L. says...

      Like Kate, I also keep my hands busy and try to be mindful of stress as the key trigger. Being open with my husband about it was absolutely crucial in terms of circumventing the shame & stress & pulling cycle; he helps me recognize and redirect those energies whenever I need it. But aging has also helped–it was most intense in my early to mid-20s, and has become much easier to control in my mid-30s. And therapy! Hugs to all of you.

    • Sophie says...

      I can’t say enough how thankful I am to read so many comments from others who have trich. It’s incredibly inspiring and makes me feel less alone. Thank you all.

  89. This is one of the most interesting and inspiring articles I’ve read on Cup of Jo. I love Jen. Bravo!

  90. This was pretty much THE BOMB. I’ve never commented on your blog before, never had the urge to until NOW. We have a lot in common…things no one else knows about..but Jen just “said.” I’m so glad I read that ! :)

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      so glad you guys like it! we really loved her, too.

    • Sophie says...

      ME TOO! So much I gasped out loud reading it. She mentioned it so nonchalantly. I’ve never much related to or been so inspired by a Beauty Uniform until now. Thank you, Jen. <3

  91. i love this beauty uniform. rocking the top curly knot as i type!

  92. Sara says...

    I love your necklace in the picture of you, your daughter and your husband. Where’s it from?

    • Sarah says...

      Also wondering where that necklace and the one in her picture in her studio are from!

  93. “My soul is a 16-year-old in the summer, but the body and skin changes and you have to wrap your head around that.” – I love this :)

    I love these beauty profiles, and her artwork is glorious! I am so glad to be introduced to her work! I would love more profiles on artist, Joanna! We’re looking for art for our home and it fills me with anxiety – I have no idea where to start with searching for art, and like nice furniture it can be such a commitment! But I love what I see here.

    Xoxo http://www.touchofcurl.com

  94. Myra says...

    I always love your beauty uniforms but this one especially I found….touching.

    Her approach to beauty is inspiring and wonderful.
    I pull my hair out too (I have NEVER admitted this to anyone before. Ever) and didn’t even know there was a name for it. It makes me feel like I want to cry for some reason.

    • L. says...

      Just sending support your way! I used to feel shame about it, but there are a lot of us–many smart, badass women–who experience it. You’re not alone!

    • Krista says...

      Jen’s natural approach to beauty is inspiring. I have never commented before, but I had to say thank you to Jen for talking so openly about her hair-pulling. I struggled with this from the age of ten until well into my twenties, and it was a huge source of shame and pain. I’m now 40 and it’s well under control, but forever I’ll have some bald spots from where the scalp is “scarred” and the hair won’t grow back. Most of the time, my spots aren’t that visible, but EVERY time the wind blows, I am nervous. No one talks about this problem, so thank you to Jen and Cup of Jo.

    • Sophie says...

      I’ve never told anyone either (not a soul!) but I’ve had it since I was a child. It’s hopeful seeing a person as beautifully well-rounded as Jen openly disclose it. I think a lot of times, even though I know I live a wonderful, blessed life, in my head I let trich define so much of my being in a negative way when in reality it’s just more of an annoying habit. I would love to hear what other women with it do in certain situations of life.

      Thank you for linking back to the Habits post too, Joanna. <3

    • Sophie says...

      Krista, thank you for sharing your story. May I ask how you overcame it?

    • Krista says...

      Hi Sophie, I wish I knew how I stopped so that I could pass along suggestions. Every now and then, I do still pull a hair or two, but it’s not an unstoppable compulsion. I am still quite fixated on my hair–when I’m working at my desk, I immediately find my hands going to my hair, but I think I transferred some of that pulling urge into breaking off split ends (still not ideal, obviously, but less damaging). I have always been so ashamed and was afraid people would see me differently or be disgusted. (My husband has helped me find a lot of emotional peace in that respect.) Wish I could tell you something more concretely helpful.

    • Isabelle from Geneva says...

      Myra, I’m sending you a hug too (see comment above), I’m sure you’re a wonderful person full of resources xxx

  95. Thanks for sharing- I love her natural approach to life. My beauty uniform includes daily spf in my body lotion as well as my makeup. I live in Florida and have had pre-cancerous skin cells removed so I have to take extra caution. I share all my favorite sun warrior products on my recent summer essentials blogpost on Jeans and a Tea.
    XOXO, Amy
    http://www.jeansandatea.com

  96. Marion Frost says...

    Beautiful!