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What are your plans this weekend? Alex and I are going to a cocktail party tomorrow night, and I’m looking forward to wearing an actual cocktail dress, something I haven’t worn in forever. (Wait, do I even have one?) Also, I’m hoping to take the boys to the carousel on Sunday — it’s supposed to be 57 and sunny! Have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

How to survive falling through ice.

A water-repellant umbrella? Why didn’t we think of that?!

What free, peaceful and open borders look like.

LOVING these crop sports bras.

Classic jokes about New York and L.A.

The coolest birthday cakes!

Would you try period panties? I’m intrigued.

What it’s like to work in Hollywood if you’re not a straight, white man. “My personality… is to want to please. It can sometimes feel alien to just say, ‘I need this to happen, because it’s my show,’ and not feel afterward that you’ve been unprofessional simply by stating the thing that you want. I struggle with it all the time. When you are a minority, and it’s the first time you’ve done something, you’re like, this could all be taken away from me. I think the presumption with women is that they will be team players, and that is not the presumption of men. Especially show runners. When women push back, they [are perceived as] bitches or divas. I just made a slight demand that wasn’t even that bad. And at the end of it, I’ll send bagels [to the staff]. Please forgive me for asserting myself in a small way.” — Mindy Kaling

Made me laugh.

Great illustration for a story about breakfast.

15 funny examples of perfectionism at work.

Canadian Island politely offers Americans refuge if Trump wins.

(Photo from James Carpenter. Ice link via Swissmiss. Canadian Island post via Girl of a Certain Age.)

  1. D. Beickert says...

    I don’t want to try the period panties! I hate hate pads and would always use tampons until I discovered lady cup 2 years ago! Haven’t had a period since June 2014 though… babies will do that.

  2. Lee says...

    Where is the photo in this post from? I must know what statue that is in the center! I assume it’s a Diana, but which? Could you tell me the photo’s origin/souce?

    Thanks!

  3. Isabelle says...

    I LOVED the NYT article about people of colour and women in Hollywood. So eye-opening.

  4. Grace MacNeil says...

    I live on the Canadian island offering refuge to Americans! I’m a long time reader and first time commenter – your Friday round ups are my fav, so I’m super pleased to see this one listed. The website has gotten so much coverage, it’s wild. Cape Breton is a super special place and while I know ZERO about immigration, I can certainly say that anyone is more than welcome to relocate or even just visit! We’re home to incredible scenery, deep rooted culture and the friendliest people.

    Xoxo

  5. Lily Gonzalez says...

    Thanks for sharing the link for the free, open and peaceful borders. Beautiful. Maybe one day. #Latina

    • Clarissa says...

      Not sure if you’re following the news, but these times could be over soon :( from a European perspective, these pictures seem almost cynical… Still hoping that one day pictures like these will be normal on all of the continents on our planet earth.

  6. Heather says...

    My husband and I visited Cape Breton last summer with our two little boys. So beautiful!! And I tell you, I’ll be sorely tempted to relocate there if Trump wins (and I’m even a registered Republican).

  7. Nikki says...

    Thinx is AMAZING – incredible product that has totally changed my life and seriously made me almost look forward to my period. Big fan of the hiphugger and sport versions.

  8. Hey dolls…went over to check out the period panties and stumbled across their linked product for gals like me to tinkle when they giggle…check out their sister site ICON…just ordered from them. If those blow my mind, just might get the period undies as well.

  9. Lisa says...

    though I have to admit that the rubber ducky cake (with a crinkle cut crisp for a beak) really creeped me out, just because in my head the cake is vanilla and the crisps are salt and vinegar. That there is all sorts of wrong.

  10. Lisa says...

    I grew up in South Africa, and my mom had that cook book as well. I vaguely remember the castle cake at a birthday party. I used to LOVE looking at the pictures. so strange seeing them again takes me right back to being a kid!

  11. Julieanne says...

    This has been a great week on the blog for your Aussie readers! As well as having celebrated many a childhood birthday with cakes from that book (thanks mum!) I’ve made some for hubby’s 25th (tiger), 30th (owl), nephew’s 1st (caterpillar) & neighbour’s 60th (bouquet)

  12. Echoing positive comments on the period panties! Try their sporty cut. It’s my fave out of the three styles I have.

  13. The one with the perfectly neat cables reminded me so much of my husband lol!

  14. I definitely will try my beloved cocktails dress to higher levels tower.

  15. Years ago, my mom was cross-country skiing by herself on a city river (Edmonton). It was a very cold winter, but a warm water outlet of some sort had unexpectedly thinned the ice in one area and my mom fell through. She managed to use her ski poles to hold on and slowly, with great difficulty, pulled herself out. She had to walk to her car a considerable distance, in soaked clothes in -25c (Very cold, sorry I don’t know ferenheit), and she was just relieved to be alive after the whole ordeal! So I found the article about what to do if you fall through ice interesting (I am familiar with his work) – it can’t hurt to be aware. Take care.

  16. Amy W says...

    Who wants these period panties??
    Seriously, they’re EVERYWHERE in NYC for marketing.
    Besides t ridiculous images of eggs and fruit, who WANTS to just bleed in their panties?? Who??
    Was there a major outcry for new products?
    This is insane, and strangely, I feel, anti-feminist.

  17. Karen says...

    Thanks for the birthday cake link! I spent my childhood in South Africa, and that book was gold for me and my sisters. What a trip down memory lane!

  18. Maddie says...

    I’m an expat living in Australia, and after I had my daughter here, the Australian Cake Book was the first book I got! It’s a classic here. :)

  19. Heather says...

    I grew up in Australia, and we had that cake book! We spent ages poring over the pictures. My brother had the train one year, my sister had the duck with the potato chip beak, and I had the swimming pool!

  20. Kate says...

    Oh, I love the Thinx mission! Now if we could just put an end to FGM, the girls of this continent would really have a chance at full and beautiful lives!

  21. I’m a resident of that Canadian island, and we really would love for you to come! If not forever, at least for a visit. I promise you’ll fall in love.

  22. Liz says...

    Do yourself a favor and get the period panties. Seriously! They are great.

  23. Carolyn says...

    My next door neighbour made me the swimming pool cake for my 7th Birthday. So lucky !

  24. Steph B says...

    I’ve been thinking about trying period panties for a while. I have a pair of these regular but funny undies for when it’s my time and it always makes me laugh. It’s like an FYI to the hubby. http://www.firebox.com/product/6635/Period-Panties
    Also love the two Aussie dudes. As a first time mom with a three year old I was laughing so hard about the parent hotline. He just got bored of lying in bed and got up. Haha! So clever.

  25. Linda says...

    Are there islands in case Clinton or Sanders wins, too? Man, I am so sad about the candidates this year. I think I’m just going to have to vote for a write-in candidate! I just can’t back any of the front 3. I’m glad our government has a system of checks and balances, because we are going to need it like never before!

    • Anna says...

      Eh, just don’t come to western Europe. We think both Clinton and Sanders are fairly to the right.
      And out of curiosity, who would you prefer? If it’s not any of those candidates up now? I’m not an American, so I don’t know any alternatives than the mainstream ones. And the ones to the right leave me feeling scared/full of contempt/full of pity for the US.

  26. Sounds like a great weekend! Not sure if I’d try the period panties, but they’re a great idea for braver women than I am!

    Best,
    http://www.femininefeminists.me

  27. Katy says...

    A coworker told me about THINX and I’m completely converted! They’re amazing! In fact, they should give you guys a promo code to share with readers ;-)

  28. A New Zealander friend lent me that birthday cake book and I made the coolest robot-shaped cake ever for my daughter’s first birthday. It’s kind of a shame she was too young to appreciate it.

  29. india says...

    Oh man! I feel for you (and most of your readers) growing up without that cake book!! And only now just discovering Hamish and Andy! How have you made it this far through life?? Definitely two of the best things to come out of Australia haha. Here’s hoping to another Aussie discovery next week :) Maybe a lamington recipe or a link to Possum Magic, one of the best kids story books ever! Have a great weekend :)

    • india says...

      Oh and one more thing, the perfectionism at work link makes me so happy. I could have scrolled down for hours looking at similar photos :)

  30. Even though some people in the comments see your link to the free and peaceful boarders with some criticism, I want to say thank you for pointing towards it. It reminds me of how the world could and should be, despite the current political situation.

  31. Looking through those perfectionism photos was oddly peaceful. Thanks for the link! Hope you have a good weekend as well!

  32. April says...

    I have Thinx and I love them. They are a lifesaver for me with my IUD bc I never know when I’ll be spotting or having period, and as a teacher, who often goes three hours or more before getting a chance to use the bathroom, they’ve saved me on numerous occasions.

  33. dahlia says...

    Oh, yes, I absolutely adore Thinx! I bought some when they first came out and, oddly, just opened my second order a few minutes ago. They are so much better than a panty liner or a pad! I am able to wear a tampon for the heaviest day or two of my flow with them, then just the panties for a couple more days. I wear them in my work as a yoga teacher and massage therapist; so much better to move in. Less oder, less chafing; more comfortable, way sexier; better in every way. My first set are holding up great over several months of use, too! Cannot recommend them warmly enough.

  34. If you use a menstrual cup, period panties like Thinx or (my personal favorite) Dear Kate are pretty rad. If I’m not wearing ‘period panties’ I’m wearing a cloth pad with regular underwear. Since I stopped using disposable tampons and pads (about a year ago) my period has been more environmentally friendly, sure, but even better >>> I have less pain and I have to “deal with it” less. WIN!

  35. Hannah K says...

    Thinx are amazing- tried them on a whim and am never going back. (I think I actually have more pairs of these than regular underwear)- Its amazing how less stressful having a period is with them…Not a mess like the diva cup- no worrying about stains. Often wear them without a tampon which is so great- the sport style is my favorite- but also really like the high waisted ones.

  36. I have THINX underwear and seriously it’s amazing. I save so much money. I do occasionally still have to use a tampon or pad when I have a very heavy flow but other than that I barely have to think about my period anymore.

  37. Danielle says...

    Thinx are so great! I wear them with a cup on heavy days and alone on lighter ones. They are especially great for when you know your period is supposed to start but it hasn’t yet.

    We had one of those cake books growing up and each birthday my parents would try to outdo the cake from the year before. It turns out they were pretty good at cake decorating!

  38. Kelsey says...

    I’m going to wear a cocktail dress this weekend too! We’re going to an Oscar Party at the Ace Hotel in LA, and I am very excited.

  39. Laura says...

    Love the Canadian island and breakfast articles.

  40. jess says...

    I have super heavy periods and I supplement my soft cup with period panties. They can be kind of awkward but overall a total life saver compared to panty liners. They are worth a try and what you pay for one pair will save you in costs for feminine products!

  41. Schirin says...

    Dear Joanna,
    I love reading your blog—I’ve been a fan for years. I’m prompted to comment on your link to photographs of peaceful borders. I’m writing to you from Germany, where, slowly but surely, border control (and border closure) is being reinstated. Not just in Germany, but in Europe on the whole. This is a reaction to the refugee crisis facing our country (and the world). I just wanted to point this out, because, at a time like this, peaceful and open borders are so much more important, and should not be taken for granted. We need to remember what open borders stand for, and why knowing those open borders exist might even help us feel more at peace, and perhaps, safer in the countries we are lucky enough to call home.

    • Stacey says...

      Well said 💛

      I live in the UK and my heart aches for the unnecessary extension of trauma we have a role in causing.

  42. Anna says...

    Hi Joanna! I’ve read your blog for quiet some time know and by that realize, that it’s not a political blog. But although I really enjoy reading your articles I think it is necessary to make one point clear:
    As a european citizen and considering the current political situation here, I think your link to “free, peaceful and open borders” is depicting a picture of life in Europe, that is not only wrong but also a slap in the face regarding people who come to us seeking refuge and are being blocked away or even die at the newly established borders.
    What is happening in the last months is neither free, nor peaceful – in nearly every european country border controls are re-established, mile long razor wire build up – nearly everywhere you have right-wing parties gaining more and more support.
    The political debate in Europe is one, where newspaper discuss the return of nation states, since so many states are turning their back to the concept of Schengen.
    – I will stop with that, and hope you don’t mind me pointing out that the picture of Europe that you posted through the link, is one that is sadly not up to date anymore. Not only for refugees seeking asylum, but for european citizens.

  43. Katherine says...

    I like it when you get political! ;) xo

  44. Anu says...

    I work in IT and #4 and #10 from the Perfectionists at work link were a total turn on.

  45. annie says...

    Ha! Those free and open borders are slowly disappearing in Europe. Schengen is going down the tubes! :(

  46. YOU ARE BLOWING MY MIND WITH THAT CAKE BOOK!

    My mom definitely made me a few of those cakes growing up, and I totally thought she was just really fantastic at making creative cakes. Now I know her sneaky source of inspiration. I’m totally calling her out on this next time we speak on the phone. ha!

  47. Nina says...

    Diva cup is the best for your period. So…for me, falling through ice is kinda like the fear of falling into quick sand. Where we all thought it would be a huge deal but its not. I’m a little sad to read that article because Jack in Rise of the Guardians died like immediately when he fell through the ice, remember? He COULD have lived! ah well…guess it would be a totally different story then…

  48. Joanna, you HAVE to try these:
    http://www.shethinx.com/products/hi-waist-panties

    I have 3 pairs, and wear them not just on my period, because i love the styling so much. They work as promised, and are really cute!

    I actually bought them after reading your blog post about the day you just decided to stock up on your favorite underwear, because its a grown up thing to do, and it feels good :)

    • Beth says...

      I wear mine too. I bought four pairs and will probably by a few more. It was awkward rinsing them out and hoping they’d dry. But other than that they were amazing. I liked the way they looked and they actually worked. My periods have never been too heavy so maybe that’s why. I’m pretty athletic and I hate tampons so they are perfect for me. Thinx are the best.

  49. Audrey says...

    Ok. So the period underwear sounds really weird, but I am here to tell you that it is nothing short of amazing! I just ordered a pair of Thinx last month and used them for the first time and they were seriously the best thing ever. The saddest part was only having one pair and having to wait for it to air dry before I could use them again. I used them day and night, but even if you just used them for night, they are 1000x better than pads and you don’t have to worry about changing tampons. Couldn’t be happier with my purchase. If you’re still on the fence, they have a 60 day no questions asked return policy on your first purchase with free shipping and free returns. So there really is no risk in trying. I am such a happy customer! Oh and they are super comfy and very flattering.

  50. Bess says...

    That cake book! Every kid in Australia in the eighties spent hours looking over it before every birthday! And it’s still popular! I had the duck, the number 7 along others and my brother had the racing car track,
    Hamish and andy and the cake book in one week?!?! You are discovering our best !

    • Rachel says...

      I was about to post the same thing :) That was THE party cake book for Aussie mums in the ’80s and now I have my own baby girl I’m already thinking about which cake to bake her for her first birthday (and she’s not even six months old yet, hee hee).
      The Dolly Varden cake (the one where a Barbie torso is pushed into the cake ‘skirt’ and her bodice is made of piped icing) was the height of sophistication for little girls when I was seven ;)

    • Rhonda says...

      And in New Zealand too!

    • Definitely discovering our best.
      As an Aussie you just assume everyone knows the cake book. So nostalgic looking through it and seeing so many cakes that my mum made for me. I’ve got the updated version and my girls love poring over it. They start choosing their birthday cakes month out!

    • Stacey says...

      Brilliant timing! I’m heading home to Aus this week, will pick up a copy, should make great reading on the flight home to the UK for my 3 year old! Cheers X

  51. loving the la/nyc jokes. so accurate. so funny

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  52. If you like that breakfast illustration, you should follow her on Instagram! Her work is so beautiful and just fun to look at! Her handle is @groehrs.

  53. Kat says...

    You have all the Aussie favourites this week! Hamish and Andy, and now the Women’s Weekly Birthday cake book. I am feeling HOMESICK for Oz 👍👍👍👍🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺
    Ps, you should totally go visit Australia, your fam would just love it.

  54. Maria says...

    I have Dear Kate period underwear, and seriously they are amazing if you have heavy periods. I don’t have to worry about leaks at all anymore, it’s awesome!

  55. isavoyage says...

    Most def. will try the p. panties.

  56. Paula says...

    So intrigued about the period panties! Please share your thoughts if you try them

  57. Maria M says...

    Who will take us in if Hillary gets elected?

    • Sarah says...

      Just, yes.

    • Amanda says...

      haha thank you!

    • Roxana says...

      Ha! Completely agree! THANK YOU!

  58. i’ve seen so many ads for those period panties! not sure about them, but they might be great post-birth, no? (also, i hate the word panties)

    • Beth says...

      I commented above. Post birth they’d be a dream. But they are good for regular periods too.

  59. Sabrina says...

    I found the article about how to save yourself if you fall through the ice really helpful! I live in MN (The Land Of Ten Thousand Lakes) and everyone goes out on to the ice. I rarely worry about falling through the ice, but it’s good to have a game plan if I do.