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Have a Wonderful Weekend.

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What are you up to this weekend? The boys are excited for a big snowstorm; Alex and I, less so. I know people love throwing snowballs etc., but I am not one of those people. Harrumph! One good thing is that I started this (instantly bestselling) book last night and am already loving it. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…

My twin sister talked to Katie Couric about her late husband. Her answers were wonderful, and I teared up over the photos, many of which I hadn’t seen before.

This alarm clock is kind of brilliant.

10 female TV writers on their “aha!” moments.

57 small things to do for yourself this year. (#13 sounds like fun.)

I am mom, hear me roar.” LOVED this.

Deep dark fears made me laugh.

Love this little dish.

An Asian American abroad. (“We don’t all look alike, until we do.”)

A brief history of swearing in movies.

The prettiest short wedding dress.

How I turned my kid into a reader.”

How to add greenery to a space.

(Peonies photo by Ingalls Photography. Dish via Miss Moss.)

  1. Thank you for keeping us updated on Lucy and on Paul’s book. I noticed that it is #1 on the NYT bestseller list for nonfiction. Amazing – it is reaching so many people. I can’t wait to read it. Love to you all and especially Lucy and your niece.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      thank you so much for your sweet note, shannon! our whole family is totally thrilled. xoxo

  2. Julie says...

    As a Caucasian living in Japan, I have to say that I get chatted up all the time by Asian-Americans! Except that I’m not American. “Oh, you’re from Ohio? Cool. I have heard that Ohio is a place, but I’ve never been there and know absolutely nothing about anything from Ohio, or even where exactly it is.”

    From the Asian-American abroad piece: “I had the same internal reaction: Hi, White Person! Are you American? I’m American too! We might be from the same city! We might know the same people! Over here! Me! The short girl with black hair and brown eyes! Oh, wait. Everyone around us has black hair and brown eyes. Well, I’m different! I’m American! Let’s strike up conversation! Don’t you see I’m just like you?”

    Nope. Not overly bothered by it, but it gets a bit tired to talk to an enthusiastic stranger who thinks we might have things in common just based on the fact that I’m white.

  3. stefanie plumley says...

    Your sister has so much strength, beauty and dignity. (And I was struck by how much she looks like Toby!) I’m looking forward to reading the book. Thank you for sharing the story.

  4. Hi Jo,

    The interview between your sister and Katie Couric left me in chills and tears. I could not help but think of you when Katie asked your sister where her strength came from. I feel you too possess this gorgeous, intelligent and resilient strength of hers that seems so evident from her and Paul’s story. Maybe you both got it from your mother! Or one another. I am not sure, but it is so lovely to behold.

    Thank you for sharing this and so much else.

    Sincerely,
    Courtney

  5. Your sister on GMA today, had me in tears. What a beautiful love they have.

  6. Lindsay says...

    When Breath Becomes Air had me sobbing all weekend – especially your sister’s beautiful and moving epilogue! I haven’t had such a wonderful cry in a long time – it was so touching.

  7. There’s nothing I can say better than what has already been said about your sister’s interview with Katie Couric. It’s all been said— what grace and strength and love. What a gift.

  8. Bethany says...

    Joanna – I’m writing from London, I just read the article on ‘When Breath Becomes Air’ in the Sunday Times Magazine. Paul was a wonderful man. It was a heart-breaking read, but your family is so brave and amazing. I thank Paul and Lucy so much for sharing their story. xxxxxxx

  9. The Couric interview WRECKED me! What an heart wrenching experience to go through. Your sister spoke so eloquently about it!

  10. Sheri says...

    I’m compelled to comment here after watching the interview with your sister. This touched me in a personal way: I am just finishing treatment for breast cancer, something I found while pregnant with my second son. Though I’m currently well, I have daily and often intense fears that the cancer will recur and I myself will have to leave my husband and two little boys. Naturally, I cannot bear the thought. I am so overwhelmingly in awe of the courage of your brother-in-law and sister. What a wonderful person he was. Thank you for sharing.

  11. Meg says...

    Had GMA on randomly and was happy to catch your sister & her husbands story. Very moving.

  12. Oh my goodness…tears streaming down my cheeks at my desk at work after watching your sister’s interview. What an amazing man your brother-in-law must have been, and what an incredibly resilient woman your sister is. Blessings to you and your whole family.

  13. Victoria says...

    Your sister’s video was profound. So inspiring and full of love. What a blessed baby to have parents such as hers.

  14. Billie says...

    What an incredibly stunning soul your sister is. What a special, fresh, raw and inspiring outlook on life. I am heartbroken for her, but amazed at her courage and ability to view and face life head on with brightness. Your brother-in-law was truly magnificent, and your niece is absolutely stunning.

    Thank you for sharing this, I can see it’s touching so many.

  15. brooke says...

    Wow your sister and her late husband are inspiring. I love your blog, and this is my favorite thing you’ve ever shared with us. Thank you

  16. Smetha says...

    I wish I had known your brother-in-law. What a wonderful tribute. I especially love his words to his daughter. Beautiful.

  17. Thank you for posting Helen Kim’s insightful article- more of this writing should be circulated!

  18. your sister’s interview with katie couric is beautiful. so much courage for her and her husband both to share this with the world.

  19. erin says...

    I finished When Breath Becomes Air in one sitting. I have never done that with a book before. Thank you Paul.

  20. Ruth says...

    I just watched your sister’s interview. It was so moving. You have one beautiful, strong, caring sister. Your niece is such a stunning little girl. I just wanted to wish your sister and her daughter all the very best. Wishing you and your family all the best also.
    Ruth in Dublin, Ireland.

  21. I read your sister’s interview on the NY times. What a woman she is.

    Made me cry

  22. Cheryl Fortunato says...

    Cried watching. Had just recently received my copy of the book. Such eloquence and a wonderful lesson of life.

  23. Aileen says...

    I’ve just ordered When Breath Becomes Air and am greatly looking forward to reading it. I’m grateful for how much you and your family have shared of this experience. I along with so many, am truly touched and inspired by the life your sister and brother in law lived.

  24. Wow. Tears streamed from your sister’s beautiful interview. It was so candid and heartfelt. I am reading When Breath Becomes Air and underlying many of Paul’s wise words. He seems like quite the human being. I can only imagine what it was like to know him in person.

  25. That post about greenery gives me back the hope that I some day might manage to keep indoor plants without eventually killing them…

  26. Your sisters interview was very moving and I wept through the video. I admire her strenght and courage. My prayers are with her and her daughter. Thanks for sharing.

  27. Linda S. says...

    Your sister’s interview with Katie Couric was very touching. She is full of strength, elegance, and grace. Thank you for sharing.

  28. It’s going to be a few minutes before I can reframe my mind and emotions, after watching your sister’s interview, and get back through the remainder of your links this week. My gosh, Joanna. What a stunning presence and a gorgeous tribute she’s offered of herself and for Paul (and for their daughter). And, as a bit of a side-note, I read the book last week over the course of a flight across country. And then I read Lucy’s epilogue that night before I fell asleep in bed. Eloquent. Meaningful. Of great and powerful substance. Reading it felt like an experience of the heart and validation for living a life well loved. Please thank Lucy for me (and surely for the millions of other people who will come to read and love the book, as well). And thank you for having shared some of the back story earlier on this blog. I felt, oddly enough, that I knew them going into it; which made for a unique and compelling experience. Sending love to you and your family.

  29. Emma says...

    Your sister’s interview was like a punch in the gut – it almost knocked the wind out of me. What strength, what grace, what love.

  30. Callie says...

    I know you had previously shared that same passage from the book written to their daughter, the one recited at the end of the segment, and it is so touching. It’s wonderful that Paul and Lucy have been so clearheaded, honest and loving through his illness and in grief. I’m planning to get a copy of the book!

    And as always, love reading these end of week lists. :)

  31. what?? oh my god – that is your family! i was gripped with the story when breath becomes air first came out because my husband is a physician and diagnoses people with cancer and experiences death all the time. he himself has a chronic, undetermined illness that scares the shit out of me. i lived with him all through medical school, residency, and now, life, so i feel very connected to the medical field and the professionals within it, and have great compassion for their sacrifice for their training and caring for others. i love your sister’s spirit and strength and can only imagine what a deeply tragic and simulatneously beautiful moment this has been for all of you.

  32. Thinking about you today Joanne. Hope you and Alex and Toby and Anton are well and safe and warm.

  33. Colleen says...

    I wept unashamedly through the interview with your sister! She is a lovely person and so full of grace. My book club with be reading Paul and Lucy’s book this month, I have already alerted them to have plenty of tissue on hand!

  34. Brenna says...

    Your sister is incredibly insightful and strong. As a third year medical student, her story hits close to home as I’ve seen patients starting, in the middle or at the end of their terminal illnesses. She is an example for all those in the health profession and I feel privileged that she’s shared her experience with the world. Thank you.

  35. The interview with your sister was deeply moving – I can’t even begin to describe how it made me feel! What an amazing sister you have and how lucky that she has you as hers.

  36. Kit says...

    I am so moved by your sister’s story and words, Joanna. Thank you, Lucy and Paul, for the courage of your love, and for living life and facing death with such dignity and open hearts. (Watching the tenderness of that interview I also couldn’t help thinking of how Katie Couric also lost her husband quite young to cancer. all the tears.) And I loved how she pointed out Paul’s work as pastoring, as blessing. I’m a young pastor, and this was a beautiful reminder to me what a privilege it is to accompany people in joy and sorrow, make meaning, lift up love, and bless one another (I loved the beautiful scene of their daughter’s baptism!) Thank you for the blessing of this story, and the many blessings your blog brings me:)

  37. JO, I am beyond words. Your sister’s strength and grace is so awe-inspiring. And your brother-in-law’s words about his daughter will forever be emblazoned in my heart. Thank you so much for sharing.

  38. I am overwhelmed and amazed by your sisters courage, grace and fearlessness. Thank you for sharing that beautiful video. I can’t imagine what your family has gone through, losing him and gaining his daughter, all within a short span of time, but I pray many blessings on your lives.

  39. GoldenMoon says...

    Thank you for sharing the interview with your sister and Paul’s journey. The profound courage, commitment to honoring the sacredness in life and in leaving the body, and their bold love of welcoming in their beautiful daughter as he was leaving the planet is all so powerful. I’ve been moved by Paul’s story and writing and now I’m also just as moved by your sister’s fierce love and strength just as much. I feel cleansed and inspired from the river of tears it has brought up in me. Your whole family is magnificent!

  40. ceciel says...

    The Katie Couric interview was so touching and well done. Your sister is a gorgeous human being. And I’m honored you’ve shared some of her journey with us. Thank you.

  41. Kate says...

    I always love reading through your eclectic list of things on Fridays–great lists always :)

    xx

    bombshell-to-be.blogspot.com

  42. Your sister’s interview had me tearing up. What a beautiful, heartbreaking life. Thank you for sharing. Prayers to Lucy and her family.

  43. Sarah says...

    Your sister’s comments and brother-in-law’s writings are just so moving. I’m sitting crying at my screen. Thank you for sharing the link.

  44. Sab says...

    You’re sister’s interview touched me deeply. I am amazed by her strenght and courage. What a beautiful soul Paul was and what a beautiful gift.

  45. Jade says...

    Lucy,
    I cannot relate to the heartbreak you must still be nursing but I hope you know just how beyond inspiring it is for a young woman to see a you- someone who has so much presence, who has drawn so much grace and strength from loving unselfishly.
    Please know just how meaningful both you and your story are and will continue to be.

    Joanna,
    Thank you for sharing your family and heartbreak with us.

  46. Bianca says...

    Thank you for sharing the interview… it was truly moving :)

  47. Nora says...

    Thank you for sharing your sister’s interview and their story. I finished the book last night and want to share it with so many people I know, yet also hang onto it and re-read it a few more times myself. It’s not often I am so eager to recommend a book that made me cry profusely, but in this case the message is so worth the tears. What a beautiful, important book.

  48. Megan says...

    Just over here crying like a baby after watching your sister’s beautiful interview. Thanks for sharing. You must be so proud of her and her family and their courage.

  49. Deep Dark Fears. Genius.

  50. Barbara says...

    Oh, my. Your sister’s and Paul’s story is so very touching. What brave and beautiful souls.

  51. I sent you a note already Jo but my goodness what a family you have and what a lioness of a sister. I have to admit I’m girl crushing on her. :)

    So imagine my joy when she actually commented on my blog post about the book! Thank you again for introducing me to them through your blog.

    http://sitdaily.blogspot.com/2016/01/when-breath-becomes-air.html?m=1

  52. Annie says...

    I burst into tears over the interview with your sister. In awe of her and her husband. What a beautiful witness, what amazing people.

  53. Loved that asian american article! And that IS the cutest short wedding dress.. .I think as untraditional as I am, I still prefer a long gown type dress.. but this would be such a good after-party/reception-dance dress. So pretty!

  54. Esther says...

    Oh goodness just saw the Katie Couric interview. So touching. Thanks for sharing.

  55. Kim H says...

    Profound interview, one that unfortunately resonates with my heart. Your sister is remarkable, and courageous. Thank you for sharing.

  56. Ruby says...

    I could not stop crying while I watched your sister talk about Paul. What beautiful and brave individuals ❤️

  57. I am sitting here awash in tears on a Friday night. Your sister and her husband’s story is devastating, inspiring, real, and beautiful. I wanted to reach through the screen and hug her for her grace and bravery. Thank you for sharing. xo

  58. Annie says...

    Thank you for sharing the interview. I’m reading the book (along with several coworkers and friends) and am so inspired by Lucy and Paul. Will Lucy be doing anymore readings, or was it just the Brooklyn one?

    Have a lovely weekend.

  59. Janel says...

    I was so moved by your sisters interview with Katie..what a really remarkable couple, and beautiful love story. Wow. I have so many thoughts regarding it, their perspective and courage to face it head on. I’ve been in a clinical setting 33 yrs, and approach medical challenges much the same way. Just today my father was diagnosed with Stage 2 esophageal cancer. Next week he begins a cancer journey himself, and we, his children and my mother will journey with him. I’m going to buy and read Pauls book. I want to know I am ready and prepared to be the support my father needs, no matter the outcome. Love is the greatest gift.

    thank you Lucy for sharing your story and might I say, your baby girl is precious! I see her daddy in her, and that just makes my heart swell!

  60. Felicity says...

    I have read your blog for years although I don’t think I have every commented before. But today, when I watched the interview with your sister I felt compelled to reach out in this small way and let you know that Lucy and Paul’s story was so touching to me. Both her words and his will stay with me forever. Thank you to both them and to you for sharing such a personal story.

  61. Thank you so much for sharing your sister’s interview. As everyone else has said, it was deeply moving and brought tears to my eyes. It somehow simultaneously broke my heart yet mustered some profound inspiration. What an absolutely incredible couple.

  62. Monica says...

    Reading about your sister and Paul’s story always leaves me in awe and in tears. Such a strong couple. And Paul’s message to their daughter is just so beautifully written.

  63. I’m pretty sure I’m going to have to take an intensive CBT course now to get rid of those Deep Dark Thoughts I just allowed into my brain.

  64. Lisa says...

    I am so touched and inspired by your sister Lucy. I couldn’t stop the tears again after watching her interview. I received their book in the mail the day before yesterday and stayed up reading the whole thing after the kids were in bed. It is a life changing book. I am so inspired by Paul and his life and insights. The last chapter by Lucy was the perfect conclusion. She is an amazing writer as well and I cried the whole way through that part. She transmitted so much love and strength amidst her grief. Thank you for sharing their journey with us. Best wishes to the family as they continue on.

  65. Elizabeth says...

    There is something so special about your sister and about Paul; their story is touching and connecting so many people. Paul’s words about his daughter were especially moving. Thank you for sharing the interview.

  66. Gayl says...

    I read their book last week. What a wonderful book. Thank you for linking this interview.

  67. Emily says...

    Thank you for sharing Lucy & Paul’s story. Her interview brought tears to my eyes. His book is on my reading list. My father (also a non-smoker) died of lung cancer 20+ years ago.

  68. I just weeped watching your sister’s video. Thank you for sharing these pieces of your lives to help strengthen others who may be experiencing similar journeys.

  69. Margo says...

    I finished Paul’s memoir last night and am forever altered. It met and exceeded my expectations. Watching the interview with Katie, hearing your sister’s voice and Paul’s voice, made their story even more powerful. (And it was also nice to see Emma in the video, who I grew to adore while reading.) Your blog has enlightened me in many ways, this the most poignant. Thank you.

  70. Tracy Carson says...

    Joanna, thank you for sharing your own journey of grief as you watch your sister publicly grieve as the book gains more and more popularity. A strange juxtaposition I’m sure to have something so private become so public and yet then to also want to scream out…”You have no idea how any of this feels!” It seems to me that as you have shared about your sister throughout this journey that you have grown to know her more deeply and intimately. Has this been the case? Is her metaphor for a struggling marriage true for your relationship as well…in the sense that in some way did you fall in love with each other all over again?

  71. Emily says...

    Possibly my most favorite interview of all, I am beyond moved. Loved the words about joy, so profound and simple. Your sister is stunning and incredibly brave. xx

  72. Completely in tears over your sisters interview. What a powerful story full of unwavering love and strength. I truly admire her courage.

  73. Libbynan says...

    My daughter was telling me the other day about this wonderful book all of her fellow teachers were reading, When Breath Becomes Air. I had to chuckle as this has been on my horizon for months thanks to you. When I told her you were his sister-in-law, she was all, ” How did I miss that? ” The interview with Katie was wonderful in the most tear-jerking kind of way. Thanks so much for posting the link …… I would have missed it. I’m passing it on to my daughter and all her co-workers. I know you are so proud of your sister and a real source of support for her. God bless you both.

  74. Marianne says...

    Your sister’s interview touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes . What a strong, amazing, and inspiring couple. I’ve appreciated your willingness to share you sister’s touching story. Looking forward to reading the book, I had to immediately order. Thank you again for sharing.

  75. Melissa S. says...

    I just gasp at the strength and dignity and grace of your sister and Paul. No words.

  76. What a beautiful interview. Your sister and Her husband are really providing meaning for all of us. Thank you.

    Alina

  77. Cynthia says...

    I’m commenting again, as I just watched the interview with Katie Couric and your sister. I’m very teary right now, as it makes me think about my brother who passed away five years ago at the age of 52 with lung cancer. Unfortunately, he was a smoker, but he had also been exposed to fumes from welding and plumbing work, and he had broken his lower back in a job-related injury. He walked with a cane, and he was in pain a lot of the time, but it didn’t stop him. He retired on disability, but he was always helping someone and he was so generous with everyone. He had been divorced for several years, as my ex sister-in-law had difficulty coping with the changes resulting from the accident. He had two step children, but none of his own. My dad passed away with cancer when he was 53. It was cancer of the kidneys and it spread to the lymph nodes. My mom kept going because of my brother who was only 15 at the time, and me, and I was 19. We survived, and my mom is almost 94. I want to read your brother-in-law’s book.

  78. Amy says...

    Your sister is so eloquent and lovely in the video, thank you so much for sharing.

  79. Megan says...

    Your sister and her husband are truly the absolute personification of grace. I have read and re-read everything you have posted on or by them, and forwarded to many people. I am so looking forward to reading the book and am so very grateful to you for sharing them with us during what must still be such a tender time. They set a standard of what it means to live an intentional life higher than I honestly ever knew existed. Lucky all of you for having, and having known, each other. We should all be so blessed. With sincere thanks.

  80. Katharine says...

    Oh Joanna, those photos of your sister and Paul and Cady have me hiding tears from my toddlers. Thank you for sharing! I truly love that this blog covers it all

  81. Emma says...

    In tears watching Lucy’s beautiful interview. What a strong, radiant and extraordinary sister you have. I have no doubt that their beautiful daughter will grow up surrounded by immense love, and that Paul will be reflected back at her every day in the graceful strength and wisdom of her mama. Sending your whole family so much love. xo

  82. Erin Mary says...

    Well here I am, all snowed in here in DC watching the XFiles and eating potato chips and, now, crying over that interview.

  83. lisa says...

    That was such a moving tribute — your sister is so incredibly strong. Thank you for sharing it. The deep, dark fears Instagram provided a much-needed laugh after watching the interview., so thanks for sharing that, too!

  84. Kat D says...

    Thank you so much for sharing the link to your sister’s interview. I have been so touched by her words, Paul’s words, and their entire story. Lucy is so brave.

  85. Marianne says...

    That interview with Lucy was beautiful, and made me cry. As did the book until the wee hours of the morning last night!

  86. Cynthia says...

    I heard Elizabeth Strout on NPR a week ago, and I want to read her books. We are having our snow storm in Richmond, Va. Our only drawback is having to take our dog out, but I love watching it fall and watching the birds at our feeder.

  87. Hi Jo,

    Thank you so much for sharing this interview with Lucy. What an incredible individual she is, and so brave. You must feel so proud and lucky to be her sister (and she as well!). I’m pregnant with our fist child, and to hear her read Paul’s words about the immense joy their child brought to him in his last days was so moving. I literally wept my way through it. I’m looking forward to reading the book.

    Best,
    Laura

  88. Jenn says...

    Joanna,

    I cry each and every time I read (and this time watch something) about your sister and her late husband. Thank you for sharing the interview. Wishing Lucy peace, healing, and endless love in this next chapter of her life.

    XO
    Jenn

  89. I am going to remind myself to summon my own strength like your sister in those life moments when the “why me” creeps in.

    I’ll admit I am not a morning person so that alarm may be necessary (as long as it doesn’t wake up Luna!). I guess that’s why I’d have to jump out of bed.

    I think I’d rather stick to your sister’s strength & doing everything on Food52’s list (skip the alarm! Haha!)

    Have a wonderful weekend everyone!

    Xo Lendy
    http://www.twoplusluna.com

  90. deb k says...

    I’m a teacher with 20-plus years experience. My specialty is helping kids fall in love with reading. I have to say: Lots of problems with the “How I turned my kid into a reader” post.

    Though I’m glad the author has had success, I think this method may backfire for many children.

    Let kids pick their own books. Start with their interests. Honor their interests, even if it’s Zombie Diary of a Wimpy Kid or whatever. (If a kid is finding books that engage them, they are not making “crappy choices.”)

    If you want to broaden your child’s reading repertoire, learn about great books for young people, and help them find texts they want to read. Go to a bookstore! Search under “best books for reluctant readers.” There are tons of terrific books now for readers of all levels — an explosion of high quality texts! Abridged texts? Blech. Would you want to read an abridged text? Would you want someone else picking your books for you?

    The research is pretty clear on this. Kids read best when they can pick books they want to read.

    Let them read. Don’t censor kids and their reading choices. The main thing IS getting them EXCITED ABOUT READING.

  91. Emma Thomas says...

    Lying here weeping at the interview with your sister. What an incredible couple. You must be immensely proud of her, of this book. I will be reading it soon. I am sure one day your niece will also be so very proud of her wonderful father.

  92. Beth Nesbit says...

    Your sister is remarkable as is your brother-in-law. I am half-way through the book now. Thank you for sharing this and his previous essays. With 2 small children of my own I ponder how to give meaning to our lives when I know the future is never promised. Hearing your sister’s voice and seeing the video of Paul with his daughter gave me goose-bumps. Such love and strength in both of them…

  93. Kerry says...

    Your sister’s interview took my breath away. She is pretty dazzling and their story is profoundly human. Wow.

  94. Cutest! Thanks, Jo!

  95. Taylor says...

    You must be so deeply proud of your sister. I am, and I have never met her. She is full of grace and courage and she seems to be showing up beautifully.

  96. Ah, I’m crying after watching Lucy’s interview, thank you for sharing that. I am so inspired by her strength and love and bravery.

  97. Laura says...

    so inspired by your sister and her strength. her late husband can teach us a great deal about grace and the miracle of living a beautiful, meaningful life. going to hold my hubby a little closer tonight.

  98. SK says...

    I just finished Paul’s book last night and was moved very deeply by it. Thanks to Lucy for sharing his words with us. Prayers for all.

  99. How proud you must be of your sister. What a wonderful interview. She is lovely – and incredibly strong.

  100. Jessica C says...

    Joanna, that interview with your sister gave me chills. What a beautiful family.

  101. Your sister…..words fail me. What everyone else said, all compiled together.

  102. Eliza says...

    Hi Joanna, I just watched the interview as well. What a beautifully composed piece, and the photos were just wonderful (especially those at the end with Paul and your niece together). Thank you for sharing. He clearly touched so many lives and was an inspiration to your sister and tour family :-)

  103. What an absolutely beautiful interview with Lucy. It all brings tears to my eyes every time I read something from you about her experience with Paul. While I find myself about to give birth to my own baby in just a few months, his words about the joy his daughter brought to his life and how much value that has in her total existence as a human were so profound and touching. I can’t think of a more wonderful and meaningful message for her to take with her through life.

  104. Have you listened to the Elizabeth Strout interview on NPR’s Fresh Air? It was amazing! I highly recommend giving it a listen.

  105. Kara says...

    Your sister. Your brother-in-law. What pictures of strength, courage and dignity. I am so so inspired by her interview and their family and life. That was literally one of the most compelling and well-spoken interviews I’ve ever had the pleasure of watching.

    Thanks to you (!) for continuing to post updates and info about her, and his book. I think I speak for all of your readers when I say that we continue to pray for her and your niece.

  106. Ali says...

    Oh my! The Katie story with your sister. I’m crying at work. So beautiful and brave! Thanks for including the link!

  107. Sarah says...

    A truly poignant interview–your sister is so incredibly inspiring and what a blessing for them to have had one another in life. As a twin myself, I can’t imagine how hard this time must be for you as well. I’m grateful for all Paul and Lucy have done to help others in times of grief, and the lasting impact of their words. The incredible reviews are so well-deserved!

    All the best,
    Sarah

  108. Nina says...

    Wow, your sister’s video was stunning in its sweetness. So…I’m a single parent, far from family, and my son’s father has not been in our life since before my son was born and the nicest thing people can do for me is give me some time by myself. It truly helps me be a better parent. When my son was about two, a friend took him once a month overnight…I had these lofty goals and mostly, I watched adult shows like Buffy or 24…read books, had a glass of wine and the *most* exciting – grocery shopped sans child. I love my son but shopping alone is SUCH a pleasure! Sometimes I got my nails done. And a membership to triple A especially when he was an infant because I locked my keys out of my car way too often. I really love their sentiment about not making life about not avoiding suffering but creating meaning.”

  109. Tonia says...

    Your sister is amazing.

  110. Cindy says...

    Your sister is such a lovely, strong, articulate woman. What a wonderful interview.

  111. Nicole says...

    Your sister’s brave, graceful and beautiful interview – and your brother-in-law’s powerful words – will stay with me for a long, long time. I feel lucky to have superficially “crossed paths” with them through your blog… can’t imagine how proud you must be to call them both your family. Thank you so much for sharing.

  112. Janine says...

    I watched the interview with your sister and i am amazed that she was not a weeping, sobbing mess. I had a big lump in my thoat when i watched it. I am a nurse who has seen a few people pass away from cancer, it never ever got easier and i remember each person still. This was such a beautiful tribute to your brother in law

  113. Molly says...

    “You know, we’re sort of all guaranteed suffering. And it’s up to us to strive to make meaning — to strive to be good, to do the right thing, to be better — and to live according to our values.” Thank you, Lucy.

  114. Alicia says...

    What a beautiful and brave tribute from your sister. Sending love and peace to Lucy, her child, Paul’s memory …

  115. Christine says...

    Joanna, the clip of your sister’s interview was so moving. She is so strong and admirable. I teared up and got choked up watching it and yet I was learning so much from her. Thank you for sharing it.

  116. Can’t wait to look through all of these. Hope you don’t get hit by the snow too badly.

  117. Di says...

    Joanna, I watched Katie Couric’s interview with your sister with tears streaming down my eyes. What an enormously brave, eloquent and generous person she is. You must be so proud to call her your sister.

  118. Ivonne says...

    How brave is your sister and what a beautiful tribute to her husband.

  119. I just cried at my desk watching your sister speak about her husband. I immediately hopped on amazon and bought the book.

    Sending love from my family to yours –

    On a day when the wind is perfect,
    the sail just needs to open
    and the love starts.
    Today is such
    a day.

    -Rumi, translated by Daniel Ladinsky in Love Poems from God

  120. Kayla Avenell says...

    What a beautiful interview and amazingly inspiring couple. I’d say he knew his true meaning all along. Thank you for sharing.

  121. Karin Smith says...

    Just when I think I’m going to be okay reading/listening to your sister and Paul’s story…nope! Just had a very theraputic, ugly cry.
    Thank-you Lucy, again and again for sharing your touching story.

  122. EPD says...

    Your sister is truly graceful, in every sense of the word.