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What Was Your First Dance Song?

15 slam-dunk first dance songs

What did (or would) you choose as a first dance song? At our wedding six years ago, Alex and I danced to I’ll Be Your Mirror by The Velvet Underground, which we both loved. We had taken dance classes for a few months with grand visions (twirls! footwork! dips!), but at the last minute we wussed out and just danced like little kids with our arms around each other’s necks. I love the song’s lyrics about how you’ll always show the other person how great they are, even if they aren’t feeling it. Here are 9 more first-dance song ideas, and I want to hear yours…

You Are the Sunshine of My Life by Stevie Wonder. I love singing the really low parts. I sound horrible, but I sing it to the kids before bed. It’s kind of become a family song. — Kristen

Let’s Stay Together by Al Green, which is kind of a terrible wedding song. “We oughta stay together”?! Not the most promising of messages. We were babies and had no idea what we were doing! But we do get excited when we hear it now and laugh about how clueless we were back then. — Liz

Roni and I actually met while waiting in line to pick up packages at the post office, so of course we had to play Stevie Wonder’s Signed, Sealed, Delivered I’m Yours. — Nicki

Ours was Lay Lady Lay by Bob Dylan, which still makes me all sorts of tear-eyed. My husband has been calling me “Lady” since we were first together. It’s a surprisingly good song to slow dance to. — Rony

There are many things I regret about my wedding (the ridiculous crown I wore and all the red roses), but our first song isn’t one of them. We did The Nearness of You by Norah Jones. I liked that the lyrics aren’t overly sentimental. It doesn’t even mention the word love, but make no mistake: This is a love song. Even after being married for 13 years, the lyrics still ring true. — Sharon

Time Of The Season by the Zombies because I put it on the first mix I made for Philippe and it has such a sexy feel. — Piera

Sam Cooke’s You Send Me. Oh, man, I love it. Every once in a while a busker will be playing in a subway station, and it takes me right back to that day. — Claire

Otis Redding’s That’s How Strong My Love Is. It’s beautiful and suuuuper short, clocking in at just over two minutes. It still felt like an eternity up there, swaying back and forth like seventh graders. But before the song could completely fade out, our DJ cranked the volume for Twist and Shout (The Beatles, obvs) and everyone jumped on the dance floor. Looking back, I think I felt pressure to stick with traditional elements (like an excruciatingly slow first dance). If I planned it again, I’d skip the formality and just twist and shout from the start. — Megan

Ours was Till There Was You by The Beatles. It’s sweet and lighthearted without being cloying. — Diana (pictured at top)

A few others I like:
This Will Be Our Year by the Zombies
There’s a Kind of Hush by Herman’s Hermits
My Baby Just Cares For Me by Nina Simone
When I’m 64 by The Beatles
I’ll Take You There by the Staple Singers

15 slam-dunk first dance songs

Was did (or would) you choose as your first dance song? I want to hear…

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(Top photo of Miss Moss at her wedding. Bottom photo by Amanda Kopp, via this post.)

  1. Paige says...

    You & I – by Michael Buble

  2. Kevin says...

    Your Love Amazes Me by John Barry. Our first trip together was in Jamaica when we were dating. One night a Jamaican with a cowboy hat and the most amazing twang in his voice serenaded us at our dinner table. I didn’t say anything, but I bought my (then girlfriend) the CD the next Christmas. That song was a lock from that day and my kids just put it on a Spotify playlist for her birthday. 20 years and the song still does it.

  3. Chelsea says...

    We went with “crazy love” by Van Morrison. But, Otis Redding and Sam Cooke were on the short list!

  4. Amy says...

    Ours was ” Sweet Pea” by Amos Lee. <3 I still get emotional and remember how time stood still as we danced alone.

  5. “The Air That I Breathe” by The Hollies… still get teary-eyed when I listen to it.

    • KJ says...

      That was my (& my husband’s) first dance song – almost 12 years ago. Love love love it still.

  6. Lara says...

    Here and Now by Luther Vandross

  7. Heather C. says...

    True Companion- Marc Cohn
    So amazing!

  8. Karen says...

    Our dance was to “Thank you for loving me” Bon Jovi. We followed it with a bit of “Patience” Guns & Roses that the bridal party joined in during. Married in 2003!

  9. Amy says...

    I choose you- Sara Bareilles

  10. Brooke says...

    If I Needed You- Townes Van Zandy

  11. RB says...

    “Sleepwalk” — Santo & Johnny

  12. molly says...

    “you’re my best friend,” – queen.

  13. Denise Ingram says...

    “Leather and Lace” by Stevie Nicks and Don Henley. It was perfect.

  14. Kat says...

    Crazy Love-Van Morrison

  15. Sara says...

    We danced to Lauren Woods “Fallen”, from the Pretty Woman soundtrack. It plays when they go to the opera. We loved it and the words were just perfect for our relationship. We also played signed, sealed, delivered for our recessional. Got lots of laughs and cheers from the crowd.

  16. Olivia says...

    We eloped, but if we hadn’t it would have been Paul Burch’s “Sparks Fly Out”.

  17. Megan says...

    We danced to Cat Power’s version of “Sea of Love.” The words start, “Do you remember when we met?” ….and we got married three years later on the exact day we met.

  18. Kristen says...

    My husband and I danced to The Luckiest by Ben Folds. One of my most favorite love songs.

  19. D. Barrios says...

    My husband chose ‘In Your Eyes’ by Peter Gabriel. For a long time I thought it was because I love Peter Gabriel but it turns out it was because it’s from that scene in ‘Say Anything’ where John Cusack stands out in front of Ione Skye’s house holding a boom box over his head. Which my husband thinks is very romantic. Which is much sweeter than the reason I originally thought he chose it. I think that shows he put a lot of thought into it. He’s a hopeless romantic.

  20. Katharine says...

    Then by brad paisley ❤️ It was so perfect and I still cry every time I hear it

  21. Sandi says...

    Ours was by ABBA….I do..I do…I do.. Was great!¡

  22. Kimberly says...

    ‘Stand By Me’ by Ben E King. We took dance lessons, and I think we nailed it (for a couple with zero rhythm).
    The big hit was dancing with my father to ‘Crocodile Rock’

  23. Jessica says...

    Exactly like you by Tony Bennett and KD Lang

  24. KK says...

    We danced to “Thank You” by Led Zeppelin. Beautiful lyrics, classic song, not over played, couldn’t even find it on a list for first dance songs. Everyone loved it.

  25. Mary Macdougall says...

    Love is in the Air by Wet Wet Wet-coming up on 20 years and haven’t killed each other yet!

  26. Tracey says...

    My husband and I had not chosen a first dance song as we wanted everyone on the floor together. Unfortunately as we got up to join our friends, they all sat down! We ended up dancing to Brown Sugar by the Rolling Stones. Which was fun!

  27. Morgan says...

    We danced our first dance to The Luckiest by Ben Folds. It’s somewhat weird and perfect.

  28. Jen says...

    My husband and I chose Each Coming Night by Iron and Wine as our first dance song. Our ACTUAL song is The Sea and the Rhythm by Iron and Wine, but as the lyrics are a bit risqué we thought it best to save that one for after the guests had gone ;)

  29. I Can’t Help Falling in Love with You – Elvis Presley

    The line “take my hand, take my whole life too” just kills me every time! I love that it’s a song played at most weddings and frequently on the radio, whenever we hear it, we stop and dance – even if we’re in the middle of painting our kitchen, which happened on Valentine’s Day :)

  30. Brandi says...

    So our first dance was to “At Last” because my little sis offered to sing it for us (which was so special), but our actual song is the one we walked down the aisle to after our “I do’s” – Everlong by Foo Fighters. So now it’s kind of fun because we have two totally different style songs we get to call our own <3

  31. Rachel says...

    We danced to “First Day of My Life” by Bright Eyes–one of our favorite bands. It was lovely. We had another friend who got married a couple of months after us steal the song for her first dance :-P

  32. 500 miles by the Proclaimers!! The words make me tear up, and I love how upbeat it is – we danced by ourselves for a while and then invited our guests to finish the song with us. Having all of our closest friends and family storm the dance floor and literally surround us with their love was a moment I’ll never forget!

  33. Wendy says...

    We danced “Nadie como tú” (traduction: None like you) from Presuntos Implicados (an music trio from Spain)

  34. Kiersten says...

    “Love Never Felt So Good” – Michael Jackson. Neither of us are good dancers, so we just kind of boogied and laughed our way through the first 30 seconds until I asked our wedding party to join us! Not very traditional, but we loved it.

  35. Our song is “Screeenwriter’s Blues” by Soul Coughing, It’s not very dance-y really but it’s our song.

  36. Devyn says...

    We danced to Sam Cooke’s version of “(I Love You) For Sentimental Reasons”. We wanted something that wasn’t too long (dancing in front of people is nerve-racking!) and wasn’t too slow, and this song fit the bill! Not to mention the lyrics are sweet as can be :)

  37. Jen says...

    My husband and I had our first dance to “Try Me” by James Brown. We both have very eclectic tastes in music, and were swapping CDs back and forth during our early days of dating. Somehow, unbeknownst to each other, we separately decided that was our song – well before we were even engaged. When we had to choose our first dance song, we both blurted it out at the same time.

  38. Katie says...

    “Call Me Irresponsible” by Frank Sinatra. My husband is a huge Sinatra fan, and I remember the night he played this for me in his tiny studio apartment in a questionable part of town where he couldn’t turn the heat on because it cost too much money. It felt perfect for where we were in our lives, and still makes me feel so in love with him when I hear it. Dancing with him to that song was my favorite part of our wedding day.

  39. Prippy Handbook says...

    “Here Comes Your Man” by The Pixies. We played it together on a jukebox the night we met :)

  40. Ellen says...

    We danced to “Sing to Me” by Walter Martin and Karen O. It’s actually on a children’s album, but we’re both singers and it made so much sense to us. When my now husband played it in the car for me, hoping I’d like it, I turned to him with tears streaming down my face and saw his too. Our guests loved it because they hadn’t heard it before and the lyrics are easy to hear.

  41. My husband and I danced to “If I should fall behind” by Bruce Springsteen! It is such a beautiful and generally lesser-known song by the Boss, and I now I can’t help but tear up a little every time I hear it! :)

  42. Brooke says...

    We did ‘Forever Like That’ by Ben Rector ! Love it so much.

  43. Keegan says...

    If I Should Fall Behind by Bruce Springsteen. Perfection. We loved that it acknowledges the changes people and relationships go through, but no matter what you come back together.

  44. Ramune says...

    Harvest Moon by Neil Young

  45. Kelly says...

    The Luckiest by Ben Folds. It was perfect, it started just the two of us and then our baby girl joined us.

  46. JTA says...

    Sea of Love covered by Cat Power

  47. Rachel S. says...

    I’m So Glad by Royal Wood. I still love it. :)

  48. Nikki says...

    I’m getting married in 3 months (ah!) and our song is “Get It Wrong, Get It Right,” by Feist. It’s a really lovely song about building a home, being content, and sometimes getting it wrong, sometimes getting it right. I love it.

  49. dw says...

    Ours was “Ain’t That a Kick in the Head” by Dean Martin

  50. Sarah says...

    “Moon River” recorded by Andy Williams

  51. Jackie says...

    We danced to In Spite of Ourselves by John Prine. Sweet, sassy, hilarious, and totally fitting for us. Love!

  52. Heidi says...

    I want a little girl, by Eric Clapton.
    Oh man! It makes me happy just hearing it now!!! Best line: “If she can cook chicken, yeah, she’ll suit me to a T”
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YR_6JGQRDzk

  53. Stacey says...

    I’m not married, but it’s something that I’ve given a lot of thought (which is why I love this comments thread). I’ve always loved Under a Blanket of Blue by Ella Fitzgerald and Louis Fitzgerald. And I’ve always joked that the man I marry will be the one who doesn’t mind that I want to walk down the aisle to More Than A Feeling by Boston. :)

  54. Truan says...

    Into My Arms by Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds :)
    We went to classes for a few weeks before hand but totally forgot the steps on the day!

  55. Whitney says...

    We walked down the isle to Chasing Cars by Natasha Bedingford and our first dance was You Got What I Need by Joshua Radin

  56. Anya Kamenetz says...

    We also did Velvet Underground–Into the Sun. A romantic instrumental that we both love. Super into that song still.

  57. Emily says...

    I just got married two weeks ago and our first dance/song was one of the highlights of my wedding. We danced to La Vie en Rose by Louis Armstrong and it was the perfect song — slow, sweet, and sexy.

  58. Maiken says...

    “Come Live With Me” by Ray Charles

  59. you are the best thing – Ray Lamontagne ❤️❤️❤️

  60. We actually weren’t going to have dancing at our wedding (I know, so lame), but the reception was just a dessert reception and we had limited time at the place so we thought we’d just forego it and spend the time talking with everyone. But my husband surprised me and had the opening theme music from Up play and pulled me in to dance. You know the part- from the first ten minutes that tell Carl and Ellie’s love/life story. It was so beautiful, and now that movie always has an extra special meaning to me. :)