Motherhood

Toby’s First Haircut

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Poor Toby has suffered through haircuts by yours truly for the past five years. Some of my cuts have been okay. Others, not so much. (Sorry, Tobes! I tried my best!)

Finally, Alex and I figured it was time to turn to a pro, so we took him to a little salon in our old neighborhood with boat-shaped seats and cartoons on a TV. He was very brave.

Toby's First Haircut

Toby's First Haircut

Sweet boy! His cut is kind of choppy and impish; I think he looks kind of like Peter Pan. I asked Toby what he thought about it, and he said, “It’s lovely.” It’s funny how something small like a haircut can make a child seem so much older. I gave him a million extra kisses at bedtime last night. He’s grown up so much in the past couple years — I mean, look at this little giraffe!

How about you? Do you cut your kids’ hair? How did their first real haircut go?

(Top photo from my Instagram)

  1. Maria says...

    Aw Toby you look so handsome xo

  2. Maria says...

    oh he looks gorgeous… but I also loved his hair before. And those freckles… just so sweet. My son is the same age and looks and sounds so similar to Toby. He still has mum cuts – my husband and I always joke he looks like the little boy from that old show Eight is Enough! And, yes the anxiety… it blows!

  3. Heidi says...

    Toby is seriously one of the cutest little kids on the planet. Such a sweetheart!

  4. fik says...

    so sweet…

  5. Lisa says...

    On him looking grown up – in Judaism traditionally boys don’t have their hair cut until they’re three years old. It is crazy how literally overnight (or over haircut?) they’ll go from looking like a baby / toddler, into a little boy. My friend’s son was super serious about it, about how now that he’d had his first haircut he wasn’t a “baby” any more, but a proper boy and should be treated as such.

  6. My youngest has refused a haircut for years. She is 5 now! Her hair was past her bottom when we finally convinced her to get a “trim”. We had to call it a trim because she refused a haircut. So she finally got a 4 inch trim. You can’t even tell. Her hair is still so long!

  7. Megan Lakely says...

    What a sweetheart! Toby has such an open and friendly face.

  8. Toby is sooooooo adorably handsome! And what a little gentleman… “it’s lovely”. Like, what little boy dreams of owning a blazer? He’s a dream.

  9. elizabeth says...

    Oh, Joanna–he is so handsome! What a cutie.

  10. CeeBee says...

    My husband made The Worst Ever first clip of my son’s hair. It was so bad I took him out for a haircut… which was barely better. It was a kids place but they obviously operate on a one process for every kid kind of way. Second haircut there, and then a third at a barbershop was also pretty terrible. I was lamenting to my own stylist who told me to bring him in. I thought my stylist didn’t do kids cuts, but he will for regular customers’ kids. Needless to say he gets great haircuts now and I don’t feel terribly sad waiting for a choppy hack to grow out. And my stylist turned out to be way better at managing a toddler’s emotions, even without all the pomp and circumstance of plane chairs and personal tv’s.

  11. Talia says...

    He is absolutely adorable. What precious pictures!

  12. INSANE, Joanna. Just insane. Think how I feel – a blog reader since before you got married! ;)
    It’s so unreal to watch someone grow up on a blog. It’s like watching my little nieces grow up or something – except it’s a kid I don’t even know, but I feel deeply invested in. Anyway. The haircut is super cute.

  13. april says...

    I love Toby, everyone’s favorite Internet kid! (Have you seen Iain Loves Theatre? I feel like he and Toby would get along like a house afire! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/steve-schonberg/internet-sensation-7year-_b_7829562.html). Best to you while you’re battling anxiety. Just remember what Julian of Norwich said: “All shall be well and all shall be well and every manner of thing shall be well”. xo

  14. Stefanie says...

    So funny, we actually took our 4.5 year old to see Jessica at the same salon. She had been at one on the east side and once she moved we tried a barber shop for our son. He did not like it so we had to head back and go to a children’s hair place.

  15. Gwen says...

    Joanna, Toby is so beautiful! And – your haircut IS lovely Toby!

  16. We love Doodle Doo’s! I took Ethan there for his first haircut on his first birthday, and we wound up in a NYC guidebook due to good timing since they were profiling the shop. Ethan is a tough customer when it comes to haircuts (he’s had 5 already, at age 2.5), and I’m always impressed at the patience the professional stylists show when maneuvering scissors around the head of a feisty toddler. :)

    • HI LORRAINE. So funny. I just realized I left the next comment after you, and it’s YOU you. LOL. Another coincidence for us. :)

  17. Aw, what a cutie! I tried giving my munchkin haircuts – it did NOT go well. Then he was traumatized by a haircut (not his first, but his third, probably) when the hair salon switched owners. The new owner/haircutter was a guy who was NOT good at it! So haircuts were a struggle until we found a new place that offers the kids lots of distractions – movies, toys, games, cookies, prizes, the WORKS. You know what though, it really did the trick. Now my little boy actually looks forward to haircuts.

  18. My son has a gorgeous and thick mop of blonde hair and needed a cut by about 11 months old. Overly confident after a few bang trims, I tried to do it myself with regular scissors while he ate breakfast and it was a fiasco. I had to take him to a pro to get it fixed and he ended up with a Marine-style “high & tight” because I’d cut it so short on one side. We’ve gone to a local salon (cheap non-kid one) with booster seats ever since, every 3 months or so (he’s turning 5 this week). I get my daughter’s curly hair trimmed every 2 or 3 visits and trim her bangs at home.

  19. Shannon says...

    My boyfriend is a hair dresser and our son loves everything about hair styling and cutting. I held out for as long as possible despite all the comments to cut his hair (so aggravating!). But when he finally had his first trim he was so proud and delighted. Now he asks to have his hair cut regularly but climbing into the barber chair and pulling at his hair while studying himself in the mirror. He also loves styling mommy’s hair and gets very excited when he sees brushes and styling tools.

  20. His little face in the top photo is so precious! That’s me in basically every situation ever.

  21. Gina says...

    I agree with Toby, it is lovely! And every time I see a photo of him I think about how much he looks like you. Such a beautiful little boy.

  22. Dee says...

    So sweet! It is funny how a haircut can make a kid look so grown up. I love the haircut. He seems so sweet and has such an awesome personality. You’re very lucky! He seems bound to be a wonderful man with great parents like you! :)

  23. OMG he is so sweet and adorable, what an open and beautiful face. It’s a great haircut :)

  24. What an adorable haircut!This post makes me want to procreate!
    I better go to a McDonald’s Play Place to counteract the cuteness, and remind myself to wait. ;)

  25. Toby looks super cute and I especially love what he thought of his cut!

  26. Cynthia says...

    I cut my girls’ hair when they were little, and started taking them to a salon when they started school. I’d trim their bangs between cuts. They had simple chin length blunt cuts. Although I wanted them to have long hair, my oldest had fine, slippery hair which would slide out of barrettes and pony tail holders, and my youngest had hair which knotted when it grew long. As adults, they both have short hair. Toby is so cute! I wish I could reach through the photo and give him a hug! You have two precious boys!

  27. Your Toby stories over the years always charm me so. I still can’t get over his love for blazers and violins. What a dreamboat. Toby, you’re the coolest.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Oh his blazer love! Haha, it’s still going strong :)

  28. Meggles says...

    What a precious, precious little boy. I have three girls, and love it, but the thought of having a little boy like your Toby makes my heart melt!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      Would you ever try for a fourth? We are still debating the third!

  29. Sweet Toby! Kudos to you for cutting a whole head of hair for so long, btw. I can’t even cut BANGS! My poor girl looked like Uma Thurman from Kill Bill after 2 years of fringe hacking. I finally gave in and went to a salon last month and she now looks like she didn’t cut her own hair.

    Kensley at Hot Mess Mamas

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha toby looked like dumb and dumber, poor bunny! i didn’t realize how bad my cuts were until we got a real one :)

  30. I took my daughter to a salon for her first haircut. She was 3 and I wanted her to have the full experience. Not only did they play a movie of her choice, but they gave her a blowout and manicure! Fun, but a little over the top. Now we do the salon once in a while but oddly enough she mostly prefers Mom’s haircuts.

  31. Samantha says...

    Very cute! I am too much of a wimp to even attempt cutting my son’s hair, so I have been taking him to a kids haircut place since he was 13 months old. I would destroy his hair if I tried. :) We are going this afternoon, he needs a trim every couple of months!

    • Samantha says...

      Oh, and if you liked the stylist that cut his hair you should request her every time. My son now recognizes ‘Miss Julie’, the woman who cuts his hair. I think it helps him feel more comfortable.

  32. Jody says...

    I love his haircut but his “lovely” comment is just so adorable. It seems like he has such a sweet soul. I tried cutting my (now 22 months old) son’s hair but it made me too nervous. We ended up taking him to a pro and I definitely teared up after his first one, it made him look so grown up!

  33. carrie b says...

    oh my goodness he is precious and sounds like such a sweet little guy.

  34. My husband has been cutting my 3 year old’s bangs for a couple of years now, but the last time he did it, she wouldn’t sit still and we ended up having to go to the little salon around the corner from us. I took a million pictures of her sitting there, very brave, while the nice stylist cut her hair. She listened to directions (“close your eyes, and tilt your chin down!”) like such a little pro. It made me cry!

  35. The new cut really makes a difference. He looks so cute!

  36. Ileana says...

    He looks great!!!

  37. Awads says...

    My boy has been getting professional haircuts since he was a year old, about every 8-10 weeks. He has a million cowlicks, so it’s terrible if i try to do it myself. he balks at every cut b/c he hates the itchiness after it, but he looks so cute when he has a new haircut! (we don’t go too short b/c i like a little bit of a moptop).

  38. Mary says...

    Please tell Toby that I think he looks very handsome with his new haircut.

  39. Kristin says...

    He is so precious. I cut my son’s hair. One time he looked like a Nintendo mushroom. It was not good. Now I watched a few more tutorials and can do it better but have to work while he plays because HE WILL NOT SIT STILL. I know its a long time til he will be ready to go to the barber because…hellion.

  40. Cherie says...

    I have never cut my children’s hair – they love going to a salon! My husband has taken my son to a barber for many years now and they get their haircuts together (secret men’s business)

  41. He does look a little like Peter Pan, you’re right! I don’t have children so I can’t participate in the discussion but I just loved the pictures so much. Especially the fact that Toby thinks his hair looks ‘lovely’ awww. That’s so sweet. I have been following you ever since you got married and it’s true that Toby has grown so much in the past years. Time flies!

  42. Jessica says...

    I cut my son’s hair in the bathtub while he’s majorly distracted. But I have to wait to do his bangs until he’s asleep in his carseat!

  43. CATHERINE says...

    “it’s lovely”! That sounds British doesn’t it? So great! Toby looks so handsome.
    My kids (boy and girl) have always had professional haircuts because that’s how most people do it here. My son was 8 months old for his first visit to the hair salon, and there were no distractions or toys or anything, but so many things to look at. He played with a giant brush. It was a lot of fun and the haircut lasted 15, 20 minutes tops. My daughter went a bit later as we wanted her to have long hair, and she had lots of curls.
    My son is 13 now and has been going there alone for a while now, my daughter ( 10) and I make a big thing out of it, we go together and have fun, soon we’ll add manicures!

  44. He is going to be SUCH a lady killer! Those eyes and eyelashes!

  45. We started shaving my son’s head at 18 months but stopped when we started getting sympathic looks in public. He did kind of look sickly but he loved the short hair!
    He now goes to the barber shop with daddy every few months then to the bakery down the street.
    Toby is such a cutie pie! He’s definitely reached
    Big-Bou status!

  46. Meg says...

    My son has beautiful blonde curls. I’ve been clipping the curls since he was about 9 months. The last haircut (he’s 2 years) was bad. He looked like a blonde Annie. I have hung up my scissors and will now defer to a professional.

  47. Emily says...

    I did my almost 3 year old’s first couple of haircuts since they were easy and she was easy to distract at 15 months. But then we started taking her to the haircuttery with her dad and that was ok…until one time they just straight up butchered her hair – it was uneven/too short/everything was wrong! My MIL noticed via skype! (of course).
    Now I take her to an actual salon. It’s a little more ($15/cut) but she looks STYLING! and last time I got a blowout and my eyebrows done and it was a fun first girls salon time.

  48. Marianne warren says...

    I cut my little guys hair. Although it’s getting tougher now that it getting thicker. I use the tricks from the tutorial someone gave you for Toby’s hair. I’m getting better with each hair cut!

  49. Jillian says...

    I took my son to my stylist for his first cut when he turned one and she did a great job but it was expensive and his hair grows so fast that I decided to use the electric clippers on him for subsequent cuts. He hates it at first but I put Elmo videos on and those seem to hold his attention enough that I can get a good cut done. Kudos to you, Joanna, for doing it with scissors all those years!

  50. Kathleen says...

    I’d be terrified to cut my daughter’s hair. She’s been a wiggler since day one. When her mane became truly unmanageable, I took her to a kids’ salon. They were so nice and patient, it was totally worth it. It also doesn’t hurt that time at the adjacent play café is included in the price of the haircut.

  51. Celine says...

    I never cut joseph’s hair and his first cut was at 2! Since then he loves it and every hair cut is a party!!!

  52. Awe, so cute for words! I can’t imagine cutting the fine little baby hair for the first time…I don’t have kids yet but will be goofy emotional about such things! xo

    Kisses,

    (=’.’=)
    -Lauren
    adorn la femme

  53. If it’s possible to make someone adore children you’ve never met then WHAMMO! You have succeeded, Joanna. So stylish, Mr. Toby. And that giraffe costume melts my heart. Costumes every day!!!

  54. Katharine says...

    He looks so sweet! My son Bjorn (not yet 3) has only suffered through my very amateur cuts except once our professional friend Emily cut his hair at our home. Saturday my husband went to get his hair cut and Bjorn also wanted to get his hair cut. I asked him if he wanted mama to keep it long or cut it short. He very firmly told me, ” no mama. No. You no cut my hair. Take me to Emily please”. Guess he is on to how bad my skills truly are ;)

  55. Ronda says...

    My mom cut my hair until I was 10… My son has always had his hair cut by a professional…kids haircuts are so much cheaper than therapy;)

  56. Aidel.K says...

    I am so happy you followed up the Instagram post with the final cut! Toby looks fantastic.

  57. Kate says...

    Omg in that last pic he looks about 30! Between his good genes and his love of romance he is destined to be a lady and/or gent KILLA.

  58. Mary says...

    I am a grandma now. I cut my boys’ hair for a number of years. Looking back at photos I can tell, and feel a bit foolish. Anyhoo, they did not seem to mind my cuts or the barbers. My oldest grandson found haircuts traumatic. I never even tried to cut his hair. And yes, they do look older with a new “do”.

  59. It turned out great!

    My parents were friend with a hairstylist, so we always got our hair cut by her. She loved blunt bangs and long hair on my sister and me – but when we got older, she did indulge us when we asked to have it all chopped off, and she always did the greatest bobs!

    My mom did cut my hair a few times, but it was all one length, and (mostly) straight. She used craft scissors, if I remember correctly!

  60. Oh man, my dad cut mine and my sister’s hair for YEARS. Definitely had the mushroom cut for the first 6 years of my life (you know, the bangs that just kind of angle/fade into a bob) yikes! You did a great job! His new cut looks so great though!

  61. That first cut is so emotional because they really do look so much older immediately! My husband has taken our boys to the same barber that he grew up going to (although it’s the next generation doing the cutting now) for all their cuts (including their first Indian ceremonial cut). They all love it!

  62. Amy says...

    Yay it’s soo cute! He looks great. I like that it’s sweetly boyish.
    My oldest LOVES getting her haircut now but the first time she was so unsure but talked about the experience the whole car ride home. My younger one hates it and is scared of the scissors near her ears, understandably!

  63. Catherine says...

    my sons (6 & 9) have always loved haircuts. I recently manuveured their haircuts onto my husband’s to-do list of responsibilities. He now takes them to the barbershop where he goes. They do things old style there and wash their hair after the haircut and put warm towel on their face. The boys feel grown up and hip!

  64. Claire says...

    Toby looks great! And he has such a similar sweet face to you, Joanna! “Lovely” haircut indeed, Toby.

  65. Kathleen says...

    Oh, yes, I have three boys and have cut their hair many times. They had a version of the “bowl” cut for a while. Then I took them to the barber for a while. After I realized the eventual ongoing expense of doing that, I decided to buy a pair of clippers and figure out how to give them a more stylish haircut myself. There are a ton of great tutorials on YouTube. This summer, with the heat, they wanted it super short so I gave them a pretty short clipper cut. Maybe they’ll want it a bit longer this winter. Either way, I’m all for Mom’s Barber Shop and I think watching some videos and studying up on the basics of a good haircut can go a long way.

  66. Thao says...

    One of the first memories I have of my haircuts is my grandmother chasing me around my auntie’s house with scissors in her hand declaring she was going to give me what (according to her) was called “the Barbie haircut”. Needless to say, my mom was not too happy when she got home and saw her five-year-old with a choppy, uneven boy cut. =)

  67. Mollie says...

    While I don’t have a child, I recently came across a Polaroid from my first professional haircut. Oh boy, the ’80s were not kind to anyone’s hair, even toddlers.