Motherhood

Made Me Laugh

Last Thursday, on The Late Late Show, Judd Apatow, Mark Duplass and Cobie Smulders were chatting about childbirth.

“Now, we all have children here,” host James Corden said. “Guys, were you present at the births of your children?” Soon, the men started discussing whether they “looked” during childbirth.

“My uncle Robert said it’s like watching your favorite pub burn down,” joked Corden.

Finally, Smulders spoke up. “You guys know what I was doing?” she said, “I was pushing a baby out of my vagina.”

Made me laugh.

I had told Alex not to look down when Toby was born, but by the time I was in labor, I didn’t care AT ALL. What about you?

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  1. hanna says...

    Giving birth is by far the most amazing thing I have ever done. I would do it again tomorrow if I could. Why on earth would I deny my partner the opportunity to watch? Is he not going to want to have sex with me again because he saw me give birth? That is ridiculous and frankly insulting to him. I will never forget him turning to me wide eyed after our daughter was born and saying, “I have a new found respect for vaginas”. I think I laughed for a good 5 minutes and it still makes me chuckle.

  2. Meg says...

    Also, for any expecting first time moms our sex life is better than pre-baby. After about 8 months post-partum my husband told me he didn’t know how to explain it but sex was just better, way better. He said it didn’t feel looser at all. I have to agree, I’m so proud of what my body did I think it made me appreciate my body in sex so much more! So have hope, your body changes but sometimes change is for the better!

  3. Meg says...

    After my son’s birth my husband told me “women and vaginas are so strong, if all men saw birth they would never use p****y as derrogatory for weak men, it would be a compliment!” I was like “I love you forever!” Also, he wasn’t on the viewing end because I was squatting on a birthing stool and he was literally the only one strong enough to hold me up. It was amazing having his cheek next to mine and I could feel his tears when he saw our son.

  4. Sam says...

    I remember with my first I was putting on a nonchalant act about my husband seeing everything, but truthfully deep down I was slightly nervous about the pooping thing! But you’re right Joanna, when in full out labor I couldn’t have cared less! So much so that my sister, my mother-in-law, my sister in law, my mum, even my husbands brother was there! (But he was behind a curtain!) people always ask me if it bothered me or if I didn’t think that was weird but I truly didn’t. I know that the whole birthing experience is mostly focused on the mums but it is a huge, overwhelming, amazing, sometimes terrifying experience for the husband too so it was nice that we both had our favourite people with us for support and encouragement and celebration. My husband and his brother totally adore each other so it was really nice that he had his best mate present at such a huge moment in his life.

    For our second child, the support team in the birthing room was even larger and more varied than the first, and I really think I like it that way. We joke that for our third birth we should send out an open invitation 😂

  5. SY says...

    My husband looked when our midwife said the baby’s head was coming out. He actually said “oh my gosh, I can see her head” and he was so excited in the way he said it and with his smile (he’s normally very reserved) that it gave me this extra energy to push the baby out. We had a mirror before that moment but for some reason, viewing through the mirror felt like I was watching another body because I couldn’t imagine that THAT was actually happening to my body. So my husbands words really were what connected me to the baby and made me push her out!

  6. Amanda says...

    I’ve had 2 babies and it didn’t even occur to me to discuss “looking” with my husband. Is that genuinely a concern? I mean, we’re life partners, friends, and I’m giving birth to his kid. I always feel out of the loop when I hear people discuss things like that – like, oh, are there men out there who care about that kind of stuff? And women who worry about it too? Weird.

    Also, the men in this segment were shocking pigs. “They’ll do it up but it’ll never be the same?” Gross, James Corden.

    • ana says...

      yes!!!

  7. rachel says...

    I was able to be with one of my best friends while she gave birth to her second child, and why anyone, man or woman, would not want to witness that complete miracle is beyond me!

    • hahahahaha jenny! you are my favourite.

    • Jess west says...

      Oh my god! Hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂 the best comment ever!

  8. Connie says...

    Love this post and all the comments from women who have already been there and done it. I want at least three kids but I’ve been so afraid about childbirth and what it does to your body! Love to hear that the vagina is actually resilient because the whole issue is just shrouded in mystery.

  9. kate says...

    I have heard the “watching your favourite pub burn down” remark before and it is so offensive on so many levels. What’s more, it is also totally and utterly wrong! This notion that once a woman becomes a mother she is no longer desirable or attractive is an antiquated view! And any man worth having a child with would surely agree.

  10. Em says...

    We both watched with each of our daughters. I cannot imagine denying my husband the chance to witness what was easily two of the most magical moments of our lives. And yes, occasionally he teases me about the poop that accompanied our precious girls, but if you can’t laugh about the small stuff…

  11. impossible to not read or hear the words apatow and vagina together…

  12. When I had my first I remember the nurses asking if I wanted the mirror pointed so I could see everything. I said no thanks right away. My husband probably felt the same way, but the nurses made him hold one of my legs through the delivery so he had no chance to turn away. lol.

  13. Lauren says...

    My discovery of Mark Duplass in the past year has greatly improved the quality of my life. Do you watch Togetherness on HBO, Jo? It is wonderful!!!

  14. Kimberly says...

    My husband is in awe of my vagina! He was there, a very active participant in the birth and was not grossed out. He was amazed. He cried.
    We have amazing sex still, it feels as tight to me as before, and he says that, too. Maybe I’m lucky, but my husband loves my vag, we have a great sex life, and although I’m afraid of what #2 could do….I know I will bounce back and do will my vagina.

    • Anna says...

      Yeah! My husband is in awe of my vag (we have two kids) & what it can do too! He says it’s tighter & better than before. & he was completely involved in both births.

  15. Isabelle says...

    You are amazing parents!
    I’m so happy for you about your little girl

  16. Kate says...

    Very surprised that so many people find this amusing or endearing in some way. Frankly I think the men’s comments are appalling and misogynistic. A human, a woman, your wife, the mother of your child is performing an incredible, natural feat with her body, one which brought you into this world and which you are incapable of. It makes me angry and sad to see women’s bodies yet again reduced to sexual commodities, especially in this context. How humiliating and belittling for those men’s wives to hear their own husbands speak about them and their bodies this way.

    • Diana says...

      Well said Kate.

  17. I don’t like how the host said, “do it up” as if it requires “fixing” afterwards. There is nothing damaged or mangled or in need of repair of a vagina that has given birth, even if it needs a few stitches for a tear. They should be held in awe because they are absolutely amazing (!!!), not worn out. I just think small word choices like that have such a large impact. So dismissive of women and want their bodies can do, right?

    This just might strike a nerve with me, because otherwise I’m pretty easy going, but I just think, if a man can’t handle seeing you give birth (aka PERFORM A MIRACULOUS FEAT), than what kind of man is he? [And I mean that for the men who don’t want to see an area they think of sexually, do anything other than be sexual. For the men who are squeamish about blood, you get a pass ;)]

    I had no preference on my husband’s view. My first birth (a home birth) happened so quickly that only our midwife arrives (assistant came after the baby was out) so he had no choice but to help hold my leg. I actually knew, during pushing, that the baby crowned, because his eyes got huge with amazement. Seeing that reflected on his face gave me the boost to do the last push! For my second (another home birth), he was mostly up near my head because I wanted to hold his hand (oddly enough, I didn’t want anyone touching me the first time around) but he did keep peeking during pushing to see the head pop out.

    Do perineum stretches with olive oil when pregnant. Do Kegels as soon as you can after. Don’t worry about anything during birth other than you and the baby. All will be well!

  18. Hilarious! Right after I delivered my son, my wife said out loud, “vagina’s are amazing!” I don’t remember much of what what said during my labor, but that sticks out in my mind as the most amazing praise any laboring woman should hear. I wish more husbands would think that way too.

  19. Rebekah says...

    My husband was an active participant in both births… rubbed my back, helped me breathe, held my hand. I think he saw my first daughter emerge :) Second one was underwater, so nobody got the full view, ha! He says the placenta was freakier than anything else… and to address a previous poster’s concern, our sex life has only gotten better with time (and babies). Birth doesn’t ruin us, it just changes us…. and who stays the same their entire life anyway?

  20. Ana says...

    Me and my partner cant wait for the birht of our son (the end of sept). I want him by my side and cant imagine he wouldnt be…its the most natural thing for me and him to be there…we share our most intimate parts of life and if we were both there while making the baby :), so its the most obvious and needed part of birht to be both present on that day :) I dont force him at all to watch it in front of me, I just need him to support and guide me…but he said, he will be everywhere aorund me :)

  21. Lauren E. says...

    I haven’t had kids yet myself so I’m not sure what my preference would be, but I do feel like it’s one of those “in the moment” decisions. A friend told me he watched his son born via c-section and it was traumatizing because “you see your wife all… taken apart.” He said his first reaction was to be worried for her!

  22. Janine says...

    I am a nurse and my husband used to work in the medical field. He was the greatest cheerleader ever. If he had passed out or been squeamish i would never had let him live it down! He was so helpful

  23. Ha! I didn’t care either. My husband could’ve set himself on fire while I was giving birth and I wouldn’t have noticed. I figured he was half the baby equation so if he wanted to look that was fine by me.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      hahahaha same here!

  24. I haven’t had kids yet, but I always tell my husband there’s no way I want him down there when it happens.

    Kristi | Be Loverly

  25. I have to say I agree with those who were annoyed. Like, guys, are you for real? Pushing a baby out of my vagina vs watching? Hmm… Which is more hard core? For real?

  26. Jill says...

    I love her annoyed face. Her comment was well-timed. I don’t think they got it though. *sigh*

  27. Amy says...

    My husband was scared to even be in the room when I was in labour with our first, so my mom left the hospital and gave him no choice but to man up and be in there and take care of me! (Go mom!) He did see our daughter come out – he said it was like a car accident; you can’t look away. He also declared he didn’t need to watch it happen the next time. Granted, I lost a lot of blood and they thought I ruptured my cervix, and I needed a lot of stitches inside and out after they decided I could get away without surgery. It was fairly gory.
    The second time he was there and he watched and was much more chill about the whole thing. Could be the fact that the whole ordeal was way less traumatizing – only one stitch! :)
    Next time I hope to catch the baby, unless he has some interest in doing it in which case I’ll definitely encourage it!

  28. I wouldn’t want my hubby heading anywhere down there either… I’ve heard some men have serious PTSD after the fact and hot sex just never happens again after that experience. When my middle sister Jan was in labor with my niece I was livid that she would not take the epidural. I spent all 13 hours not talking to anyone and just listening to spa music to stay calm and sane. After delivery she told me that the looking didn’t bother her, you just want things to go smoothly and your baby out safely whatever it takes. And that she had… I know natural childbirth is best, but I’m a C-section believer with hubs in the room all the way then. In praise of our wonderboys who stay in the room, actually do look, cut the cord, and are even sexier at the end of it all being great hubbies and dads!

  29. Annie says...

    I wasn’t sure I wanted my husband down there but in the moment I was so incredibly focused I didn’t care at all! I don’t think I even opened my eyes during the 20 min I pushed. He later told me that our baby crowning mostly looked like cottage cheese. 😳

    • Anna says...

      Me too! I gave birth at the start of a shift change and the room was full of med and nursing students!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      that is crazy/awesome/nuts. you guys are rock stars!

  30. Nora says...

    During our homebirth my husband had a “front and center” role… But I pushed her out on a birthing stool quickly so he didn’t get to see it from the in-your-face angle that I think he wanted to? Hah, he’s not squeamish in the least. My midwife’s assistant held a mirror though. I remember my midwife saying “here is her head! would you like to feel her head?” And I said “oh no no, no thank you, I will feel her head endlessly when it is completely out of my vagina!”

  31. Cindy says...

    This was pretty funny, especially the part where Cobie Smulders pipes up.

    Personally I wanted my husband to look. I couldn’t understand how he’d not want to see when his child was being born into the world. While I was pregnant with my first, he kept strong in the opinion that he didn’t want to look. He said he’d be there for the whole thing but thought it’d be a bit too gory/bloody/scary for him to look at. He promised he’d stay right up by my head and thought he might pass out if he looked. When it came time though, there was no way he couldn’t look. He was absolutely fascinated and not grossed out or squimish at all about it. He did cry for both of our sons’ births but, I’m pretty sure those were tears of joy.

  32. Danielle says...

    I had a c-section when the baby’s heart rate kept dipping during labor. Hubby was dutifully positioned behind the curtain next to my head until the doc said, “Hey dad! Stand up! Here he comes!” Could not believe my husband stood up to watch them pull our son out while I was cut open – I would have taken him for a fainter, but he was just so excited. He never said much about it, though, other than that it was “intense.”

  33. Roxana says...

    He looked, he saw, he conquered. I did not care. He held my legs. He held all of our children before I did. Our first son passed away shortly after birth, and my husband held him in his arms and told him how much we loved him and how proud we were of him. I was in shock. It was a horrible, horrible experience that I would never wish on anybody. I will never forget how awesome my husband was. We knew we would be losing our little guy when I went into labor. My husband had the presence of mind to talk to our son while he was still in my belly. He told him how much we loved him. I cry every time I remember it – like now.

    Then, by God’s grace, we had our second. He held my leg while I pushed. Our second little guy was born screaming. He went to the table and as soon as our son heard his voice, he stopped crying. Our daughter was born blue (cord around her neck) and my sweet husband almost fainted when he saw her. The NICU doctor caught him and reassured him that she was okay. And then daddy held his little girl.

    • Amy says...

      You’ve got me crying, too!

    • Julie says...

      Beautiful! I’m so sorry for your enormous loss. The way you write about it and the joys of your other babies is incredible.

    • Lauren E. says...

      Wow. Also tearing up over here… Sounds like your husband is a really great man.

    • Isabelle says...

      In tears too… Beautiful story, you are both amazing parents! I’m so happy for you about your little girl

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      this is beautiful, thank you so much for sharing your story, roxana.

    • gk says...

      Oh, Roxana. Me too. And I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter (my first) shortly after birth. Before giving birth, my husband had joked that he would hold my hands and stroke my hair but that he would not be looking. As life turns out, our baby was in distress and he did what he had to do – he held one of my legs as the midwife, doctors, and I all did our things. At that point, I don’t think *not* looking was an option for him – and I was so beyond anything, I didn’t give a crap who was looking where. It sounds like we had a little more time than you did, but in situations where your baby dies before you, even a lifetime would never have been enough.

      My husband also looked for the birth of our son, our second, who was also born screaming. The best sound in the world. Now at 17 months, our son still has a good set of lungs on him. Gotta remind myself in the middle of an epic tantrum what a blessing it is that he can scream and pitch a fit :)

    • Samantha says...

      I am so so sorry for your loss, and now I’m crying too!

    • Calliope says...

      You are incredible. To go through the marathon of labor knowing that horrible outcome awaits you at the end… You may be the strongest person alive.

  34. yael steren says...

    You have to watch Jim Gaffigan’s Mr. Universe special. The whole first half is about parenting and it’s hysterical!!! xo yael

    http://www.yaelsteren.com/blog/

  35. Desi says...

    Er. over HIS shoulder, not mine. I’m not that flexible, nor would that be a comfortable birthing position. Hahaha.

  36. Desi says...

    I don’t think I left him an option when I made him hold my leg over my shoulder while I was pushing. It was basically happening in his face.

  37. Oh, guys. I had a water birth at home and in the moment had no concept of modesty, not even one bit. When my baby started crowning the midwives asked if my hubs wanted to catch him, and he was like, “uh, sure?” and to my surprise he plunged his hands into the water all gung ho, and our boy came out into the water, into my husband’s arms, and then was put straight onto my chest. He hasn’t really left our arms since, 3 months later! :) It all happened very in the moment without any thought but I know my mr doesn’t regret getting to have such a cool role in what is a mind blowing and truly amazing experience.

  38. Laura says...

    I think it’s an old fashioned and, frankly, sexist idea that men should not “look.” My husband caught our son as he came out (and two years later, I caught our second), and I think the idea that the first hands to hold him were his father’s is so special. If a man can’t handle seeing a baby being born, maybe he’s not ready to be a father (or even with a woman, for that matter!)

    • Maggie says...

      I love your sentiment about having your husbands arms being the first to hold your child. I am extremely modest (probably to a fault) and didn’t want my husband anywhere near my lower half during childbirth, and I have to say he is absolutely the best father my kids could ask for. To each his own ;)

    • Roxana says...

      I completely agree. My husband held all of our children first, and there is something so sweet and right about that to me. I’m really thankful that it worked out that way for us.

  39. Sarah says...

    I didn’t want my husband to look and he agreed he didn’t want to see. But after getting the epidural at 2 am, the nurses set me up to rest and my husband up to sleep in the chair next to me. I was checked at 6 am and told it was time to start pushing. The midwife woke my husband and told him to splash some cold water on his face, it was go time. The bathroom was at the edge of the bed (!?) and when he came out a minute later I was in full push, baby crowning, minutes from popping out a little guy. He had no choice but to get the full show. It ended up being a blessing; he cried like a baby (more so, actually) and will now tell anyone who will listen about the magical miracle of birth.

  40. I really wanted my husband to be super involved…but he hates hospitals and needles, and bodily things. He almost passed out while I was pushing-it didn’t help that our sweet nurse asked him to hold my leg for the first few pushes! he could barely support the weight of my leg and looked the other direction before he said “I don’t feel well. I’m really dizzy.” So I made him sit down while my mom took his place. I wanted him to at least be in the room when our first child came into the world! He did not faint, and everything turned out perfectly!

  41. Laura C says...

    Two babies. Two C-sections.
    Unfortunately, my husband didn’t have that chance. But I would have liked to have him holding my hand instead of the -very kind, anyway -anesthetic.
    xxx

  42. I told my husband not to look, but then at the last minute told him that he could do what he wanted. With both of my births, I feel like it would have been much harder for my husband NOT to look…even though he was holding my hand up by my head, you can see most of it from there. It’s something that I have no desire to ever see myself, but it didn’t seem to phase my husband at all.

  43. Lin says...

    “They’ll do it up but it just won’t be the same.” Hahaha
    After I gave birth to my son I asked my husband to describe what it looked like. He made a long face and said, “Not good”. Haha! I think husbands should watch the birth. They should feel scared, excited, and in awe of what our bodies can do.

    • Lisa says...

      “They should feel scared, excited, and in awe of what our bodies can do.” THIS. YES!

  44. Lana says...

    My obgyn let my husband “catch” our second daughter. You’d have think he gave birth to her he told so many people about it and was so proud of himself. I’d be like, “I had her without any meds!!!” And he’d be like, “but you guys, I CAUGHT her.” Hahaha!

  45. With my third, not only did my husband watch the whole thing, I asked for a mirror so I could watch it all too. I’m so glad I did — it was pretty amazing! Not to mention that being able to watch your labor’s progress can give extra incentive to get through those last pushes because you can see that your hard work is well, working! (Disclaimer: I am not remotely modest and have an innate interest in the human body. Plus having had other kids I knew it all “goes back in place” afterward).

    • Lisa says...

      If we were ever to have a third – we don’t plan on it – I would look this time!

  46. jill c says...

    this is so funny! i had to have a c-section b/c of a very large uterine fibroid. during my delivery my nice (but slightly demanding dr) some how got my husband to see my whole uterus and fibroid – he was so taken off guard that i’m not sure he knows how it all happened. needless to say he can’t talk about it….

  47. Gretchen says...

    I hadn’t given it much thought with our first, but the midwife offered to put a mirror in our birthing pool for my husband to watch and he declined–too freaked out! In the moment I didn’t care one way or the other. When my daughter was born rather last year he said later that he had planned to watch this time but she came too quickly. I had assumed he still wouldn’t to and was secretly glad for my modesty, although I don’t think I would’ve prohibited him. It’s not every day you get to watch your child be born!

  48. Molly says...

    TEAM COBIE! I get that the men were trying to be funny, but seriously. While they’re busy trying to be hilarious & wise, she shut them all up with the truth. And I agree, it did make me annoyed. I think she was too.

    • andra says...

      yes! agreed :)

    • I agree! I think she looked visibly annoyed and I love that she didn’t force herself to laugh to be cool with the guys. I like to think I tend to have the same face on when stuck in a conversation of patriarchal bro-dom. ;)

  49. Mama says...

    Too funny! It’s true what he said though, first time round We were both too scared and traumatised to notice a damn thing, and unfortunately second time round was too fast for Husband to witness (he was still on the train back from London!) we’d love a third, but he’ll still be right by my earlobe the whole way through next time, where he belongs!!!!!

  50. Teree says...

    Here is my crazy story: for my first child, my doctor insisted that I have a mirror so I could see which pushes were ‘doing something’. So that was, , educational. But THEN, when the head was out, my doctor yelled at me, okay, now grab under his arms and pull him out. I looked at my husband, willing him to punch the doctor, and he just shrugged. But then the nurse was telling me that no one else would do it but me. So…I pulled my son out of myself. Yep, that happened…::flexes biceps::

  51. I love the pub comment! Hahaha too funny.
    I told my husband he could look if he wanted to but he DID NOT want to! I think he was a little freaked out about the whole thing. I think he looked a little with our first because he told me he saw that our daughter had a little hair. But he was definitely standing by my head when he saw so it wasn’t too bad. With our second, she came way too fast for him to do anything! He was standing next to me when suddenly by body started pushing and I was quickly rolled to my side to try and stop it (because the doctor wasn’t there yet). A moment later, I was on my back and popped out a baby…the nurse delivered her! It was her second baby EVER! So yeah, my husband didn’t have much time to take a look (I think he was pretty happy about that).
    www,sweetlytattered.com

  52. Erin says...

    AH! *too strong.

  53. Erin says...

    This video makes me oddly annoyed at the men – it wasn’t about you! Ha … to strong of a reaction, perhaps?

    • Lol no way, I felt the same, and from her face and comment, so did Cobie!

    • Agreed! I think that was Cobie’s point as well.

      My dad always talks about how uncomfortable HE was when I was born because the chair at the hospital gave him a backache. Really, Dad? Come on! He’d fit in well on this segment.

      Fun video, Joanna :)

    • Molly says...

      Totally agree! They were funny, but if a woman is sitting right there? That’s her arena, let her be the leader!

  54. Lily says...

    I saw this clip floating around a few days ago and honestly, I found it more frustrating than funny. (Was that just my experience, or did other readers lean towards that end of the spectrum too?) I’m having trouble coming up with a succinct explanation as to why–part of it is that it feels like all the guys are talking around Cobie as if she’s not even there until she finally speaks up to shut them down. The first thing I thought of was Rebecca Solnit’s “Men Explain Things to Me.”

    • Summer says...

      Yes!!! Like…why was she not included in the conversation to begin with? And when James said something about them ‘fixing it up, but it’s never the same again….’ soooo her vagina’s more undesirable now? It’s all so odd. I also agree with ^Erin’s post – “It’s not about you!”

    • Laura says...

      I’m SO with you!

    • I so agree Lily! Totally mansplaining. I find this attitude so sexist too. Our bodies are doing something completely natural when they’re giving birth (and something that men contributed to and hopefully wanted) and for guys to turn around and say, sorry I can’t see you in a sexual way now after going through that process is so frustrating and sad.

  55. Jennifer says...

    Ha, I bet if men gave birth, they’d be bragging about how much they tore and how many stitches they needed, saying how tough their vaginas are!

    • Fran says...

      Lily, I totally agree, and I’m a little surprised no one else has voiced this! I found the host pretty annoying — so man-splainy, with undertones of — probably unconscious — sexism. Lad humour, as we call it in the UK. And this image of the pub, to top it off… we’re not in the 1950s anymore! Although he tried to distance himself from it when Cobie got visibly upset. (Good for her for speaking up!) But seriously, these pervasive images of birth being a massacre that shocks men to no end and that they need to be braced for and protected from is so outdated. It limits women’s agency. I understand many women’s shyness and the fear of alien-style goriness of childbirth, including my own, but this whole “Did you guys actually *looked there*?!”…. meh! It’s 2015!

    • Viv says...

      Haha! So true, Jennifer!

    • Sam says...

      Completely agree, Jennifer! Childbirth would be viewed an astounding physical feat (which it absolutely IS) amongst men rather than a perceived “train wreck” BY men. They would surely tout the weight of the child, size of the head, and complications they overcame as trophies…

  56. I was the same way! I told my husband he shouldn’t look, but then the doctor called him over when our sweet babe was making her entrance into the world and he couldn’t help, but watch! The look on his face was priceless and I am so glad that he could share in that moment and then announce to me that we had a daughter!

  57. Speaking of looking…when my mother was born, my grandmother insisted that a mirror be held up so she could watch the birth! Even though I’m a mother twice-over, I still can’t decide if I would want to see that or not!

    • Lisa says...

      My midwife offered me a mirror and I said “hell no.” However, my husband did look with both births and I’m sure if I was observing someone else do it, I would look. It’s an amazing process

    • bess says...

      they tried the mirror thing for me too and man was that NOT helpful.

    • my midwife asked me to reach down and touch the head and i would NOT recommend that! as you know, baby’s heads are soft at birth and it just felt “yucky” to me, even though 2 minutes later with my daughter’s entire body out there was nothing yucky about her. but yeah, that touch… did not motivate me to keep going! ha

  58. I watched that too and had to show my husband a clip the next morning because we’re expecting our first baby. I’ve told him not to be at my business end but I probably won’t care either when the time comes!

  59. Farah says...

    With so many medical staff around and the labor pains, I could care less about who saw what. It’s a natural, experience that many, many, many, many women went through before I did.

    • Emily R says...

      I’d say he was mildly popular here, but who knows – maybe I’m in the minority.

    • Cathy says...

      haha. that was brilliant. thanks for the laugh.

    • bess says...

      I was wondering if he was referencing him, ripping him off, or if this was a common saying in England! But I didn’t notice the “uncle Robert” bit. hmm

  60. Louisa says...

    I am ridiculously modest and was so terrified of everyone seeing my business during childbirth. – But by the time I was in transition, I was completely naked, very loud, and did not care who saw what!

    When seeing that little head for the first time I think you can only feel awe . It’s the most amazing miracle. Don’t miss it!

  61. It´s hilarious!!! I don´t have a child and so I think a lot about getting pregnant and about one day giving birth to my child, and honestly, I don´t know what to expected (i guess like every new mum?!)… this video gave me a funny view of what to expect when you´re expecting ;-)

    Love from Germany and the fatcatconnection.com
    Sarah

  62. Stephanie says...

    Such a funny clip!

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