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What’s Your Personality Type?

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If you’re up for a distraction today, here’s something fun:

First off, have you taken the Myers-Briggs personality test? (Here’s mini version online, if you’d like to.) The results can be so spot-on, it’s uncanny. I’m an ENFJ personality, which basically means I’m chatty and bad at spending time alone, and Alex is an INFP, meaning he’s a deep thinker who can get lost in thought.

Well, this post about the definition of hell for each personality type made me laugh out loud. Is yours true? (Mine would actually be: “You are stuck in a room by yourself for the rest of eternity.” Kill. Me. Now.) And as long as we’re going down a rabbit hole, these quick descriptions of each personality are fascinating, and here’s what each personality type does at a party.

What’s your personality type? Do these ring true for you?

P.S. What your name says about your personality.

  1. Janet says...

    I’m an ENFJ too, Joanna. That must be why we get along so well! Wish we lived closer.

  2. Lacy says...

    I’m an INFP too. LOVE your posts. xo

  3. It’s weird – I have changed my personality type. When I first graduated college, we took the MB test at work – I was an INFJ. Now, many years later, I am an ENFJ. I think I just have become more comfortable in social situations.

  4. Wow! We have the same personality type. I don’t meet other ENFJs that often. My workplace is packed with ENTJs, which is definitely a noticeable difference…

  5. Jenny says...

    I’m an INTJ all the way and hell is absolutely saying something idiotic when I KNOW there is something brilliant trying to get out. So spot on.

  6. The Myers-Briggs test has always been a funny thing for me. I remember taking it at both the beginning and end of my freshman year in college and being called in by my counsellor to discuss why my results had changed, ha. It’s been many years since then and I’ve been a pretty consistent INFJ, but thankfully I’ve never had to counsel any drunk girls.

    http://disfordreamer.com

  7. I’m ESTJ (only the 2nd of your readers!) and the definition of hell (my previous job) was spot-on. I physically cringed reading it :)

  8. Sofia says...

    Hi, i’m an ENFP, the results were spot on…xoxo

    • I just took that test and I agree! So dead on.

  9. Joanna, the link to each personality type’s idea of hell was hilarious! I’m an INFJ and mine was “You are eternally damned to working for a morally corrupt company that aims to exploit the weak and generally degrade conditions for all of society.” Uncannily spot on. Made me laugh. Thanks.

  10. Definitely introverted. I imagine a lot of commenters on blogs like this are, since it seems easier in some ways to put yourself out there on the internet than face rejection in a more public arena :)

  11. CATHERINE says...

    Love those tests! I’m almost like Alex, I’m ISFP… Now I have to read what hell looks like for me!

  12. Anna says...

    Just recently I’ve been studying Myers-Briggs and then the Enneagram personality types, and as I flipped to your blog this morning, I wondered what Myers-Briggs type you. Et voila! ENFP.

    I’m an INTP and Enneagram 5 (thinker) with a 4 (artist) wing.

    These tests are very helpful in romantic relationships – especially marriage – and the workplace. They are even helpful in sensibly navigating and/or understanding interactions of all kinds, I’ve found.

    Thanks for the post!

  13. I love this test! I’ve taken it a few times at drastically different stages of my life and always get the same results – INFP. It’s sort of a comfort to think there are essential truths about ourselves that are unmoving even as our external circumstances change so much. Thanks for sharing!

  14. Heather says...

    This stuff is the best!!! Im ESFJ, and it’s so dead on. What I’d do at a party apparently is tell everyone’s secrets – burst out laughing and emailed that to a few friends who know their secrets aren’t safe with me!!

  15. Hilary says...

    I love a good personality test. They are always entertaining. I was a RA in college and as part of training the entire staff took a personality test called “True Colors.” The personalities were orange (the doers), blue (the feelers), gold (the organizers), and green (the thinkers). I’m a gold/green. Years later and my RA friends and I still use our colors to talk about each other and explain our personalities.

  16. INFJ…which is strange, because all of my friends would say I’m an extrovert, and I flirt with the cashiers…but I’ve always felt a bit of both. I like talking to people…but i like being able to leave & be on my own for a while too. I am definitely a ‘feeler’ though. And I don’t know if I “counsel” drunk girls in the bathroom, but….I do talk to them for a while :)

  17. Abby says...

    I got ENFJ too! Though, Joanna, the hell that you listed is for ESFP.

    The hell for ENFJ (Your loved ones are in dire need of guidance but every piece of advice you gives them inadvertently makes things worse for them.) is SOOOOO much worse for me than the thought of being in a room alone with no one else.

    Just copying/pasting that sentence stresses me out!!

  18. WhoaMG! All of those definition of hells are just about unbearable! The one about not being able to speak gave me the willies. Blahblahblahblahblah….

  19. Lauren E. says...

    So I took it, got ISFJ, started to read the description, and thought, “Wow… this is my mother.” So I sent it to her, and sure enough. We are the same! I think I’m going to send it to my dad and my boyfriend and see what they get. I’m so fascinated by this stuff.

  20. Anna says...

    Made me smile and think of this: http://cupofjo.com/2012/10/british-words/ when “spot-on” came up nearly 20 times in the comments and once in the post. But I have to admit, it’s a good phrase for the accuracy of results. :) (I lived in England briefly, and Alex’s article totally called me out. :))

  21. Whoops! I just saw Alex is an INFP. I’m way too into seeing couple’s Myers-Briggs personalities. I know a ton of couples with one introvert and one extrovert, but not many with two in the same like mine. So interesting to me.

    • Anna says...

      That article made me chuckle. It had to have been written by an INTJ.

      The criteria it requires is “scientific proof” and control groups and such. Left-brain bias revealed there. I have read that INTJ’s are the type that least likes to be labeled at a type.

      For the record, I think the author misses the point and is entirely myopic. Take the article with a huge grain of salt and decide for yourself what you think.

  22. My best friend is an ENFJ, too! I literally laughed out loud because that description of hell was TOO accurate for her. Funnily, I’m an INFJ and I found all the categories for INFJs listed to be true, especially:

    INFJ – Reluctantly holds a counseling session in the bathroom with some drunk girl they don’t know.

    THIS HAPPENS TO ME ALL THE TIME. My boyfriend is an INTJ. I wonder what Alex is!

  23. Laurie says...

    INFJ here as well… I think this is the most of us I’ve ever seen in any group. The description of hell and what I would do at a party are 100% accurate, at least in my case.

  24. This is fascinating to me! I used to hate that I was a more introverted person, but the older I get the more I’m starting to accept and love it. I don’t waste time anymore trying to be a social butterfly because it didn’t ever make me as happy as I wished it did ;) And totally distracting, I just spend 25 minutes down the rabbit hole on that lol.

    x. Morgan / Morning Apple

  25. As a counselor, I totally nerd out on this stuff. Thanks for all the fun links!

    Also, you’re either 1) attracting a lot of ENFJs to your blog (personality twins unite!), or 2) we’re all just a bit more sharesy about being ENFJ. :)

  26. Melissa says...

    INFJ speaking. The party article is SPOT ON.

  27. I’m an INFJ and the description of hell is spot-on:

    “You are eternally damned to working for a morally corrupt company that aims to exploit the weak and generally degrade conditions for all of society.”

    I couldn’t work for a company I thought was morally bankrupt. I’ve tried. I lasted 10 months!

  28. Turns out I’m INFJ, and the description of what my personality type does at a party (reluctantly counseling a drunk girl in the bathroom) is SPOT ON. That’s actually happened to me!

  29. isfp. everyone’s hurting my feelings and they don’t even care!

  30. I took this test a long time ago and the result, as you said was spot on. I’m an ISFJ!

  31. Loved this !!! While I was studying for my Masters degree in Counseling I took this test and tested many family members! Poor souls!! ha! It’s always fun to see how they recognize their own personality traits in the results.
    The definition of hell is great as well as what we would do at a party. I used to be an INFP but I’d have to take it again to see if I changed one of those letters through the years…I doubt it…Loved your post!

    Alina
    http://www.eclecticalu.blogspot.com

  32. (by the way : I am a MBTI maniac!!! I analyse everyone and it helps me so much! Sure it is a ENFJ thing!)

  33. Hi! So funny. My husband and me are just the same combo as you and Alex. :-) I have such a hard time getting him to express preferences. So hard to decide something (of course as a NF I want the best for us, not just for me and it drives me crazy !!). Do you face the same challenge ? :-)

  34. Barbara says...

    I’m an INTP. 25 years or so ago my entire family of 20+ took the Myers Briggs test at Thanksgiving. My mother administered it. It was crazy.

    That is indeed my hell, but that’s not my party

  35. dre says...

    I’m INFJ and the struggle is real!

  36. Allie says...

    I’m borderline E/I too! I usually test as ENTJ, but descriptions for it and for INTJ both hit home even though they’re wildly different. I think I’ve read that there are ambiverts who need both time alone and time with people in a balance. It’s true for me!

    • I am the same! I read ENTJ and thought yup.. then scrolled to INTJ and thought omg yes, this is so true too! Haha.

  37. Anne says...

    had to do this for work once. did it quickly again online. and scored ENFP again.
    So, I have to do the same task over and over again in solitarity. and I am the one making best friends forever with everyone I talked to for 5minutes at the party :)
    fits me quite well.
    have to force the boyfriend to do this, guess he’s somewhere close to the personality of your hubby :)

  38. I’m an ENFJ, too! I made my husband take it last year and discovered he’s an INTJ, basically a super logical thinker almost like Spock, and it truly helped me understand him better.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i totally agree, it’s fascinating how much more you can understand your partner, parents, co-workers… it’s surprisingly helpful.

  39. Elizabeth says...

    Seven years ago, unhappy with our current jobs, my now husband and I enrolled in a career workshop at the local tech college where half the class was spent taking and analyzing the Myers-Briggs. Our results came back (me, ISTJ – him, INFP), and after much research (haha) I kept coming back to library and information science. Well, within a few months I was enrolled in graduated school and I’m now happily working in the field. Highly recommend taking the test, it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      how fascinating!!! congratulations!

  40. Oh my God, I am an ENTJ and that was so spot on! In fact, I was in one of those situations this week and nearly died of frustration. ;)

  41. Carolina says...

    I’m INFP and yes, the description rings very true and the hell scenario even more so hah. For others out there who are also introspective like me, I so recommend this book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking”

  42. Lena says...

    I’m INTJ and the definition of hell is sooo true :D
    It’s also hell if “very time someone else opens his mouth something entirely idiotic comes out” ;) but that seems to be part of the INTJs’ struggles…

    • Christie says...

      I couldn’t agree more Lena! I came to the comment section to look for another INTJ haha

  43. Oh Joanna, I knew I felt a connection here for a reason. I too am an ENFJ. What fun we are! ;)

  44. Erica H. says...

    ENFJ, yo! It is pretty spot on :)

  45. helen says...

    I’m an ISFP … I can’t take criticism very well so yes the definition of hell is pretty accurate!!

  46. Jules says...

    I knew there was a reason I fell in love with your blog all those years ago… I am an ENFJ too!!!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      all right! high five through the internet. ;)

  47. I always forget what it is… I just took the test again and it’s INTJ. A fictional INTJ is Gandalf the Grey. Not bad. LOL

  48. KaMarlowete says...

    Since one of my degrees was in psychology, I had the joy of taking the Myers Briggs more than once (INTJ). The Definition of Hell thing is amusing. I chortled.

  49. Angela says...

    Admittedly, I didn’t click your link to see where it led because I just took a Meyers-Briggs test about 5 minutes ago from the website 16personalities, and I cackled a bit that you posted this today. :)

    All my life I got ENFP because I answered questions based on the things people said about me and the way people responded to me. I feel I was a little more honest this time about the way I actually am and ended up as ESTJ, which I find funny because it is 3/4 opposite of the personality I tested as before. I still feel as though I may fall somewhere in between, a mixture of the two, as the descriptions were not completely accurate.

    However, I always find it important to see these things as guidelines for helping you live well, rather than boxes in which to live. :)

  50. Joanna, you might really like the Enneagram. It’s a personality system like Myers-Briggs, but the types are numbered and have really fascinating descriptions and analyses. My favorite is that it provides clues and tips for understanding yourself when you’re healthy/unhealthy and what triggers those behaviors. It’s also super helpful for understanding other types and how to communicate better with people (especially helpful for spouses/partners!) https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/

  51. I lean toward INTJ (the rarest type!) but sometimes these quizzes give me ISTJ. The description on 16personalities.com and it is spot-on! I do have difficulty understanding emotional people, haha, but am working on it.

  52. “Reluctantly holds a counseling session in the bathroom with some drunk girl they don’t know.” Yup. Sounds about right! :)

  53. Eva says...

    I got ESFP. But actually, I think the definition of my personality type’s personal hell would be the one you mentioned, Joanna – i.e. “You are stuck in a room by yourself for the rest of eternity”, while the definition listed for your type, ENFJ, says “Your loved ones are in dire need of guidance but every piece of advice you gives them inadvertently makes things worse for them”..

  54. ha. I love those tests. I took it at 22, but can’t remember my results. Now at 38, I am ENFJ.
    Thanks doe posting.

  55. Hardcore INFP right here. It’s on my business card.

  56. We did this in university years back. I’ll never forget: ENFP. Still fits:)
    I just checked out the name site. Oddly enough, my and my children’s names (or spellings) are not listed! But the description of Koen, my husband, is spot on:)

  57. Maiken says...

    Hey Joanna! That’s awesome. I’m an INFP and my husband is an ENFJ. On one website I saw it break down which personalities make the best matches. INFP and ENFJ are the most compatible with each other! Cool how we pick the best ones for us huh? My friends and I are huge personality Myers Briggs fans and talk about it often. It’s fascinating.

  58. Zoe says...

    ENFJ – and so is my boss! Leads to a lot of great moments of, “Oh, I’m sorry this isn’t work related” with the other responding, “I don’t care! Pull up a chair!”

  59. katie says...

    ENFJ – with cusp-y aspects of INFJ. These totally ring true for me! I actually think I’m more of an INFJ as I get older, and certainly so post-work. I talk & listen all day for my job, so being alone is something I cherish. That said, I can’t enjoy myself if others are miserable; it’s taken a lot of work to not accept responsibility for the happiness of others. And the party behavior snippets? 100% accurate. I’ve done the exact descriptions for each type that fits me! Daaaaaaaaaaaang. Open book!

  60. INTP! It’s all so true….

  61. Heather says...

    hahahaha! I’m an INTJ and mine is spot-on! “Every time you open your mouth to say something intelligent, something entirely idiotic comes out instead.” (though they all sound pretty bad)

  62. Steph B says...

    Lol about the party description. I’m INFJ and I am always counseling someone in the bathroom. I once even bought an airplane ticket for a young girl so she could go home and escape her abusive boyfriend. And I just wanted to enjoy the cocktail party. Every. Single. Time. Ha!

  63. Katie says...

    I’m your exact opposite! ISTP.

  64. Rebekah Lozano says...

    I’m ISFJ and it’s definitely spot on for me. My personal hell is, “everyone you love is yelling at each other and it’s all your fault.” This has actually happened to me and it was probably the worst experience of my life. AND it lasted for months. It was awful!

  65. Like so many on here I’m the rare INFJ ! The description is very accurate and I didn’t expect it to be. I must get my husband to fill in his later on. He’s certainly not the same as me for sure. Chalk and the proverbial cheese :)

  66. The personal hell part was totally true! I don’t do well with no structure at all!

  67. Ella says...

    I got the same as you Joanna (ENFJ) and I think chatty and bad at spending time alone sums me up perfectly! So weirdly accurate!

  68. Meg says...

    “ISFJ – Everyone you love is yelling at each other and it’s all your fault.”
    Oh GOD, the horror! There’s so much wrapped up in this: need for logic/reason (there is a clear best way, why fight?), wanting solitude (NOT everyone you love at once) and quiet (NO YELLING), plus huge sense of responsibility and worry (I don’t want to screw anything up!). My heart is pounding just thinking about it!

    • My thoughts exactly!!!

  69. Vicky says...

    I love the photos you choose for each post!

  70. wendy says...

    love this post! enfp- every minute of the rest of your life scheduled into arbitrary, solitary tasks! hell indeed! heaven might be no time keeping + friends most of the time.

  71. these are so fun! spot on for my husband’s type. I’ve read better descriptions of mine – INFJ

  72. I’m a business graduate so I love Myers Briggs. My husband is a psychology professor so he hates it. Apparently it has been scientifically disproved but the business community doesn’t care and still uses it all the time. haha

    Her Heartland Soul
    http://herheartlandsoul.com

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      so interesting! still, they ring so true. my dad just sent me his and it was basically like reading a description of him *specifically* with all his quirks. so crazy.

    • Honeybee says...

      Psychology is the one field where Myers Briggs is never used – does that make anyone think?

      I did it for a leadership workshop a couple of months ago and wasn’t impressed. It was totally obvious what answers to choose in order to come across as tough management material.

  73. I’m ENFJ too! I am totallllllly with you, if I were alone in a room for the rest of eternity I would absolutely lose my mind. It’s funny though, I’m friends with a lot of INFJs… I wonder what that says about me?

  74. O my! Love the party descriptions. I’m INFJ and it’s so true.
    I just posted about this a little while ago because of how much Hubs and I learned about each other. It’s interesting how knowing eachothers personality types made us understand some of the “annoying” things each other does, and overlook them a little better.
    Thanks for a great post! Lots of fun

  75. I’ve always been so interested in these things! Every single time I take it, I’m a tie between ENTP and ENTJ (I just took it about 2 months ago) and this time, I decided to re-take it and I’m all of a sudden a ESFJ. I might have to look into this some more haha

  76. Jennifer says...

    I’m an ISFJ… and these are spot on.
    “Spends the evening holding back the hair of whichever of their friends starts puking first.”…no wonder I’d rather stay at home. Ha!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      good find! thank you!

  77. I consistently end up an INFJ when I take these tests, although I don’t always find that the description of an INFJ rings true for me (maybe I’m not very self-aware!). However, this one from Human Metrics hits a few things right on the nose, for example, I am a teacher in higher ed. A good resource for more detailed type descriptions, if anyone is interested:

    http://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/infj

  78. Sammie Ellwood says...

    SPOT ON: “ISFJ – Everyone you love is yelling at each other and it’s all your fault.” :/

  79. Sadie says...

    I’m an INTP, through and through, although the hand life dealt me has meant that I had to break out of my shell and deal with other people until I am no longer outwardly shy. I think that’s why the INTP hell doesn’t intimidate me. Plus, disinformation can be so interesting! :)

  80. Sam says...

    Definition of hell and party personality are eerily spot on for this ISTJ!

  81. Silvia says...

    Mine is true, but then again, more than half of those sound like hell to me… They’re just all really really bad scenarios! :)

  82. Erin says...

    I’m an ENFJ too. In general the descriptions seem in line with my personality, sometimes eerily so! Definitely agree with your version of hell. My N isn’t too strong though, so sometimes ESFJ seems closer… especially with the quick descriptions link you posted – I always want to play hostess!

  83. Another INFJ over here! Supposedly it’s the rarest personality type, but whenever posts/articles/threads like this pop up, it always seems like we swarm :) Read those “definitions of hell” a few days ago, and mine made me nauseous. However, as someone who thrives off long bouts of solitary time, anything involving “alone time” kinda sounded OK… :)

    • Lilly says...

      I am an INFJ too!

  84. INFJ. we’re supposed to be really rare, but seems like there are a lot of us reading a cup of jo. coincidence? probably not.

  85. Jess says...

    Spot on. I’m an INTJ – at parties I make sure to pace myself with water to minimize hangover effect. This is most effective with the pre-emptive Tylenol. Nerd life.

  86. Diana Witt says...

    ISTJ – Definition of Hell: “You are expected to complete a highly esteemed project with absolutely no guidance as to what’s expected of you.” (yup)

    ISTJ at a Party: “Stays mostly sober and low-key judges everyone else for acting like a drunken idiot.” (yup)

    Spot on.

  87. Kate says...

    I’m also a ENFJ and, yes, that does sound like hell to me. I think I’m definitely an ENFJ and for the most part, I’m happy with that. I’m a children’s librarian and my ability to connect with patrons of all ages has made me really successful in my field.

    I think my ENFJ creates the most issues in dating. I can talk to anyone, and because of that, I end up being the queen of rejecting men. I can go on a date with a guy, find myself bored and uninterested, and he walks away completely charmed and wanting a second date. That is really getting old.

    • Ellen says...

      I so agree with you. I am in a long-term relationship, but I often have this problem with friendships. I’d think of someone as an acquaintance, but due to my ENFJ leanings, people think we’re suddenly best friends and I find it hard to rein it back. I’m able to keep conversations going and I always remember peoples stories and ask them questions later, so I think that gives the impression of closeness that isn’t necessarily mutual. I think a lot of people are envious of those of us who can talk to anyone, but it can be exhausting…

  88. Natalie says...

    I love the MBTI and am a cerified practitioner. You might enjoy these “type heads”. The upside down heads indicate stress and are very helpful in understanding what puts you under stress.

    https://www.cpp.com/contents/type-heads.aspx

    • Jess says...

      Thanks Natalie. I’ve been looking for a graphic like this to show stressors! This is a great find for me!

    • Kate says...

      I was never sure that I was getting the right result (ISFJ) with these tests until I read those stressors.. HOLY ACCURATE!

  89. Tis says...

    “Somebody is wrong, and they’re directing a large group of people! You can’t do anything about it and will have to obey whatever inefficient policies they decide to implement.”
    OMG I have quit jobs in the past because of this!!

  90. Daniela says...

    The definition of hell is so painfully accurate, it made me cringe in front of the screen, and I’m still doing it! AAAAAGGGGHHHH!!!!!

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      making me laugh out loud!

  91. I’m INFP, like Alex! My boyfriend is also INFP… don’t know if that’s a good thing or bad thing… and yes the descriptions are spot-on

  92. Erin says...

    I’m an INFJ and the number of impromptu drunk counseling sessions with strangers I’ve been part of is incredible. That said, I identify with the ISTJ idea of hell. I’m shuddering just thinking about it.

  93. ENFJ! There’s a lot of truths to mine. I like to fix other people’s problems, though I’m not necessarily a “Smooth talking persuader”. My party personality says: “Frantically scans the room for anyone who looks lonely, then introduces him or her to every single person at the party.” I do like to find someone who doesn’t have anyone to talk to! Interestingly, I think my fiance is the opposite of me!

  94. I’m in INFJ, which probably explains why I relate to your perspective so well! The personality assessment is crazy accurate.

  95. I have always been a tried-and-true ENFJ, but I just took it twice and got ISFJ.

    I think it’s because since I have a “bubbly” personality, I always believed I had to be an all-out extrovert. Lately, I’ve come to realize that lots of people actually stress me out and make me nervous. I’d much rather be in a one-on-one situation.

    Funny how we change and grow, and I hope we never stop.

    • Emily says...

      I changed from a long time “e” to and “I” this time. It’s only in the past year or so that I’ve realized how much alone time I need and value.

    • Joanna Goddard says...

      i’ve read that the major difference between introverts and extroverts is where you get your energy. do you feel energized after being around people or drained and in need of some alone time? apparently, that’s the big tell. fascinating, right?

  96. Dee says...

    I’m INFJ, and all of these are dead on (especially my definition of hell: “You are eternally damned to working for a morally corrupt company that aims to exploit the weak and generally degrade conditions for all of society”).